Episodios

  • Diversity, Differences & Disabilities & The Church Pt.1

    Diversity, Differences & Disabilities & The Church Pt.1
    Mar 16 2026
    40 m
  • Navigating the Church and the Courts Leaving an Abusive Marriage with Sarah McDugal

    Navigating the Church and the Courts Leaving an Abusive Marriage with Sarah McDugal
    Mar 9 2026
    Continuing this month's theme of the CHURCH and how she supports the marginalized, hurting, and least of these. Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barb talk with Sarah McDugal about women and children in abusive situations, navigating the courts and the Church.

    About Sarah, in her own words:
    BIO:
    I’m Sarah McDugal, co-founder of Wilderness to WILD and the TraumaMAMAs mobile app.
    I’m an author, coach, survivor, and TraumaMAMA.
    As an autistic woman and survivor of both domestic violence and child sexual assault -- my hyper focus is developing gentle, proven resources for women who want to heal after toxic and traumatic stress.
    I'm trained in:
    the Deceptive Sexual Trauma Model, and
    APSATS (the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists)
    And I'm a Certified Assessor with the Johns Hopkins Danger Assessment.
    Some of my books include:
    He Chose Porn Over Me: Women Harmed by Men Who Use Porn
    Myths We Believe: Predators We Trust
    One Face: Shed the Mask, Own Your Values, and Lead Wisely
    My goal is to provide accessible, affordable, authentic tools to guide you out of the wilderness of abuse, into the WILD thriving post-trauma life that waits ahead.
    How to find out more!

    Check out what I’m doing for (almost exclusively) ND protective parents these days: www.myfreedomnavigator.com
    the SCOOP - Group Coaching Membership
    www.wildernesstowild.com/the-scoop
    Righteous or Rotten? How to know if it is biblically bad enough to divorce
    https://www.wildernesstowild.com/unholy-fruit-your-wild-guide-to-discerning-toxic-character
    Her two websites:
    https://www.wildernesstowild.com/
    https://www.myfreedomnavigator.com/
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  • Neurodiversity & The Church

    Neurodiversity & The Church
    Mar 2 2026
    This month, we are focusing on autism/neurodiversity faith issues and the church!

    Starting out the month with permission from a former guest, Josh Davis, we are airing his "What Autistics Want the Church to Know."
    Dan and I introduced this topic for March, sharing a story from our daughter from our book Embracing the Autism Spectrum, and part 2 of our personal stories will be on Patreon. NeuroDiverse Christian Couples: Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family
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    46 m
  • When Pride & Shame Heal, Love Grows

    When Pride & Shame Heal, Love Grows
    Feb 23 2026
    February is the month of love- what is real love- real hesed- sacrificial love? How did Adam love Eve?

    Today is not our usual crew, but a discussion with guest Russell Grigsby about a book that radically changed his mindset about loving his wife well.

    In this episode of Just the Guys, Dan sits down with entrepreneur and executive coach Russell Grigsby to talk about late-in-life autism diagnosis, trauma, pride, and the hard work of rebuilding a marriage. Russell shares how childhood wounds, avoidant attachment, and unrecognized autism shaped his relationships — and how confronting shame, embracing humility, and rethinking biblical leadership transformed his life at home. Through books, prayer, coaching, and intentional growth, he learned to stop trying to fix his spouse and instead take responsibility for his own healing. The result is a marriage marked by safety, connection, and hope. This conversation is an honest look at what happens when a man chooses humility over defensiveness and growth over comfort.

    Books Mentioned:
    • Mending the Soul Groups found at: MendingthesoulFind a Group

    • Adam loves Eve

    • Escaping Enemy Mode

    • Brene Brown's books on Shame and Vulnerability

    About Russell:
    Russell is passionate about encouraging others to fulfill their destiny. In one-on-one settings, Russell helps men and women discover what they are designed to do and then pursue their calling. After receiving an MBA from SMU in 1982, Russell began his career in commercial banking in Austin, Texas. After six years in banking, he joined a series of startups as CFO. He discovered he loved the startup process and began founding and running his own companies.

    Since 1993, he has run financial services, biotech, real estate, and mining companies. He loves building new businesses and creating a vision for their success. Russell is excited to work as a C12 Chair and call on his long entrepreneurial career to help others accomplish their God-given dreams. He loves meeting with people one-on-one to hear their stories and hear about their calling.

    Along the way, Russell has passionately pursued intimacy with God. As a follower of Jesus since 1967, Russell has had a profound relationship with God that continues to grow daily. He is a retreat speaker and loves to teach about living with greater power and authority as a believer in Jesus.

