In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Marcus, who is grappling with the emotional aftermath of a breakup. Marcus has a long-standing pattern of being the dependable "rock" everyone can rely on, but this role costs him dearly in his relationships.

During their coaching session, Christine helps Marcus see how his childhood experiences, particularly taking on the role of the "man of the house" from a young age, have influenced his adult relationships. Marcus often finds himself in situations where he is taking care of others' emotional needs at his own expense, leaving him feeling depleted and unsupported.

Christine explains that this dynamic stems from childhood coping mechanisms where Marcus learned that being responsible and reliable would earn him love and acceptance. By recognizing these patterns and setting healthier boundaries, Marcus can start to prioritize his own needs and break free from the caretaker role that has dominated his life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself being the rock for everyone in your life but feel like no one is there for you?
• Are you struggling to set boundaries because you fear disappointing others?
• Do you often feel emotionally drained because you always put others' needs before yours?
• Can you identify patterns from your childhood that may be influencing your current relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Marcus's need to be the dependable one comes from his childhood experience of having to take care of his mother after his father left, making him feel responsible for others from a young age.
• Christine identifies that Marcus's pattern of being the caretaker has left him feeling like he has no one to rely on in return, perpetuating feelings of loneliness and exhaustion.
• By acknowledging these childhood influences, Marcus can start to shift his mindset and create space for relationships that also meet his needs.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and learning to be comfortable saying “no,” even when it might disappoint others.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Please recognize that you don't have to be the rock for everyone; it's okay to need support yourself.
• Start setting boundaries in your relationships to protect your energy and emotional well-being.
• Practice saying “no” lovingly that honors your needs and respects your limits.
• Understand that it's healthy to have reciprocal relationships where support is mutual rather than one-sided.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will occur in late September 2024 in Austin, Texas.
• Register now at christinehassler.com/retreat.

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• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Tina, who struggles with fear and doubt regarding her dreams of finding a partner and starting a family.

At 41, Tina has done significant personal work to connect with herself and remain grounded in her feminine energy. However, she often experiences panic and doubt, mainly when influenced by external messages about age and time. Through their coaching session, Christine helps Tina explore the root causes of her panic and teaches her how to form a deeper connection with her inner child. This approach enables Tina to navigate her fears more effectively and stay aligned with her desires.

Christine explains that Tina's fear and panic are not just obstacles but are rooted in protective mechanisms formed in her childhood. By addressing these fears with compassion and understanding, Tina can move past them and create space for her dreams to manifest.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you sometimes believe in your dreams but get pulled off course by doubt and fear?
• Do you panic when doubt and fear arise, thinking you're sabotaging your desires?
• Have you done personal work but still find specific patterns, like fear or doubt, that are hard to change?
• Do you have a deep, nurturing connection with the younger parts of yourself?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Tina's fear and doubt are deeply connected to her inner child, who experienced instability and uncertainty in her early years.
• Christine identifies that Tina's panic is a form of protection, a response she developed to feel safe when her environment was unpredictable.
• By acknowledging and communicating with her inner child, Tina can begin to alleviate her fears and doubts, allowing her to stay aligned with her dreams.
• The coaching session emphasizes the importance of developing a deeper relationship with oneself, especially the parts that feel fear, doubt, and insecurity.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize that fear and doubt are not signs of failure but messages from parts of yourself that need care and attention.
• Develop a consistent practice of checking in with your inner child or younger self, offering reassurance and understanding.
• Allow yourself to feel your emotions fully without rushing to fix or change them. This will create a more authentic and healing experience.
• Integrate new, supportive beliefs by connecting with your inner child and affirming that you are safe and supported in your journey.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

I am thrilled to share with you the parenting expert whose work I resonate the most with. No matter how old your children are, this is a must listen! Janet Lansbury’s parenting advice (www.janetlansbury.com) is quoted and shared by millions of readers worldwide. Inspired by her mentor Magda Gerber, Janet popularized “respectful parenting” and is the author of two bestselling books, Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting and No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame. Janet is also the creator and host of “Janet Lansbury Unruffled,” one of the most downloaded parenting podcasts on the web and recommended listening by The Washington Post, New York Times, The Cut, USA Today and more.

