In today’s episode, Marsha calls out one of the biggest reasons the holiday season feels so damn heavy: you’re carrying way more than what’s actually yours. From impossible expectations to emotional labour to family dynamics that would test a saint, Marsha breaks down why December often feels like a pressure cooker, and how to get out of the cycle of over-responsibility, overwhelm, and burnout.

She shares real stories from her early years of marriage, how decades of obligation created resentment, and the game-changing realization that the holidays weren’t draining… her lack of boundaries was. Marsha teaches how to stay regulated even when everyone wants something from you, how your subconscious listens to the words you speak, and how to build a December that feels grounded, present, and doable.

If you’ve ever felt like the strong one who must carry everything, or the person who keeps everyone happy at the cost of yourself, this episode is your permission slip to put that sh*t down.

[01:35] Why December feels so heavy and why “carrying it all” is an impossible job

[03:12] The backpack metaphor: realizing only 5–10 percent of what you carry is actually yours

[05:44] Early marriage stories: driving everywhere, no sleep, and traditions that created burnout

[08:01] The truth bomb: the holidays weren’t draining — her lack of boundaries was

[10:20] How resentment reveals where boundaries are missing

[12:10] The subconscious listens to your words: why “I’m exhausted” becomes your reality

[15:14] Breaking the belief that you must do it all for everyone

[17:02] Imagining a December that feels grounded instead of chaotic

[18:58] Asking for help without guilt and setting realistic expectations

[20:47] The difference between numb and unbothered

[22:55] The cup and saucer metaphor: giving from overflow, not depletion

[25:36] How small daily choices help you show up more present, more grounded, and more you

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In this grounded and deeply relatable solo episode, Marsha opens up about why the holiday season can trigger old patterns, heavy memories, and emotional spirals — and how to rewrite those automatic responses in real time. She shares a personal moment while decorating her Christmas tree that revealed just how quickly the brain slips into past stories, fear-based thinking, and bracing for the worst.

Marsha walks listeners through a powerful reminder: your past does not predict your future and your subconscious is simply trying to keep you safe based on outdated information. Using breathwork, presence, and nervous system regulation, she guides you to shift out of old loops and into a more grounded, peaceful December. Consider this episode your holiday reset — especially if this season tends to feel heavy, overwhelming, or emotionally loaded.

[02:18] Why the holidays often trigger old memories and emotional spirals

[04:31] The moment decorating the tree revealed an outdated subconscious script

[06:12] “It happened, it is not happening” — interrupting past based thinking

[08:25] How your brain predicts danger using old memories

[10:50] Future tripping and bracing for the worst: why it dysregulates you

[13:01] Guided visualization to rehearse calm instead of chaos

[16:30] Using breathwork to reset your nervous system in under 40 seconds

[18:48] Replacing judgment with curiosity: “Interesting. I see that pattern.”

[20:12] Anchoring a new script for December through daily presence

[22:49] Your past does not decide your holidays — your leadership does

[25:04] Why the holidays are the ultimate test (and training ground) for being unbothered

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In this episode, Marsha speaks with Kelly Chase, an entrepreneur, social influencer, podcast host, speaker, and reality TV star best known for her role as a cast member on the breakout hit Netflix show Love Is Blind Season 1.

With over 400,000 followers on social media, Kelly uses her platform and voice to inspire others to “chase life” and make the most of where they are in their journey.

It is a part of Kelly’s life’s purpose to teach all that she has learned to women all over the world! She believes that if she could feel this newfound confidence, inner LOVE, worthiness, and expansion, she could help other women feel this same way and empower them to step into their greatness fully!

Highlights:

[02:10] Kelly reflects on leaving the world of “perfect Instagram” and choosing authenticity over aesthetics

[04:22] The behind the scenes reality of Love Is Blind and how it changed her relationship with her own identity

[07:15] Learning to detach from external validation and create from self trust

[10:44] How burnout became the wake up call that forced her into deeper healing

[12:58] Rewriting beliefs around worthiness, relationships, and being chosen

[15:30] Kelly’s journey into somatic work and nervous system healing

[18:40] Why romantic patterns repeat and how to actually break them

[20:55] The moment she realized she wasn’t “too much” — she was just unregulated

[23:06] What Kelly looks for in partnership now that she’s dating from a healed place

[26:11] Business clarity: building a brand that matches who she’s becoming, not who she was

[29:48] The identity shift required to stop people pleasing in life and business

[32:50] Kelly’s advice for women who want to reinvent themselves without blowing up their whole life

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In this episode, Marsha breaks down the real reason so many high achieving women feel stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with their results even when they’re “doing everything right.” She explains the crucial difference between ambition (your conscious goals, vision, and drive) and capacity (your subconscious beliefs, emotional safety, and nervous system bandwidth) — and why misalignment between the two creates shutdown, procrastination, and self protection that masquerades as sabotage.

Marsha also shares how she handles year end planning, why recapping and stacking wins matters more than rushing into a new vision board, and how her own patterns of ambition once led to burnout. This episode is a grounding reminder that you are not too much, your desires are not too big, and your subconscious simply needs to feel safe enough to hold what you’re building.

Highlights

[00:45] Why you must recap the year before you vision for the next one

[03:20] Stacking your wins so your subconscious has evidence of growth

[05:55] The quote that shifted everything: ambition without capacity becomes self sabotage

[07:42] Conscious mind vs subconscious mind and why they must agree

[10:12] How your body hits the brakes when your goals don’t feel safe

[12:38] Self sabotage vs self protection and why the distinction matters

[14:55] A real example of setting a goal your nervous system can’t yet hold

[17:40] Why building capacity is more important than any vision board

[20:33] How Marsha is restructuring support, systems, and her team

[22:50] The pattern she had to break: ambition that pushes into burnout

[24:13] Solidifying foundations so your ambition can finally work for you

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In this episode, Marsha breaks down one of the most powerful metaphors she's ever heard about the subconscious mind. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right — checking the boxes, setting goals, mapping the plan — yet still not seeing the results you want, this one is going to hit home.