    Russell and his wife, Gina, live in Southwest Austin. They share five grown sons and a daughter.
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    51 m
  • PART 2 - Is your NeuroDiverse Christian Coach_Counsel Gold Standard with ND Peer Panel

    PART 2 - Is your NeuroDiverse Christian Coach_Counsel Gold Standard with ND Peer Panel
    Feb 16 2026
    Welcome back to part 2 of the Gold Standard of Care!

    If you did not hear part one, go back to January 19th to hear the panel introductions and what we believe is the Gold standard of care! We talk through some myths and stereotypes and share some truths about autism/neurodiversity and marriage.

    Jeremy tackles: Should you force a neurodivergent partner to undergo assessment?
    Barbara: Neurodiversity is not the ONLY issue in your marriage.
    Jenilee: Autism can express itself differently in girls/women
    Robin: Emotional Regulation is part of Executive Function and is not a character issue
    Shawna: It is a fallacy that ND people should be encouraged to watch porn to learn how to have sex or what
    their spouses would like in their intimate life
    Dan: While you may never achieve the level of empath as an ND/AS husband, you can become more relational
    Stephanie: What is the cause of autism? How to read research critically.

    The study Dr. Stephanie mentions that holds a high standard of research credibility: Association of Genetic and Environmental Factors With Autism in a 5-Country Cohort

(2019)

    FULL study available: journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/2737582
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    45 m
  • Only Chasing Safety Humanizes Both Spouses with Jeremy Rochford

    Only Chasing Safety Humanizes Both Spouses with Jeremy Rochford
    Feb 9 2026
    Today, our guest is Jeremy Rochford of NeuroFM and a fellow Neurodiverse couples' coach! Jeremy is a regular on Just the Guys, and today he talks about his coaching model, Only Chasing Safety (OCS). Why is safety important, and is it okay to rob someone else's safety for your safety?
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    43 m
  • How and Who You Love Shapes Who You Are

    How and Who You Love Shapes Who You Are
    Feb 2 2026
    Today, in the month of love, we talk about sacrificial love in your neurodiverse marriage. Many view this month of love and Valentine's Day as a day for big romantic gestures, but what about living out love every day? How is your love beneficial and sacrificial without giving up yourself? Dying to yourself does mean abandonment of self, but often there are competing needs and wants in an ND marriage.

    Part 2 will be on Patreon, and we will share more of what is going on in our personal lives, how, and what this means for us right now!

    Are you able to join hands or lock arms in hard times? Are you walking through life as friends, lovers, enemies, or strangers?
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    32 m
  • Black Friday, Cul de Sacs and Happy New Next

    Black Friday, Cul de Sacs and Happy New Next
    Jan 26 2026
    Summary:
    In this first episode of the year, the guys crack open the idea of what it means to be new—not just with gym memberships and resolutions, but deep in the rewiring of old patterns, assumptions, and emotional blind spots.
    Dan kicks things off by admitting his old “default setting” was to walk in the door wondering what he’d done wrong—proof that sometimes the battlefield is the hallway between the garage and the living room. From there, Jeremy confesses his own default: being right about everything. But a surprising comment from his son at a hockey game (“There’s so much more going on than what’s on TV”) hits him like a puck to the head and opens up a whole new way of seeing relationships.
    Kevin brings in the pastor’s line, “Do you want to be right, or do you want to win?”—and discovers that relational victory doesn’t always mean keeping score. Dan, meanwhile, reflects on curiosity as an antidote to assumption, while Jeff learns that geology may rock, but people matter more.
    Between dad jokes about rock stars, cul-de-sacs, and Fraggle Rock sing-alongs, the group lands somewhere between reflection and revelation:
    Becoming aware of your patterns.
    Accepting feedback without self-defense.
    Taking action toward connection, not correction.
    By the end, they circle back to hope. If yesterday was about living on autopilot, this year is about choosing manual drive. “Participating in my own discovery,” Dan quips, “gives me the opportunity to participate in my own recovery.”
    So whether you’re trying to read a face, repair a marriage, or just survive mornings before coffee, this conversation reminds you—every default can be rewritten.
    Pull Quotes
    “There’s so much more going on than what’s on the screen.”
    “Do you want to be right, or do you want to win?”
    “Participating in my own discovery gives me the opportunity to participate in my own recovery.”
    #justtheguys #danholmes #actuallyautistic #neurodiversecoupletips #neurodiverse men
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    42 m