How did you realize they weren't the one for you?

How did you cope with the heartbreak?

Today shares a detailed exploration of the emotional journey involved in recognizing and accepting that someone you once believed was "the one" for you, wasn't actually the right person. Often, it’s common for people to convince themselves that someone is the perfect partner, even before that person has committed or shown signs of being a suitable match. This can lead to heartbreak when the relationship fails, but it’s okay because the person wasn't truly right for them either.

Jay also discusses the importance of understanding whether the person was truly healed from past wounds or whether they were presenting a version of themselves that wasn’t authentic. Consider the idea that sometimes people stay in relationships out of fear of being alone rather than genuine love or connection. And if a partner is unable or unwilling to engage in meaningful conversations, they might not be the right person.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to recognize when someone isn't right for you

How to focus on your partner's reality, not ideals

How to prioritize meaningful conversations

How to stay self-aware after a breakup

How to balance emotions in a relationship

Remember, it's okay if someone wasn't the one for you—what matters most is that you remain true to yourself and continue to seek the love and connection you deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:54 They Weren’t For You and That’s Okay

05:04 #1: When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

09:09 #2: They Never Showed Up When It Mattered

10:55 #3: They’re Still Healing

12:41 #4: They Kept Saying We Can’t Do This

16:37 #5: You Were Chasing the Whole Time

18:53 #6: They Made You Feel Detached

19:13 #7: You Are More Scared Of Being Alone Than Be With Them

20:58 #8: They Couldn’t Open Up in Meaningful Conversations

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How do you help your children build confidence?

How do you teach your kids to be resilient?

Today, Jay welcomes Dr. Aliza Pressman. Aliza is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and healthcare providers. She is the host of the Raising Good Humans podcast and an expert in parenting strategies and child development. Dr. Pressman is also the author of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, where she offers practical advice and insights for parents looking to raise emotionally resilient and well-rounded children.

Aliza begins by discussing whether everyone should become a parent and emphasizes the importance of being intentional and reflective before making that decision. She suggests that potential parents should think about their own values and how they want to approach parenting. She explains that having a strong, secure bond with a child is crucial for their development and that this bond can evolve over time, even if there have been mistakes along the way.

Some children are more sensitive and require a specific environment to thrive, while others are more adaptable. She encourages parents to be mindful of their child’s unique needs. The discussion moves on to discipline and encouragement. Dr. Pressman suggests that discipline should focus on teaching rather than punishing, with clear boundaries set for the child’s safety and well-being. When it comes to building confidence, she emphasizes that helping children develop skills (competence) is more effective than simply giving praise.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to handle parenting guilt and shame

How to set boundaries for your child

How to build your child’s confidence

How to discipline effectively

How to foster independence in your child

How to build a secure attachment with your child

By focusing on building secure attachments, setting clear boundaries, and fostering independence, parents can create a nurturing environment where their children can thrive.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:57 Should Everyone Be a Parent?
• 04:29 How Do We Get to Be Who We Are?
• 05:50 Secure Attachment Relationship
• 07:15 Feeling of Guilt and Shame as a Parent
• 11:07 Tiny Moments to Build Resilience
• 15:31 The Tendency to Overcorrect
• 17:03 What is Effective Reflection?
• 21:44 Learn to Reflect with Your Children
• 26:31 Failure as a Parent
• 31:14 Different Forms of Communication with Children
• 35:10 What is the Right Approach to Discipline?
• 39:10 Three Parenting Styles
• 41:36 Tension and Rejection Can Be a Motivation
• 45:34 Dealing with a Child Who Doesn’t Want to Open Up
• 50:12 Your Presence is Important
• 51:46 How to Have a Social Media Conversation?
• 57:12 How to Raise a Confident Human?
• 01:01:40 Allow Kids to Showcase What They Learned
• 01:05:53 Adults Can Work on Themselves
• 01:07:23 Aliza on Final Five

Episode Resources:

• Dr. Aliza Pressman | Website
• Dr. Aliza Pressman | Instagram
• Dr. Aliza Pressman | Facebook
• Raising Good Humans
• The 5 Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans

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How often do you check your phone daily?

Do you feel anxious when you’re away from your phone?

Today, Jay addresses the growing concern of excessive phone and internet usage, exploring its detrimental effects on mental and physical health. He begins by explaining how activities like swiping, liking, and commenting on social media provide our brains with dopamine hits, which can create a cycle of dependency and compulsive behavior. Despite the benefits of technology, such as increased connectivity and access to information, many people feel less connected and more distracted, anxious, and impatient.

Jay elaborates on the neurological aspects of dopamine and its role in pleasure-seeking behaviors, emphasizing that problems arise when we expect constant rewards from our online activities. He draws parallels between the brain's response to food and its response to digital consumption, advocating for a balanced approach that avoids overindulgence in either.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to become more conscious of your internet use

How to have wifi-free meals

How to replace morning phone use with healthier habits

How to stay mindful when using technology

How to engage in a cell phone detox

The ultimate goal is to create a healthier, more intentional relationship with technology, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:46 On Your Phone All the Time?

05:32 Losing Control Over Phone Use

06:19 Six Steps to Phone Detox

07:01 Dopamine

11:23 People Aren’t As Happy As Before

13:39 How Often Do You Check Your Phone?

14:27 Cortisol

17:26 Step 1: Become More Conscious

19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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