Episodios

  • Black Friday, Cul de Sacs and Happy New Next

    Black Friday, Cul de Sacs and Happy New Next
    Jan 26 2026
    Summary:
    In this first episode of the year, the guys crack open the idea of what it means to be new—not just with gym memberships and resolutions, but deep in the rewiring of old patterns, assumptions, and emotional blind spots.
    Dan kicks things off by admitting his old “default setting” was to walk in the door wondering what he’d done wrong—proof that sometimes the battlefield is the hallway between the garage and the living room. From there, Jeremy confesses his own default: being right about everything. But a surprising comment from his son at a hockey game (“There’s so much more going on than what’s on TV”) hits him like a puck to the head and opens up a whole new way of seeing relationships.
    Kevin brings in the pastor’s line, “Do you want to be right, or do you want to win?”—and discovers that relational victory doesn’t always mean keeping score. Dan, meanwhile, reflects on curiosity as an antidote to assumption, while Jeff learns that geology may rock, but people matter more.
    Between dad jokes about rock stars, cul-de-sacs, and Fraggle Rock sing-alongs, the group lands somewhere between reflection and revelation:
    Becoming aware of your patterns.
    Accepting feedback without self-defense.
    Taking action toward connection, not correction.
    By the end, they circle back to hope. If yesterday was about living on autopilot, this year is about choosing manual drive. “Participating in my own discovery,” Dan quips, “gives me the opportunity to participate in my own recovery.”
    So whether you’re trying to read a face, repair a marriage, or just survive mornings before coffee, this conversation reminds you—every default can be rewritten.
    Pull Quotes
    “There’s so much more going on than what’s on the screen.”
    “Do you want to be right, or do you want to win?”
    “Participating in my own discovery gives me the opportunity to participate in my own recovery.”
    #justtheguys #danholmes #actuallyautistic #neurodiversecoupletips #neurodiverse men
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    42 m
  • PART 1 - Is your NeuroDiverse Christian Coach_Counsel Gold Standard with ND Peer Panel

    PART 1 - Is your NeuroDiverse Christian Coach_Counsel Gold Standard with ND Peer Panel
    Jan 19 2026
    42 m
  • NEW Lens NEW Perspective: NeuroDiversity is the New Piece Not the Only Piece

    NEW Lens NEW Perspective: NeuroDiversity is the New Piece Not the Only Piece
    Jan 12 2026
    New year - new you- or at least a new perspective of yourself and your neurodiverse marriage! So many times, once the diagnosis is made, the sole focus can become the autism/neurodiversity, but Dr. Stephanie & Barbara talk about the many complexities that make up a neurodiverse Christian marriage!
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    51 m
  • Atomic Habits for the New Year for Your NeuroDiverse Relationship Part 1

    Atomic Habits for the New Year for Your NeuroDiverse Relationship Part 1
    Jan 5 2026
    It's 2026, and Dan and Stephanie start our podcast series this year on Atomic Habits. The month of January is all about NEW! Remember, Patreon is new! Part 2 of the discussion is on Patreon.
    In Atomic Habits, James Clear reminds us that real change doesn’t come from dramatic overhauls but from small, consistent actions that add up over time. For neurodiverse marriages, this principle is especially powerful. Many couples feel stuck because change seems overwhelming or unpredictable. But Clear’s 1% rule—tiny improvements repeated daily—offers a realistic, hopeful path forward for both partners.

    Clear also emphasizes identity formation, teaching that habits don’t just shape what we do; they shape who we believe we are. “Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” This aligns beautifully with the work Dan and Stephanie bring in from Dr. Jim Wilder, who teaches that identity is formed through relational attachment, joy, and repeated experiences of being our best self with others. When neurodiverse couples practice small relational habits—brief check-ins, shared cues, predictable routines—they aren’t only improving communication; they're also building trust. They are reinforcing a shared identity as a couple who grow, learns, and repair together.

    Starting small is essential for neurodiverse relationships. A five-minute conversation, one shared calendar habit, a single expression of appreciation, or one consistent environmental cue (like a reminder note or visual schedule) can be far more effective than trying to overhaul everything at once. Slow, steady repetition makes habits dependable, which builds trust and safety—core needs for both neurodiverse and neurotypical partners.

    The message is simple and deeply encouraging: meaningful change in a neurodiverse marriage doesn’t require perfection or intensity. It requires small, steady steps and a shared commitment to becoming the couple God is forming you to be—one daily habit at a time.
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    35 m
  • From Victim Mindset to Staying Well in your Neurodiverse Marriage with Leslie Vernick

    From Victim Mindset to Staying Well in your Neurodiverse Marriage with Leslie Vernick
    Dec 29 2025
    50 m
  • Diagnosed with Autism As a Practicing Psychiatrist with Dr. Stacy Greeter

    Diagnosed with Autism As a Practicing Psychiatrist with Dr. Stacy Greeter
    Dec 22 2025
    Today, Dr. Holmes talks with neurodivergent psychiatrist, Dr. Stacy Greeter.

