Do you ever experience the anticipation of going to a movie you just know it is going to be so good and you can’t wait to go.

You were so excited to go, but as you leave the theater you are so disappointed.

You expected the movie to be much better, but it was a letdown.

How could the writer and director and actors let us down. So disappointing.

Have you ever had people in your life disappoint you. They just didn’t meet up to your expectations.

These expectations are like A Manuel we have for people in our life.

Interestingly, we often have an unspoken instruction guide or manual for the people in our lives about how we would like them to behave, so we can feel good and be happy.

Freeing Truths you will learn:

#1 WE CANNOT CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE'S BEHAVIOR

and thinking that we would be happier if they would do what we want and expect cause us so much unnecessary suffering.

#2 Other people's behavior has no impact on us emotionally until we think about

their behavior, interpret it, and choose to make it mean something.

#3 Our happiness is not determined by what other's do, how they act, or what they say.

#4 It is my job to make or create happiness in my life.

So Be aware of when you have expectations for other people.

When you want them to act a certain way or do something so you will be happy.

Just know, This is normal, nothing has gone wrong.

But you can choose how you want to feel.

When you are ready you might consider throwing away or even burning the rules and expectations you have for others.

Doing this will help you create the balance and peace, joy and happiness in your life you want.

AFTER ALLL ONLY YOU ARE REPSONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS!

Which is wonderful news!

When I hear women say they are not good enough because they yell at their kids, they can’t keep up with the laundry or house cleaning, they are not doing all the things other moms are doing, etc.

It makes me sad because this is not true and I feel bad that women are suffering and they don’t need to.

I know these moms have good hearts and they are doing the best they can but they feel overwhelmed and frustrated.

This is how I use to feel before I found about the coaching model which was created by Brooke Castillo.

The model is an explanation of how we experience life. It breaks down our experiences into 5 areas.

Circumstances, thought, feeling, actions and results.

Circumstance are things that are happening in your life that you cannot control.

They are strictly facts with no drama or opinions.

Examples: the weather, what you child said,

Second part is thoughts – Basically what happens in your mind, words or sentences your think.

Sometimes this words or sentences are helpful to us and sometimes they are not.

It was interesting to me that two people can have the same or close to the same circumstance in their lives and have two totally different thoughts about it.

Example: one mom has 4 children and works outside her home

And she thinks, This is all too much. So she feel overwhelmed

Another mom has 4 children and works outside her home

But she thinks, I will figure this out, one day at a time. She could feel in-control, or capable.

Third is feelings or emotions – vibrations in our body that are created because of our thoughts not the circumstances in our lives.

When I found out about the model and how my human brain works I felt so free.

I could have one area in my life where I could have control.

I could choose how I think about the circumstances or challenge and things going on in my life which changes how I feel about my life.

Tool for negative thoughts

Next time you have a negative thought about yourself,

1. Beware that your brain is doing it’s job to keep you save

2. Question is the thought is even true

Make a list in your mind of all the ways you are good enough Or all the things you are doing “right”

Example of yelling at your kids

Think of all the times you are patient with them and spoke in control.

Give yourself some come compassion, After all you are human

Most of the time you don’t yell at your kids.

Show you brain it isn’t true you are not a good enough mom and then let the negative thought float out of your brain like a cloud.

Maybe you have this thought often and you know it is not true, you don’t even have to question the thought

so let it float out of your head like a cloud.

3, Choose a thought you want to have about yourself

Like, “I am figuring this mom thing out.” Or “I have everything under control.” Or “When I show up as myself I am an amazing mom.”

Choose a thought that you can believe and that helps you.

Then, go and be the mom, wife, sister, friend, employee you want to be and do all the things you need to

or want to do, being your best YOU.

If you have listened to me before you may have noticed I changed my introduction.

So this podcast is an evolving thing.

The goal has always been to help women have more love and confidence in themselves.

I have always felt this is the key to living and experience life to its fullest.

You have heard my say before that self-confidence and self-love are mirror images of each other.

If you are self-confident, you love yourself and if you love yourself, you are confident.

So I am clarifying the focus of this podcast to be a place where moms and all women learn how to make self-love and self-confidence the foundation of their lives, so they have the emotional and physical energy and stamina to enjoy balance, peace and sprinkles of joy and happiness in their personal and family lives.

I envision moms as self-confident superwomen with self-love as their superpower. I see them single handedly balancing children, household chores, church and community service, family life and self-care and maybe a job with a smile on her face and joy and love in her heart.

Create your own vision or ideal for your life.

It is possible and could even be even better than you could image.