Using the imagery of a state of the art GPS (your conscious mind) sitting on top of an outdated paper road map (your subconscious mind), Marsha explains why your inner operating systems must match if you want real, lasting change. She walks you through why we get stuck, why the subconscious pulls us back to the familiar even when it no longer serves us, and how upgrading your inner identity creates the safety you need to move forward.

This is a must listen for anyone who feels the internal tug of war between where they want to go and what their old patterns are trying to keep them safe from.

Episode Highlights [00:50] Why metaphors help the subconscious process and learn [02:30] The conscious mind as the goal setter and 5 percent of the equation [04:40] The subconscious as the outdated paper map trying to keep you safe [06:55] Why you feel stuck even when you're doing everything "right" [10:10] The internal tug of war and the danger of attaching meaning to it [12:15] Why internal safety determines what you can hold and create [14:40] You cannot build a new life on top of an old identity [16:10] Aligning your GPS and your map so the road finally clears

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In this episode, I am speaking with Mindset Mentor, Author, Educator, and Speaker, Chuck Barnard. Chuck is a best-selling author, master educator, and mindset mentor with more than 30 years of experience guiding students, families, and athletes through personal transformation. Armed with advanced certifications in NLP, Hypnotherapy, and Time-Line Therapy®, Chuck has helped thousands overcome anxiety, disconnection, and emotional shutdown—not with endless talk therapy, but with mindset rewiring techniques that create lasting change.

His signature "Garden of the Soul" method was born from both professional insight and personal tragedy. After losing his wife to cancer, Chuck turned grief into purpose, developing tools to help others clear emotional weeds, cultivate resilience, and grow into their fullest potential. Through his books, courses, and podcast, Chuck leads a movement to equip the next generation—and those who guide them—with the mindset, habits, and resilience needed to thrive emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Episode Highlights [01:05] Chuck's background as an educator, NLP practitioner, and mindset mentor [03:43] The book that shifted the entire direction of his life [08:01] Losing his wife in 2022 and using the tools he had taught for decades [10:08] His son's profound response to grief and resilience [11:06] Realizing his mission: empowering teens and families with mindset skills [13:25] Chuck's Garden of the Soul method and the importance of "weeding" [17:00] Ownership, emotional responsibility, and breaking old patterns [19:27] Why "how do you do that?" is a powerful pattern interrupt [22:11] Helping kids reclaim agency through simple but life-changing tools [30:55] Demystifying timeline therapy with clear, relatable examples [33:56] Stories of athletes and students whose lives changed after releasing old beliefs Connect with Charles: ​​The "Garden of the Soul" Method for mindset rewiring Website: https://coachchuck360.com/Website: https://successinstitutes.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach.barnard/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chuck.barnard.315/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyioga_snOGHduigy6P0Rsw Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Join the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/ Unbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast Unbothered Mind Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcast

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In this episode, Marsha recounts a powerful story known as "The Acres of Diamonds," from Matt Cook's book, Beyond Wanting, which illustrates how individuals frequently overlook the treasures that lie within their own lives while searching desperately for fulfillment elsewhere. The tale follows a farmer in 1800s Africa who, driven by the desire to provide for his family, sells his farm in pursuit of diamonds. After years of fruitless searching and ultimately losing everything, he tragically takes his own life. Ironically, the new owner of the farmer's land discovers that it sits atop one of the richest diamond mines in history, highlighting the notion that what we seek is often right in front of us. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Story of Acres of Diamonds 00:01:00 - The Search for Worth and Success 00:02:00 - The Farmer's Journey for Diamonds 00:03:30 - The Tragic End of the Farmer 00:04:30 - The Ironic Discovery of Diamonds 00:05:30 - Perception and Projection: What We See 00:06:30 - The Importance of Internal State 00:07:30 - Shifting Focus to What We Have 00:08:30 - The Power of Language and Identity 00:09:30 - Recognizing Internal Abundance 00:10:30 - The Role of Support in Growth 00:11:30 - Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind 00:12:30 - Understanding Your Own Worth 00:13:30 - Standing on Your Own Acres of Diamonds

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In this episode, Marsha speaks to the distinction between operating under pressure and embracing a state of internal power. Marsha introduces the concept of the "ceiling" and "floor" in relation to personal beliefs and aspirations. The ceiling represents the highest thoughts one allows themselves to entertain, while the floor symbolizes the deepest beliefs that anchor an individual. She explains that our lives are constructed within the space between these two points, shaped by subconscious programming rather than mere strategy.

Marsha discusses the importance of recognizing and challenging limiting beliefs, asserting that individuals do not rise to their goals but rather to the level of their beliefs. She encourages listeners to identify their biggest thoughts and visualize them expansively, while also acknowledging the smaller, limiting beliefs that often hold them back. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Difference Between Pressure and Power 00:02:30 - Understanding Your Ceiling and Floor 00:04:00 - The Role of Subconscious Programming 00:05:30 - Expanding Your Ceiling Through Visualization 00:07:00 - Changing Identity to Achieve Goals 00:08:30 - The Importance of Beliefs and Emotions 00:10:00 - The Magic of Raising Your Floor 00:11:30 - Conclusion and Call to Action Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

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