This is the second part of a two-part series that's all about healing reframes. I'll break down the final 3 helpful reframes, or mantras, that can change how you look at and navigate your healing journey.

In this episode, we’ll take a deeper look at how these reframes—originally shared in a parenting context—can be applied to all of us trying to live more regulated lives. Hit play for the full conversation.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. Firm but kind – Look for a moment today or this week to offer yourself the reflection of, “what would it look like in this moment to be firm, but kind with what I need to do right now?”
2. Find an anchor in the storm. – it’s not your job to fix your feelings but instead to find an anchor that allows you to make space for them. Reminder that next week I’ll be sharing with you a lesson I filmed a few years ago on emotional fitness and regulation.
3. Connect before correcting – how can you connect with the part of you engaging in a behavior you don’t love or that isn’t helpful before correcting. With another reminder that we’ll have a bigger change about our internal parts in a couple weeks.

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This is the first part of a two-part series that's all about healing reframes. I'll break down the first of four super helpful reframes, or mantras, that can totally change how you look at your healing journey.

In this episode, we’ll take a deeper look at how these reframes—originally shared in a parenting context—can be applied to all of us trying to live more regulated lives. We’ll explore how understanding your past can shine a light on your present behaviors and, most importantly, figure out what you can actually do about it with our "So now what?" approach. Trust me, you won't want to miss out on these insights and practical steps to start making some real changes.

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Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. This healing reframe of "how appropriate of me to [INSERT A GIVEN BEHAVIOR OR TENDENCY YOU HAVE THAT FEELS ANNOYING OR UNHELPFUL] Given that I [INSERT THE CONTEXT HERE]"
2. When you're ready, add to the end of that reframe statement "So now what?"
3. An invitation to join us in our Regulated Living Membership if you're looking for support in this work.

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Episode 73

Today’s conversation is a direct response to the following listener request:

"I am a parent to 4 young kids (one with special needs and another with some extra needs). I struggle immensely with keeping myself regulated and calm with their big emotions. I wondered if you might explore in further episodes about how to let go of the need for control as a parent and how that need for control influences feeling dysregulated when the kids are rough housing and noisy/chaotic. I struggle so much to just relax into parenting, I constantly try to control things to avoid big emotions and meltdowns. If you might also touch on the topic of hypervigilance and the need to control as a trauma response? I’d love to learn how we can sit with life happening without trying to micromanage it as a way to avoid something unexpected happening, kid meltdowns, chaos, etc…

I’m struggling so much with this right now as a mom, but really it’s been a theme for much longer than that. I realize the work ahead for me as I am learning your tools to regulate my nervous system."

What I'll share doesn't just apply to regulated parenting, but in how we all approach these things in our healing. Hit play for the full conversation!

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• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Episode 72

If you feel like you can't rest until everything is done - this conversation is for you. I also talk about functional freeze and how this do do do without knowing how or when to allow yourself proactive rest creates overwhelm and overloads the system into a state of freeze. Hit play for more!

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Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. Catch: Notice this week the urge to do more, when you decline your brain or body's request for rest because you feel like you can't until you get it "all" done.
2. Challenge: Notice the urge of, "I can't sit down until X, Y, Z is done" and respond with, "but what if I can? What if I can take a moment to rest and just be?" & if you're feeling spicy - "what if I can just leave that task undone? Or at least undone until tomorrow?"
3. Change: Do differently, take that 1 or 10 or 15 minutes to rest & let yourself be uncomfortable in that rest.

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• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Episode 71

Have you ever found yourself rushing to do something or rushing get somewhere when you really didn’t actually need to rush? You weren’t running late, there wasn’t a timeline, no one was waiting on you and yet you felt this urgent need to move faster. If so, this episode is for you.

We all have default patterns, default ways of responding to the world around us because of our past lived experiences. Join me for a conversation about why these patterns take hold, but more importantly what it looks like to begin to rewire and repattern these default responses if they're no longer serving you. Hit play to learn more!

