In this conversation, Curtis and Chris discuss the importance of running to the hard things in life and finding joy in the midst of pain. They reflect on Curtis's late wife Michal's last words.

The conversation concludes with a discussion about the hope of heaven and the need for a relationship with Jesus.

TIME STAMPS:

Michal's Last Words

The Origin of Her Last Words

Michal's Prayer For Eternal Perspective

Joy Vs. Sadness, Which One Is Winning?

Michal's Dying Wishes And Lessons For Grief

The Harder The Pain The Bigger The Task

What Are you Doing With The Rest Of Your Life?

All Christians Shoud Run To The Hard

Lesson From The Letter About Running To The Hard

The Importance of Time and Attention in Relationships

The Roundtown Article Story

The Hope For Eternity

God is a God of Relationships

Challenges and Needs of This Ministry

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In this conversation, Chris and Curtis battle with the harsh questions of who God is after loss and the questions they both have as they try to understand why God allows the hurt and the hard.

The duo discuss the personal experiences of loss and grief in their lives, as well as what Michal taught us with her story of questioning God after the loss of her child.

TIME STAMPS:

01:00 - Baby Jasper’s story

02:30 - Questioning God

03:00 - Pointing people to Christ in the Dark Seasons

04:00 - Chris Reflecting on Losing His Son, Lawson.

09:00 - Numbness after loss

09:30 - Spiritual high during the hope for a miracle

11:00 - Hard Questions about God’s presence in loss.

13:00 - Preparing for a loss vs. the shock of a sudden loss

14:00 - The physical and mental effects of shock after loss

15:30 - Creating a defense mechanism to not feel the grief

18:00 - When it feels like God is off-script

19:00 - Baby Ronnie’s story

22:30 - Going to the hard dark places

23:00 - Finding God for yourself

28:00 - Is God more concerned with bringing us to Him than gaining glory from healing?

30:00 - Eternal perspective

33:00 - How do you see God’s presence in the hard seasons?

34:00 - God is at work even when we don’t feel it

38:30 - Empathizing and understanding others in their grief

40:00 - The discipline of staying in the word in grief

42:00 - Recalling to mind the goodness of God in your past - He’s the same God

47:30 - How do you reconstruct rather than deconstruct your faith after the hard?

49:00 - The untruthful, unscriptural path people can lead you down after death - mediums, guardian angels, tarot cards

52:00 - The crossroads of why we really desire heaven

56:30 - What to do when God's plan doesn't make sense to us.

01:01:00 - Facing that we are fallen humans

01:03:00 - Realizing who you are In Christ

01:04:00 - When we assume God’s plan is our plan

01:07:00 - The harder the things, the harder the task God is calling you to

01:09:30 - The Facebook post that provides spiritual perspective.

01:14:00 - Saying “Your Will be done” even when we don’t feel it

01:14:45 - Why would we ever want to rob our loved ones of heaven?

01:15:30 - Closing prayer

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In this conversation, Curtis and Chris take an off the cuff approach where Curtis shares who Michal was, the hilarious things she did, the fierce mother she was and the impactful lessons she has left us all.

TIME STAMPS:

00:60 - Tell me who Michal was?

01:30 - Brutally Honest

03:00 - MLM Life - Working up the Courage

06:00 - Dorky Homeschool Mom

07:00 - Cute & Clumsy

10:00 - Strict Homeschool Life

11:00 - Shockingly Self-Conscious

12:00 - How to Keep the Walls Down

14:00 - Crunchy Mom Life

22:00 - Not a Morning Person

23:00 - Music for the Soul

24:00 - Enneagram Obsession

27:00 - Humorously Naive

27:30 - What Would Michal Want People to Know

28:30 - Living Below the Surface in Relationships

30:00 - A Mom Who Taught

32:30 - Cracking the Code in every Relationship

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In this conversation, Curtis and Chris discuss the impact of grief on others.

They discuss the lessons Curtis is learning from grief while exploring the deep levels of grief experienced by those who knew her.

The conversation concludes with the friends close to us who are our ride or die who experience the worst with us and finally an eternal perspective of grief and the importance of finding community.

TIME STAMPS:

1:00 - Perspective of Grief for a Child from Afar

2:00 - Personal Lessons from Grief - Fumbling Through

3:30 - Running to the Hard Convos with Kids

7:00 - How Grief Reshapes Our View of Life

9:00 - Supporting the Friends of Your Lost Loved One

12:00 - Being Proud of the Way Your Loved One Impacted Others

17:00 - The Grief from Divorce

18:00 - The First Deep Loss/The Eternal Perspective of Loss

21:00 - Grieving Over the Souls of Others as Christians

25:00 - Shocking Statistics on Death & Loss

28:00 - Culture’s Skewed View on Death & Eternity

30:00 - Carrying Each Other’s Burdens - Grieving for Friends Losses

33:00 - Grief SHOULD Call Christians to Action

34:00 - Running to the Hard for Others Who Are Grieving

37:00 - Every Person Grieves Differently

39:00 - Learning to Listen

41:00 - Allowing for the Space for Those Grieving to Talk About Their Person

42:00 - How Grief Has Affected Friendships

49:00 - Grief Causes Awkwardness

51:00 - How Do We Act Around Our Grieving Friends?

