In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships.

During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported.

Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you?
• Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others?
• Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age.
• Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion.
• By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying “no,” even when it might disappoint others.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself.
• Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being.
• Practice saying “no” lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits.
• Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

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• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Tina, who struggles with fear and doubt regarding her dreams of finding a partner and starting a family.

At 41, Tina has done significant personal work to connect with herself and remain grounded in her feminine energy. However, she often experiences panic and doubt, mainly when influenced by external messages about age and time. Through their coaching session, Christine helps Tina explore the root causes of her panic and teaches her how to form a deeper connection with her inner child. This approach enables Tina to navigate her fears more effectively and stay aligned with her desires.

Christine explains that Tina's fear and panic are not just obstacles but are rooted in protective mechanisms formed in her childhood. By addressing these fears with compassion and understanding, Tina can move past them and create space for her dreams to manifest.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you sometimes believe in your dreams but get pulled off course by doubt and fear?
• Do you panic when doubt and fear arise, thinking you're sabotaging your desires?
• Have you done personal work but still find specific patterns, like fear or doubt, that are hard to change?
• Do you have a deep, nurturing connection with the younger parts of yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Tina's fear and doubt are deeply connected to her inner child, who experienced instability and uncertainty in her early years.
• Christine identifies that Tina's panic is a form of protection, a response she developed to feel safe when her environment was unpredictable.
• By acknowledging and communicating with her inner child, Tina can begin to alleviate her fears and doubts, allowing her to stay aligned with her dreams.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of developing a deeper relationship with oneself, especially the parts that feel fear, doubt, and insecurity.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize that fear and doubt are not signs of failure but messages from parts of yourself that need care and attention.
• Develop a consistent practice of checking in with your inner child or younger self, offering reassurance and understanding.
• Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully without rushing to fix or change them. This will create a more authentic and healing experience.
• Integrate new, supportive beliefs by connecting with your inner child and affirming that you are safe and supported in your journey.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

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