When I hear women say they are not good enough because they yell at their kids, they can’t keep up with the laundry or house cleaning, they are not doing all the things other moms are doing, etc.

It makes me sad because this is not true and I feel bad that women are suffering and they don’t need to.

I know these moms have good hearts and they are doing the best they can but they feel overwhelmed and frustrated.

This is how I use to feel before I found about the coaching model which was created by Brooke Castillo.

The model is an explanation of how we experience life. It breaks down our experiences into 5 areas.

Circumstances, thought, feeling, actions and results.

Circumstance are things that are happening in your life that you cannot control.

They are strictly facts with no drama or opinions.

Examples: the weather, what you child said,

Second part is thoughts – Basically what happens in your mind, words or sentences your think.

Sometimes this words or sentences are helpful to us and sometimes they are not.

It was interesting to me that two people can have the same or close to the same circumstance in their lives and have two totally different thoughts about it.

Example: one mom has 4 children and works outside her home

And she thinks, This is all too much. So she feel overwhelmed

Another mom has 4 children and works outside her home

But she thinks, I will figure this out, one day at a time. She could feel in-control, or capable.

Third is feelings or emotions – vibrations in our body that are created because of our thoughts not the circumstances in our lives.

When I found out about the model and how my human brain works I felt so free.

I could have one area in my life where I could have control.

I could choose how I think about the circumstances or challenge and things going on in my life which changes how I feel about my life.

Tool for negative thoughts

Next time you have a negative thought about yourself,

1. Beware that your brain is doing it’s job to keep you save

2. Question is the thought is even true

Make a list in your mind of all the ways you are good enough Or all the things you are doing “right”

Example of yelling at your kids

Think of all the times you are patient with them and spoke in control.

Give yourself some come compassion, After all you are human

Most of the time you don’t yell at your kids.

Show you brain it isn’t true you are not a good enough mom and then let the negative thought float out of your brain like a cloud.

Maybe you have this thought often and you know it is not true, you don’t even have to question the thought

so let it float out of your head like a cloud.

3, Choose a thought you want to have about yourself

Like, “I am figuring this mom thing out.” Or “I have everything under control.” Or “When I show up as myself I am an amazing mom.”

Choose a thought that you can believe and that helps you.

Then, go and be the mom, wife, sister, friend, employee you want to be and do all the things you need to

or want to do, being your best YOU.