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Cassandra, who struggles with indecision. She often feels stuck, drifting through various aspects of her life rather than fully committing. At 39 years old, Cassandra is beginning to confront the deep-rooted patterns that have held her back, stemming from a traumatic and dysfunctional childhood.

Christine helps Cassandra understand that her indecision is not a personal flaw but a survival strategy developed during her chaotic upbringing. Through their coaching session, Christine encourages Cassandra to reconnect with her inner child, offering her the safety and nurturing she never received as a child, which is crucial for healing and moving forward with clarity and purpose.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to make decisions, often feeling stuck or paralyzed by overthinking?
• Have you had a chaotic or traumatic childhood that makes it difficult for you to trust yourself and others?
• Do you often find yourself drifting through life, unsure what you truly want or how to commit to it?
• Can you communicate your needs openly or bottle up emotions until they explode?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Cassandra's indecision and drifting are deeply rooted in her childhood trauma, where she felt trapped and unsafe.
• Christine highlights that Cassandra's struggle is not about a lack of decision-making ability but rather a lack of self-trust and safety.
• By reconnecting with her inner child and practicing self-compassion, Cassandra can begin to break free from the patterns that keep her stuck.
• The coaching session underscores the importance of nurturing oneself and creating a safe space for personal growth and decision-making.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to see indecision not as a flaw but as a survival mechanism that can be transformed through self-compassion and nurturing.
• Practice reconnecting with your inner child by providing the safety and love you needed growing up.
• Communicate your needs clearly and honestly in your relationships, even if it initially feels uncomfortable.
• Create small, actionable steps towards the life you envision, focusing on integration rather than over-analysis.

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Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat will be held at the end of September 2024 in Austin, Texas. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Angela, who is struggling to connect with her inner child while grappling with anxiety. Angela's journey is marked by a history of complex PTSD, making it difficult for her to feel safe within her own body.

Christine guides Angela in understanding that instead of trying to manage or eliminate anxiety, she can transform her relationship with it by embracing it with compassion and care.

Through a powerful coaching session, Christine helps Angela uncover the underlying fears and beliefs fueling her anxiety. The session emphasizes the importance of being present, acknowledging inner feelings, and nurturing oneself in moments of discomfort.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you spend a lot of time, energy, and effort trying to manage or eliminate emotions like anxiety?
• Have you experienced complex PTSD or other traumas that have left you feeling disconnected from your body?
• Do you feel overwhelmed with fear when stepping out of your comfort zone or putting yourself out there?
• Have you connected with the younger parts of yourself and provided them with a sense of safety and belonging in your current life?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Angela's anxiety is deeply rooted in her childhood trauma and complex PTSD, leading her to feel unsafe in her own body.
• By observing and communicating with her anxiety, Angela begins to understand that it is a part of her, but not all of her.
• Christine demonstrates the power of separating oneself from overwhelming emotions, which can help one regain a sense of control and calm.
• The coaching session highlights the importance of nurturing inner parts of oneself, primarily when those parts are related to past traumas and fears.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin to view anxiety not as something to eliminate but as a part of you that needs understanding and compassion.
• Practice grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to help your nervous system feel safe in the present moment.
• Consider using the empty chair technique to separate yourself from anxiety and other overwhelming emotions, creating a dialogue that helps you manage them better.
• Embrace all parts of yourself, especially those that feel scared or vulnerable, and bring them into the present where they can feel safe and seen.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of “Over It and On With It,” Christine Hassler coaches Sarah, who struggles with the complexities of a relationship that appears both deeply meaningful and deeply troubling. Sarah's situation involves a partner who alternates between emotional closeness and sudden, unexplained withdrawal, triggering Sarah's abandonment fears.