    Topics discussed:
    Dr. Greeter's diagnosis journey at the age of 40 as a practicing psychiatrist.
    Growing understanding of Autism
    Myths about Autism
    Different presentations of girls/women in Autism
    Gender Fluidity & Autism
    Medications and How to be a psychiatric patient and advocate for yourself as an autistic patient
    About our Guest:
    Dr. Stacy Greeter is board-certified in both child/adolescent and adult psychiatry. She collaborates with children, adults, and their families to design a comprehensive individualized treatment plan.
    Dr. Greeter graduated summa cum laude from Duke University, where she was inducted into the Phi Beta Kappa Honor Society and received her Doctor of Medicine degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill under the Morehead Medical Scholarship. During her undergraduate and medical training, Dr. Greeter conducted extensive clinical research funded by the Howard Hughes Medical Institute on autism and on OCD. She completed both her adult studies and her child and adolescent subspecialty training at Northwestern University in Chicago, where she trained with nationally and internationally renowned psychiatrists. She is also certified in Internal Family Systems Therapy.
    More info: https://www.stacygreetermd.com/about-us
    Disclaimer:
    When we have guests on the ASR podcast, they are recognized for their expertise in autism as advocates, self-advocates, clinicians, parents, or other professionals in the field. They may or may not be part of the faith community; having a guest on the broader topic of autism does not reflect complete agreement with the guest, just as many guests may disagree with our faith perspective. Guests are chosen by topic for the selected podcast discussion and are not necessarily in complete agreement with all the beliefs of the selected guest(s).
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    48 m
  • Showing Up With Your Own Face Faith, Masking, and the Autistic Pastor

    Showing Up With Your Own Face Faith, Masking, and the Autistic Pastor
    Dec 17 2025
    In this powerful and deeply introspective episode of Just the Guys, host Dan Holmes sits down with pastor, musician, and spiritual director Josh Davis—also known as the “Autistic Pastor.” Josh shares his personal journey from a masked life of ministry and performance to one of authenticity, self-discovery, and spiritual transformation following his autism and ADHD diagnosis in adulthood.
    Together, they explore themes such as:
    The mental toll of lifelong masking and how dropping the mask opened up a more vivid, emotionally connected life.
    Discovering new ways to connect with God that honor neurodivergent wiring—including journaling, songwriting, and contemplative walking.
    Reimagining spiritual practices beyond traditional “quiet time” models and embracing embodied faith.
    The role of music, special interests, and authentic emotional expression in spiritual growth.
    What it means to show up to God—and others—with your own face, not someone else’s version of what faith should look like.
    This is a rich conversation for anyone exploring their identity, navigating neurodivergence, or longing to experience God in more personal, integrated ways.
    📌 Resources Mentioned:
    Josh’s podcast: Neurodivergent Faith
    Series: “Connecting with God in Neurodivergent Ways”
    Book: Practicing the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
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    57 m
  • Confessions of the Christian Alcoholic with Jon Seidl

    Confessions of the Christian Alcoholic with Jon Seidl
    Dec 15 2025
    About:
    Today, Dan and Stephanie interview Jon Seidl, author of Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic. Neurodivergent men are 9 times more likely than their non-neurodivergent peers to develop an alcohol or substance use/abuse problem. The later in life diagnosed neurodivergent man (with ADHD or ASD) with a co-occurring issue of anxiety and or depression is the most vulnerable to alcohol or substance use, and the risk is higher for those who have suffered untreated childhood trauma. Hear our heart- this is not about shaming or blaming, this is about your healing and being set free! Jon talks about getting to the root of the problem: "Drinking is not the problem to solve- the unresolved issue that leads you to drinking is the problem to solve." As Leslie Vernick has said, "Drinking is not a marriage work issue. It is an individual issue that causes marriage problems."
    Dan and Stephanie feel passionately that marriage work should not be the focus of a couple if there is an active alcohol or substance issue.
    For the last 15 years, Jonathon M. Seidl (Jon) has been telling stories. In fact, he’s written over 10,000 posts in his lifetime, first after helping start the top-50 news site TheBlaze in 2010, then as the editor-in-chief of the popular non-profit I Am Second. He writes, speaks, and consults on the power of storytelling, radical vulnerability, faith, mental health, and addiction.
    In 2024, he revealed his own struggle with alcohol, explaining how he was the Christian who became an alcoholic, not the other way around. His personal story—from spiraling into addiction to how he climbed out of it— is the focus of his next book, “Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic,” slated for release on October 7, 2025.

    His previous book on anxiety, “Finding Rest,” instantly became a #1 Amazon bestseller, topping the charts in several categories like anxieties and phobias, mood disorders, and obsessive compulsive disorder. In fact, it shot up to become the #17 new release on all of Amazon and became a top 100 bestseller on all of Amazon as well.

    Jon has seen how the power of storytelling and radical vulnerability can transform people, businesses, and culture, especially after sharing his own story of battling anxiety, OCD, and alcoholism. His passion is to help people with mental health struggles and addictions, while also sharing what he’s learned, telling stories for—and working with—some of the media’s biggest names and organizations, including Arthur Brooks, Glenn Beck, Kirk Cameron, and Chip and Joanna Gaines.

    In addition to his writing, he consults businesses, leaders, and non-profits on how to tell their stories through his digital media and content creation firm, The Veritas Network, and runs a daily devotional called The Veritas Daily. He’s also currently finishing his master's in theological studies from Southwestern Seminary (SWBTS) and will graduate in December 2025.

    Originally from Wisconsin, he lives in Frisco, TX, with his wife, Brett, and his young children, Annie and Jack.
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