Today, I am joined by Elen Nathan from The Playful Place to give us insight into ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder).

Here is what we chatted about:

• What is ARFID?
• What causes ARFID and how can we know if our child (or we) are affected by ARFID?
• What can we do as parents to support our children if they are affected by ARFID?

If you missed Elen's other two episodes on Sensory Systems here are the links:

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/78epUpjiXJb

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/tG4jyrjiXJb

You can connect with Elen Nathan at:

https://www.theplayfulplace.co.nz

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If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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In this solo episode, I talk about a topic that is often shut down in parenting communities. The topic of experiencing grief for various aspects of our parenting journey. In our Instagram society, where we just see the highlights, the happy moments the joyful moments of parenting we can feel 'wrong', 'broken' and isolated because we aren't feeling or experiencing these things. There can be many times when we wish things were different. I have often felt like this but have not had the language to talk about my experience until I came across the Five Gates of Grief by Francis Weller. In this episode: I talk you through these five gates of grief and how they could relate to you. I share with you the three-step process I use when I am processing difficult emotions. If you experience grief over aspects of your parenting journey then I hope that you feel seen by what I share in this episode.

Frances Weller’s deep and profound work can be accessed here: https://www.francisweller.net

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Today on the show I chat with Kate Kleinau, who you may know from her Facebook and Instagram accounts as Raising PDA Kids.

In this episode, Kate and I chat about:

• How her son's autistic burnout in his early childhood years led her to discover that he was PDA.
• The things she and her husband did to support her son's recovery from burnout.
• How embracing radical acceptance and adapting the way she parents her children has led to calmer, connected moments with her son.
• Her work supporting other PDA mums.

Does this resonate for you?

Do you think your child might be PDA? The PDA Society has some great resources: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/ You can find out more about Kate's work here: https://raisingpda.com/ Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram at Raising PDA Kids- Kate Kleinau, OT

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If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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Today on the show we chat with Pip Brun, a neurodivergent human, a mum of 6 and a passionate advocate for the rights of disabled people.

Pip is a passionate member of the Enabling Good Lives mid-central leadership group in New Zealand.

In this episode, we chat about:

• Pip's lived experience as a mum of 6 neurodivergent children (including her daughter Lucy who has a rare chromosome disorder).
• The Enabling Good Lives approach and its guiding principles and what these mean for us in our lives.
• How we can live these principles in our own lives and use this approach to empower us to advocate for ourselves and our loved ones.

Additional information and resources for the Enabling Good Lives Approach:

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz

Good Start To Life Practice Guidance:

//www.hqsc.govt.nz/assets/Consumer-hub/Partners-in-Care/Publications-resources/Good-start-in-life-practice-guidance-Mar-2020.pdf

https://www.msd.govt.nz/about-msd-and-our-work/publications-resources/monitoring/uncroc

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz/system-transformation/mid-central-updates/midcentral-leadership-team/pip-brunn/

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If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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A funny thing happened when I sat down with Elen Nathan from the Playful Place for our first chat on the sensory systems. We just clicked and geeked out about the sensory systems and our neatly planned agenda for the episode went out of the window.

After recording part one we immediately knew that we should do a follow-up. So Elen came back on a Sunday to record this episode with me and it is a real gem.

In this episode:

• Elen unpacks the 8 sensory systems and the hyper (extremely sensitive ) and hypo (low sensitivity) of these.
• We also chat about rethinking children's so-called 'behaviour' from a sensory perspective and how we can use this lens to be more supportive parents.
• This is essential listening for all parents and educators.

To get your free sensory system screening tools:

https://sensationalbrain.com/free-resources/

You can connect with Elen Nathan here:

Website: https://theplayfulplace.co.nz/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePlayfulPlace

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If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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Today I am joined by occupational therapist and sensory integration practitioner, Elen Nathan.

In this episode:

• Elen gives us an introduction to the nine sensory systems and why these are important for us as parents to be aware of.
• Elen and I chat about practical examples of what this could look like for our children, how we can be more aware of our child's sensory world and how this can contribute to their sense of safety.
• We chat about the importance of tuning into and trusting our intuition as parents when it comes to knowing what is right for our children.
• We talk about how we can change our parenting approach and provide accommodations to meet our children where they are to better support them.

To get your free sensory system screening tools:

https://sensationalbrain.com/free-resources/

You can connect with Elen Nathan here:

Website: https://theplayfulplace.co.nz/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePlayfulPlace

Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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Today on the podcast I sit down with three-time bestselling author, activist and mum of two disabled tamariki, Emily Writes to talk about the recent changes to the Whaikaha (The Ministry for Disabled People) purchasing guidelines.

Some of the topics highlighted on the show:

• How the recent Whaikaha changes came about.
• How the changes affect disabled people and their families.
• What we can do to advocate for ourselves and others with government to create change.
• Where we can go for answers to find out how these affect us or the disabled person we care for.

Further resources and links:

https://awhi.substack.com/p/the-real-impact-of-funding-changes

https://emilywrites.substack.com/p/pedicures-and-massages

Awhi Ngā Mātua (awhingamatua.org.nz)

Connect with Emily on Instagram @emilywritesnz

This show was brought to you by The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox

On today's episode, we chat with Claire Fisher. Claire shares with us her journey after being diagnosed in her forties with ADHD and Autism.

Here are some of what we chat about in this episode:

• What led her to seek an ADHD/Autism assessment for herself in midlife?
• What this process was like for her and how this led her to seek assessment and support for her children.
• Her lived experience with navigating the mental health system and support in New Zealand.
• Her advice for others who are navigating the system or contemplating assessment.
• Her wisdom about navigating the education system from her lived experience with her children and transitioning from parenting teens to young adults.

It was an absolute pleasure to speak with Claire and we can all learn so much from her lived experience.

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com. Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