Christine helps Sarah recognize the unhealthy patterns and offers guidance on finding the strength to set necessary boundaries. Christine's compassionate yet direct approach aims to support listeners who may find themselves rationalizing toxic behaviors in their relationships due to unresolved childhood wounds.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself attracted to relationships that cause you significant stress and anxiety?
• Are you making excuses for someone's unhealthy behavior because of their past trauma or because they express emotions sincerely?
• Did you grow up in a household where you felt neglected or unloved, leading you to accept less than you deserve in relationships?
• Do you struggle with setting firm boundaries and often talk yourself into staying in relationships that don't serve you?
• Are you ready to take bold actions to change unhealthy patterns in your relationships?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Sarah's intense connection with her partner is rooted in unresolved childhood abandonment issues, making her more tolerant of behaviors like ghosting and emotional withdrawal.
• Despite the partner's ability to articulate emotions, his repeated blocking and disappearing acts are red flags that cannot be overlooked.
• Christine highlights the importance of evaluating how someone handles stress and whether they take responsibility for their triggers and actions.
• The episode underscores the necessity of setting clear boundaries and recognizing when a relationship is unhealthy, regardless of the depth of emotional connection.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge and address the old childhood wounds influencing your tolerance for unhealthy behaviors in relationships.
• Practice emotional and physical grounding techniques to reconnect with your sense of self-worth and power.
• Seek out trauma-informed therapy or coaching to work through past wounds in a supportive and healthy environment.
• Establish firm boundaries and recognize that justifying toxic behaviors is a coping strategy rooted in past trauma.
• Affirm your worthiness of love and respect, and take bold actions to protect your emotional well-being.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Mia, who struggles with self-blame and guilt following a challenging divorce. Mia's feelings of inadequacy and self-loathing stem from a history of emotional abuse and neglect in her childhood, compounded by her recent breakup.

Christine provides a compassionate and insightful discussion, helping Mia recognize that her pain is not her fault and offering strategies to address deep-seated beliefs and patterns. The episode aims to support listeners who might feel responsible for their suffering and struggle to break free from negative self-perceptions.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle to move past events because you believe it's your fault?
• Are you stuck in a pattern of self-blame and self-loathing that prevents you from healing?
• Did you grow up in an environment where you felt neglected or abused, leading you to believe you deserve lousy treatment?
• Are you aware of any patterns of gaslighting or unhealthy relationships in your life?
• Do you find it challenging to let go of beliefs and thinking patterns that aren't serving you?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Mia's self-blame and feelings of inadequacy are deeply rooted in her childhood experiences with a narcissistic family system.
• The belief that she deserves to be treated poorly is a result of internalizing abusive and neglectful behavior from her parents.
• Christine highlights that Mia's recent breakup and the blame placed on her by her ex-husband are symptoms of unresolved trauma and not reflective of her worth.
• The episode underscores the importance of differentiating between childhood trauma and current situations to avoid projecting past pain onto present circumstances.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize and challenge the old beliefs stemming from childhood trauma that are influencing your current self-perception.
• Engage in physical and emotional grounding techniques, such as standing with feet on the floor and deep breathing, to reconnect with your sense of power and presence.
• Seek trauma-informed therapy and inner child work to address and heal from past abuse and neglect.
• Write down the facts of your situation to distinguish between reality and distorted beliefs.
• Affirm that the abuse and neglect you experienced were not your fault and that you are worthy of love and respect.

Upcoming Events:

• Christine Hassler's upcoming retreat at the end of September 2024. Early bird pricing is available until the end of August. Register at christinehassler.com/retreat.
• Free coaching call on July 31st focused on reducing stress and anxiety. Sign-up at christinehassler.com/freeworkshop.

Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler
• @ChristinHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Assist@ChristineHassler.com
• Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services
• Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.