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. Catch: Notice this week anytime you feel rushed when you might not need to be?
2. Challenge: Pause, and ask “can I slow down?” (& know that your brain will immediately scream "NO!"at you, pause again, maybe asking, "but what if we just try?")
3. Change: Do differently. Maybe you keep driving, doing the dishes, or walking but can you do just 1% slower, with 1% less urgency, 1% less tension. If you do differently enough times, and things work out, you reset your baseline responses.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Email: amanda@riseaswe.com

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Episode 70

If you've ever felt frustrated by a therapist or coach responding to your request for tools with something like, "Well, what do you think a helpful tool would be?" then today's chat is for you. in this episode I share what I learned in attending my first ever ecstatic dance class and how it demonstrated for me the importance of suggestions in our healing journeys. When you've lived so much of your life inside a specific box, it can be really hard to see anything else.

Join me as I discuss the balance between being client-led and offering guidance in therapeutic practices, emphasizing the importance of context, choice, and connection for creating a sense of safety; and as I reflect on my desire (and maybe yours too) to feel more free.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. If you, like me, don’t have a practice of moving your body, of dancing freely, here's my invitation to start. Remember, "the weirder I move my body, the more I fit in."
2. Healing requires action and changes in daily living. Seek out practitioners and spaces that offer practical tools and suggestions to support your journey.
3. I’m sending you my love and support as you also figure out how to learn to feel more free. As always, we would love to support you. My calendar is open for those of you interested in booking a discovery call to learn more about our 1:1 coaching program, doors to the membership are always open, as is my inbox (amanda@riseaswe.com). I love love love hearing from you.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Email: amanda@riseaswe.com

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Episode 69

One of my deepest beliefs is that “I’m too much” – I’m too loud, I’m too energetic, I ask too much, need too much, my idea’s or dreams or plans are all too much, my pace is too much, etc… It’s a wound that gets triggered a lot in my friendships, entrepreneurship, and especially in my marriage. It's also a belief that holds me back from fully showing up in a lot of areas of my life.

Join me for a conversation about how all our beliefs, while well-meaning and self-protective at one point, may no longer serving us anymore and when left unchecked they'll hold you back in your healing journey and keep you stuck in patterns you don't want anymore.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. If you’re feeling stuck in your healing, it might be happening out of order. Reflect on my pyramid of healing (pg 85 in my book Healing Through the Vagus Nerve) and ask yourself if you maybe skipped a step? Often times before we can do the deeper healing and rewiring work, we need to first stabilize and regulate our nervous system.
2. As long as I believe it to be true, that I’m too much and people prefer a muted version of me, I’ll filter everything through that. What belief do you currently have as a filter that are no longer serving where you'd like to go?
3. If you can identify a belief, spend some time with these final two questions: “What do I risk if I stop doing or believing X?” and “What do I gain if I stop doing or believing X?”

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• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Episode 68

When you’re not sleeping, eating, breathing, moving, resting, playing, or connecting enough — you should expect to be sick, your mental health will suffer because your brain and overall health are suffering.

When we, or life, expects us to sacrifice the very habits that nurture our nature of being human — we suffer and there's no amount of talk therapy or meds (while possibly helpful) that heals symptoms caused by a dysregulated nervous system or daily habits that rob you of general health.

You cannot heal when continuing to live in chronic stress.

So, what is regulated living? It’s about living with routines, habits, and practices that support a regulated nervous system, habits that support healthy mental, physical, emotional, and relational health. It involves the habits that make up your daily life as well as cultivating the skills necessary to effectively self-regulate and manage stress.

Today’s conversation acts like a wrap up to the 8 episode Essential 8 series, providing moments of invitation and reflection to step into some aspect of more regulated living.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. Regulated living isn’t a perfect protocol to follow but a way of living based in understanding your psychology and physiology enough to meet their needs. It's a general way of living that prioritizes health, stress & emotional management, and social connections in a way that regulates your nervous system and supports healing from anxiety & depression.
2. As you do this, your systems will do what they naturally do which is to trend towards healing. There’s often deeper work to do, but it can be helpful to stabilize and create capacity within your system as a whole before diving in.
3. A nudge to join us inside the newly-named Regulated Living Membership (or if you want more personalized support to book a discovery call with me to learn more about RESTORE our 1:1 coaching program). Working through our programs, healing in this way isn’t a quick fix – it’ll invite you over and over again into an assessing and editing your life to step into more sustainable and regulated living. It would be our honor to support you.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Email: amanda@riseaswe.com

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