If your throat tightens when you ask for what you want, this conversation is your reset. We start by grounding with a mantra that reframes needs as information, not interruptions, then move into a practical framework for clear, kind boundaries that don’t require a ten-paragraph defense. The goal isn’t to become rigid; it’s to stop abandoning yourself and start speaking with steady honesty.

We break down the three rules of Boundary Boot Camp. First, get clear before you get brave: ask what you need, what you’re available for, and what you’re not available for. Second, drop the apology tour and use a concise script that honors your feelings and sets a clean expectation. Third, let the reaction be theirs—treat responses as data, not directives—and hold steady for 24 hours so you don’t walk back your progress during the guilt spike. Along the way, we talk about nervous system safety, why harmony often overrode honesty in our early wiring, and how clarity is the kindest form of communication.

You’ll leave with a one-sentence ask you can try this week, a calm way to deliver it, and a mindset that sees discomfort as part of growth rather than a danger signal. If you’ve ever feared being “too much,” this is the blueprint for taking up space without drama. Subscribe for more Mojo Minute tools, share this with a friend who needs boundary courage, and leave a review to tell us the one ask you’ll try first.

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Ever felt that small tug in your chest that whispers, “I miss me”? This kickoff to Season Three leans into the tender grief that surfaces when you stop shrinking to fit other people’s comfort. We talk candidly about the invisible costs of people pleasing—energy leaks, stalled creativity, dulled desire, performative joy—and why naming them becomes the most compassionate first step toward alignment.

I share real moments from holidays and networking rooms where I looked competent on the outside while my inner voice planned an escape. That contrast sets up the oh moment: the instant your body says no while your mouth says yes. Instead of blame, we choose clarity. We break down how grief and honesty unlock a quiet, durable freedom you can feel in small ways: a pause before answering, an unadorned no, the relief of watching someone’s disappointment pass without you dissolving.

If you’re wondering what to take off your plate, I offer a simple decision filter: Does this match my energy now? Would I say yes if no one saw? Will future me be grateful or furious? When it isn’t a clean yes, it’s a no—and a no is just information. We also normalize the weird in-between: the restlessness after you stop overgiving, the impulse to refill your calendar, the nervous system relearning that safety doesn’t require exhaustion. The antidote is restful space you didn’t earn, followed by curiosity-led choices that rebuild desire without guilt.

By the end, you’ll have language for your grief, a structure for your boundaries, and permission to move slowly—because slowly is the fastest way to become the you that’s been there all along. If this resonates, hit follow, share with a friend who’s done being small, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to themselves. Your freedom starts here—one honest yes, one clean no, one brave breath at a time.

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Holidays can pull us back into old roles before the eggnog hits the glass: the planner, the peacekeeper, the one who “makes it nice.” We’re done with that script. I walk you through a compassionate, practical approach to reclaiming your season without becoming rigid or combative, starting with a simple truth: your capacity is information, not a character flaw.

We explore how awareness widens your choices, turning guilt from a command into a clue. I share the cleanest boundary you’ll use all year—“That doesn’t work for me this year”—and how to deliver it without essays or apologies. You’ll learn to predecide your energy budget, choose connection over obligation, and craft exit strategies that keep your nervous system safe so you can actually enjoy the moments that matter. We also get tactical about regulation: stepping outside for fresh air, feeling your feet on the ground, slow breathing, and cold‑water resets that bring you back to a calm body where clear decisions live.

This isn’t about performing a perfect Christmas. It’s about presence. We unpack the tenderness of growth—the awkward in‑between where you’re not who you were but not yet who you’re becoming—and why letting people be disappointed is survivable. We curate what genuinely lights you up and release inherited rituals that drain you. As we close the season, I offer a permission slip to take up space, honor your limits, and lead your life with integrity. If you’re ready to swap people pleasing for self‑respect and turn tradition into a choice, press play and reclaim your holidays with heart. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs this, and leave a review to help more recovering people pleasers find their way.

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If you’ve been feeling like your identity packed a bag and slipped out the back door, this conversation offers a gentler truth: you’re not lost—you’re layered. We talk about how people pleasing, stacked roles, and cultural noise dim your inner signal, and how a few honest steps can move you from low battery mode to full brightness. Instead of promising reinvention, we build a path to reunion with the self you’ve been all along.

We start by naming the hidden costs of being the reliable one, the peacekeeper, the steady hand. When life gets too loud, the loudest demands replace your inner voice, and your choices default to what keeps the peace. Through a vivid story about a mom pausing at a coffee counter when asked for her name, we see how identity erosion looks and how the smallest spark—a name spoken, a shoulder unclenched—can bring you back into focus.

From there, we get practical. You’ll learn to use micro-questions that bypass overwhelm: What feels good today? What do I miss? What did younger me love? What would I choose if no one had an opinion? You’ll hear why one daily choice that’s just for you rebuilds self-trust fast, and how letting your preferences exist out loud—without a thesis-length explanation—restores integrity. We close with a simple but powerful compass: track energy, not vibes. Notice what drains you and what lights you up; those patterns quietly outline who you are and who you are not.

Walk away with language to resist self-abandonment, tools to create quiet, and a map for recognizing yourself in the mirror again. If this resonated, share it with a friend who needs the reminder, subscribe for more weekly mojo, and leave a review so we can keep this glow-up going.