55:00 - Growth Through Grief

01:00 - Identity After Loss

01:01 - How Far Should We Go Into Someone Else’s Grief?

01:02 - Who Are Your Ride or Die People?

01:07 - Find Your Community

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In this episode, Curtis and Chris delve into the complex language of grief, exploring how it impacts one's sense of purpose and the unspoken communication it entails.

They discuss how outsiders react to grief, the process of turning pain into purpose, and the significance of reminders and analogies, such as 'waves of grief,' in understanding and communicating the grieving process.

The conversation also touches on the profound impact of grief on children, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and supporting those who are mourning.

Additionally, they explore the role of faith in finding comfort and peace during times of loss. Join us for a heartfelt discussion that sheds light on navigating grief and supporting others through their journey.

TIME STAMPS:

5:00 - Finding Purpose in Your Pain During Grief

14:00 - Revealing Grief Questions No One Wants to Answer

16:00 - Sharing Grief Experiences and Swapping Stories

18:00 - What to Say to Someone Who Has Lost a Loved One

20:30 - Grief is Love with No Place to Go: Understanding the Concept

23:00 - Hard but Purposeful Moments in the Grieving Process

25:30 - Waves of Grief: An Analogy for Understanding Loss

29:00 - Are We Naturally Equipped to Know How to Grieve?

32:00 - Leading Children Through Grief While You Also Grieve

36:00 - Navigating Holidays Without a Loved One

38:30 - Dealing with the Unfairness of Loss: Lessons from Michal

41:00 - The Surreal Feeling of Losing a Loved One

42:00 - Recapping How Grief Comes in Waves

44:30 - "What Do You Want Me to Know About Your Loved One?": How to Ask

52:00 - Grief Will Affect Us All: Preparing for the Inevitable

53:00 - Closing Scripture on Grief - Psalm 34:18

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In this conversation, Chris and Curtis discuss the topics of loneliness and feeling incomplete. They talk about the heavy weight of loneliness and the awkwardness that comes with being single, whether due to divorce or the loss of a loved one. Curtis shares his personal experiences of feeling lonely and incomplete after the death of his late wife, Michal. They also touch on the temptation to seek fulfillment in unhealthy ways and the challenges of navigating relationships after loss.

TIME STAMPS

0:00- Intro-"Tell Me Something Good"

3:00-Loneliness in Grief

7:00- The Loss of Loving Touch

9:00- The Confusing Feelings After The Loss of A Spouse

11:00- How Long Until The Wedding Comes Off?

19:30- Can You Feel Complete In Your Grief?

25:00- Hope & Purpose For Your Lonely Season

28:00- Faith Vs Feelings & Embracing The Truth of Scripture

31:00- Does My Grief Give Me License to Sin?

33:00- The Numbness of Grief & Lack of Empathy

39:00- What Does God Want to Do With Your Grief?

44:00- What Life Would Have Been Like Having Never Met Michal

50:00- Motivating Friends After Life-Altering Events

53:00- Curtis's Practical Advice on Doing The Little Things Each Day

56:00- Curtis's Closing Prayer Over Those Stuck In Grief

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SUMMARY

In this conversation, Chris and Curtis discuss the importance of the lessons that Michal taught Curtis about “Saying the Things”

The episode covers personal stories and lessons learned from Curtis & Michal’s r relationships, emphasizing the power of words of affirmation and appreciation. They highlight the need to express love and appreciation to others while they are still alive, rather than waiting until a funeral. The conversation also touches on the significance of giving full attention to others and the impact it can have. Overall, the conversation encourages listeners to be intentional in expressing their love and appreciation to the people in their lives.

TIME STAMPS

0:00- Intro & Fun Michal Story

3:30-The Power of “Saying The Things”

8:30- The Impact of Words of Affirmation

15:00- The Importance of Giving Full Attention

30:00-Legacy of Words

Join Curtis & Chris as they cover the period after the funeral, detailing the initial days and months following the loss of Curtis’s beloved wife, Michal.

This episode explores the experiences of grief & support as Curtis talks about keeping his wife's memory alive.

The conversation also delves into the administrative aspects of dealing with the belongings of the deceased.

Curtis shares personal experiences of the emotional journey of dealing with the memories and possessions of his late wife. He also discusses the impact of grief on the children and the importance of preserving memories.

The conversation travels to purpose after loss, as well as the significance of supporting and connecting with others grieving.

Time Stamps

0:00 - Trying to Cope: Immediate Hours & Days After the Funeral

4:30 - The Food Frenzy: Should You Drop Off or Stay and Talk?

6:00 - Long-Term Coping Mechanisms: Weeks & Months After the Funeral

11:30 - Few & Far Between Finding Creative Ways to See the Kids.

16:30 - God’s Faithfulness: How Curtis Reconnected with Michal's Kids.

21:30 - What Do We Do with Mom’s Belongings? Navigating Sentimental Keepsakes

27:00 - A Memorable Oil Change Story

30:30 - Repurposing Mom’s Belongings: Creating Meaningful Memories

32:30 - An Unforgettable Gift: Support for Michal’s Grieving Kids

36:30 - Heartbreaking Moments: How Kids Cope with Grief

38:30 - Life Will Never Be the Same Again: Embracing the New Normal

43:00 - Finding Purpose from Grief: Turning Pain into Purpose

45:30 - Joining the Grief Club: Running to the Hard Together

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