Today, you're going to use 3 evidence-based IFS principles to learn how to quit porn by making friends with the addict part of your brain.

IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy is a powerful framework for overcoming addiction. It takes a non-traditional approach that has been studied and utilized for 40 years, and has been shown to be highly effective.

Using this approach, you'll discover how to make peace with the part of you that has consistently led you to porn addiction - this part that creates destruction in your life right now.

You’re going to learn how to make it your ally, your best friend, something that actually helps you rather than hurts you.

If that sounds strange, don't worry—I’ll explain exactly how this works.

If you’re like I was during the many years I was addicted to porn, you’ve likely become tired and frustrated with this addict part of your brain that keeps acting against you. You've been fighting it and trying to shut it up.

In order for you to quit porn, your frustration and fighting needs to end, and you need to become connected with this addict part of you, and see it with more clarity and understanding. Only then can you redirect it down a positive path, and overcome porn addiction.

The label “Porn Addict” does not define you

You’re a good man. I want to say that upfront. I remember feeling worthless, like I was a terrible person and that's why I couldn't stop porn.

You might think, "Jake, that's not true. I'm a bad person. Look at everything I've done." I used to tell myself those things too. There was a time I wanted to take my own life. And I came out of it, and am a better person because of those struggles.

You just have some habits that aren’t serving you or the people around you. You have this part of you, this addict part, that takes control sometimes. Instead of the real you—the good you—being in the driver’s seat.

This addict part takes over, leaving you in the backseat wondering, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I control myself? Why do I keep doing this to my wife and kids? Why do I know better but not do better?”

You are destined for a greater life. You just need the right tools and strategies.

You'll learn them in today's episode.


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What if you had a mental toolbelt to stop porn cravings and overcome fantasizing and lust habits? Today, I’m going to give you exactly that.

By the end of this episode, you will have 7 tools to overcome fantasizing and lust, so you can beat porn cravings and stop wanting pornography. But - just like anything - in order for them to work, you have to apply them.

Imagine you’re at the gym and you see a girl in her gym outfit, or you’re browsing online and see some ad pop up with a woman in a bathing suit, or you’re walkin’ down the street and you see a girl with short-shorts and cleavage.

Many of these situations can be very challenging when you’ve struggled with porn addiction and you’re trying to get sober. You may feel sick of these triggers popping up around you, and you may think if you can just avoid them then you won’t be tempted to watch porn.

But the answer to handling these triggers, and working through porn cravings, fantasizing, and lust is not avoidance. Instead, it’s about having mental strategies to think through triggers and cravings.

It’s about building psychological habits - new mental processes - to replace the default mental processes that are leading to porn relapse.

It’s easy to let the mind wander and focus on lust and fantasies. Most men do this. But these thoughts don’t serve you or those around you, nor do they help you become the strong, capable, and courageous man, husband, and father that you want to be.

Overcoming these default mental habits of fantasizing, lust, and craving is challenging (I won’t lie!), but it’s also something that anyone can do. It’s something that you can do. I’ll show you how.

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When my porn addiction recovery story started a decade ago, I believed that the cravings for porn were my main enemy. I thought that if I could just resist these urges, I’d be free.

However, through years of working with men around the world and diving deep into my own experiences, I've come to understand that these cravings are merely symptoms of deeper issues.

The true battle lies in preventing these cravings from emerging in the first place.

Today, I share how to overcome porn addiction using practical, in-the-trenches solutions and strategies to not only stop porn addiction symptoms, but remove the desire for porn.

You will come away understanding the types of thoughts and emotions that fuel cravings for porn, as well as how to break porn addiction using daily practices that anyone can learn and apply.

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