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Celebration isn’t extra; it’s essential. We unpack why so many of us learned to shrink our joy—thanks to stay-humble conditioning, perfectionist rules, and a lingering pandemic hangover—and how that habit quietly steals motivation, confidence, and connection. If you’ve ever skipped your own wins, mumbled through a birthday, or dreaded New Year’s because of the pressure to perform, this conversation hands you the tools to rewrite your ritual.

We dig into the psychology behind downplaying success, including the jinx myth and the fear of visibility that makes receiving love feel risky. Then we trace how COVID rewired our social stamina and turned loud milestones into quiet whispers, leaving many of us celebrating from the sidelines. You’ll hear clear signs of celebration deprivation—lower dopamine, fragile confidence, and low joy tolerance—and learn how to rebuild your “joy muscle” with small, repeatable actions that make big change over time.

Most importantly, we get practical. From a 10-second shoulder shimmy after sending the scary email to lighting the good candle because you are the occasion, we share micro-rituals that teach your brain to see progress and ask for more. We also talk about curating your circle to avoid people fatigue, reframing birthdays and New Year’s to prioritize intention over performance, and embracing a simple rule that changes everything: you get more of whatever you celebrate. Leave with a weekly challenge to notice and mark one win—small or big—so your life stops blurring and starts landing. If this episode brings some sparkle back, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review to help more listeners reclaim their joy.

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Ever felt your mouth say yes while your gut screams no? We’re digging into why confrontation feels like danger to your nervous system, how people-pleasing sneaks in through well-meaning “niceness,” and the simple shifts that turn boundary-setting into an act of self-respect. With plain language and a little humor, we unpack the brain science behind fear, show you how the amygdala hijack works, and explain why your prefrontal cortex is your ally when you speak up—even if your hands shake.

You’ll hear a relatable workplace story that proves saying no doesn’t end your career, it clarifies your value. We break down three sticky myths—“confrontation is mean,” “I’ll be rejected,” and “I must be liked”—and replace them with solid truths that actually hold under pressure. We also zoom out to the cultural layer: how gendered conditioning trained many women to equate compliance with safety, and why reclaiming audacity now is both personal growth and quiet revolution. Assertiveness doesn’t need to be loud; it can be steady, kind, and unmistakably clear.

Then we get practical. You’ll get a four-step framework for low-drama conflict, examples for low-stakes practice reps, reframes that calm your body, and mantras that anchor a stronger self-image. We map the hidden costs of staying small—emotional leaks, weaker relationships, stalled opportunities, and fragile worth—and show the payoff of speaking up: clean energy, better outcomes, and confidence that sticks. Ready to shrink less and say more? Hit play, subscribe for weekly mojo, and share this with someone who’s ready to trade people-pleasing for power. Your voice matters—where will you use it first?

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Let's play a little game of "WHAT IF?"

What if your nervous system isn’t scared of compliments because you’re ungrateful, but because it learned that safety lives in overgiving? In this episode we get real about why receiving feels awkward for people pleasers and breaks down how to flip the script with warmth, humour, and brain-savvy tools you can use today.

Cuz why wait for good things to happen? We want it NOW!

We start by untangling worthiness from performance. If childhood taught you that value equals usefulness, praise and support can feel like a threat. Steph explains the brain’s love of familiarity over happiness and how that bias fuels the urge to deflect, downplay, and distract. Then we pivot to action: the two-second pause to interrupt auto-deflection, a simple gratitude script—“Thank you, that means a lot”—and micro-receiving reps that build new neural pathways through repetition and grace. Along the way, you’ll hear why receiving is an act of courage and connection, not ego; it lets others experience the joy of giving while you practice being seen without hustling.

Together we anchor a new identity with a mantra: receiving is pleasure, not pressure. You’ll learn how to calm the body when discomfort hits, how to stack small wins that shift your self-image, and how to link receiving with intrinsic self-worth. The result is practical and deeply human: steadier energy, healthier relationships, stronger boundaries, and the confidence to let good things land. If you’re ready to stop swatting away kindness and start welcoming praise, help, and love with ease, this is your playbook.

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Ever felt like you’re standing in a hallway between who you were and who you’re becoming? That’s the messy middle—and it’s where real change happens. We get honest about why transformation feels scary, why your brain clings to familiar patterns, and how to move from people pleasing and performance to alignment, peace, and personal power.

We start by decoding the science: the brain rewards predictability, not happiness. That’s why boundaries feel threatening and old roles feel safer than they are. Then we go soul-deep with a candid story about the “People Pleaser” identity—how it wins applause while quietly draining your spark. You’ll learn to spot misalignment, understand why growth often feels like grief, and honor the past version of you who kept things afloat without letting her run the future.

From there, we turn insight into action. You’ll get a simple framework to give yourself permission to outgrow, choose one small but high-signal step, and track micro-evidence that rebuilds confidence. We’ll craft “I’m the kind of person who…” identity statements that nudge your nervous system toward safety in the new. And we’ll close with grounded mantras—“I’m not lost, I’m evolving”—to meet panic with presence and turn the awkward in-between into a creative stretch rather than a crisis.

If your soul has already moved to the penthouse but your habits are stuck in the basement, this conversation is your invite upstairs. Hit play, share with a friend who’s outgrowing their old script, and if it resonates, join the Seven-Day Mojo Makeover. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us the one boundary you’re claiming this week—we’re cheering for your next, truer chapter.

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