What do you do when you try to do everything right and it still falls apart?

In this mini episode of The Confident Body Podcast, I share a very real, very human setback I experienced this week when my ebook was unexpectedly blocked on Amazon. Instead of pivoting immediately, I sat on the floor of my closet and cried. And that moment became a powerful reminder of how setbacks actually work in the brain and nervous system.

This episode is about walking your talk when things go sideways.

You’ll learn why your first emotional reaction is not a failure, how shame and perfectionism show up after disappointment, and how to harness setbacks so they strengthen you instead of stopping you. I also connect this experience directly to weight loss, because the same nervous system responses that show up during life setbacks show up after overeating, scale fluctuations, or missed workouts.

If you’ve ever felt discouraged, shut down, or tempted to quit after a setback, this episode will help you understand what’s happening inside your body and how to move through it with confidence and self-trust.

• Why setbacks trigger intense emotions like shame, anger, and confusion
• What’s actually happening in your nervous system when you feel shut down
• Why “wallowing” is not weakness, and how emotional processing shortens recovery time
• How asking better questions helps your brain move from panic to problem-solving
• How the same mental setbacks show up in weight loss and overeating
• How to turn failure into feedback instead of proof that something is wrong with you
• Why returning to supportive tools is maintenance, not backsliding

This episode is for you if:

• You feel like you keep “failing” at weight loss or habits
• You spiral emotionally after setbacks
• You struggle with perfectionism or good-girl conditioning
• You want sustainable weight loss without shame
• You’re tired of starting over and want confidence that lasts

Setbacks are not a problem. They’re a SIGNAL.

They are moments your nervous system needs safety, not discipline. When you learn how to regulate first and reframe second, you stop turning temporary struggles into permanent stories about yourself.

The way you think about setbacks is the difference between someone who loses weight and keeps it off vs someone who stays stuck.

Get the book my new book LIGHT: The New Psychology of Weight Loss CLICK HERE to get it in ebook format. Or CLICK HERE to get in in hard cover or audiobook.

Also, check out my first book: You Are A Miracle

Have you ever eaten when you were already satisfied and then felt frustrated with yourself afterward? Not confused, just annoyed, irritated, and wondering why this keeps happening.

In this episode, we’re talking about why eating when you’re not hungry isn’t a willpower problem, a discipline issue, or a sign that something is wrong with you. It’s often the result of hidden emotional obstacles your brain learned a long time ago, obstacles you can’t work around until you can actually see them.

You’ll hear a real coaching example that shows how food can become a form of protection in moments that feel emotionally charged, judged, or unsafe. We break down how frustration is a signal, not a failure, and why trying harder without investigating what’s in the way keeps you stuck.

This episode will help you understand:

• Why you eat even when your body feels physically satisfied
• How emotional safety, not hunger, often drives eating
• What “hidden obstacles” look like in real life, with examples from family dynamics, work situations, and daily stress
• Why self-judgment creates more stuckness instead of change
• How to investigate your eating with curiosity instead of criticism

You’ll also learn a simple, repeatable process to help you stop blaming yourself and start identifying the emotional roadblocks that make eating feel automatic or out of control. This approach builds self-trust, supports sustainable weight loss, and makes doable hunger feel possible over time.

If you’re tired of feeling like you should know better and ready to understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface, this episode is for you.

And if this conversation resonates, my book LIGHT goes even deeper, especially in part two where we address hidden obstacles like people pleasing, perfectionism, excuses, and the patterns that quietly keep you stuck. Go get the book. It’s available on Amazon.

Get the book! LIGHT: The New Psychology of Weight Loss

Click HERE for the digital ebook version

Also, check out my first book: You Are A Miracle

Okay, let’s talk about mid-January for a second.

This is usually the point where motivation dips, routines get messy, and that tiny voice pops up saying, “Well… I guess I already blew it.” That moment even has a name. It’s called Quitter’s Day, and it sneaks up on a lot of people every January.

If you’re feeling less excited, less consistent, or tempted to start over, you’re not broken. You’re normal.

In this episode, you get a calm, pressure-free breakdown of why Quitter’s Day happens, why it has nothing to do with willpower, and how to keep going without turning January into another false start.

You walk through the LIGHT framework, step by step, in a way that actually makes sense when real life gets busy. This isn’t about hype or pushing harder. It’s about learning how to use what already happened so progress doesn’t fall apart the second motivation fades.

This episode is for you if:

• January started strong and now feels shaky
• You’re worried you already ruined the year
• You feel stuck between quitting and starting over
• You want weight loss that lasts without pressure

You’ll hear about:

• What Quitter’s Day really is and why it shows up every year
• How to stop treating mid-January like a failure point
• How to use curiosity instead of self-criticism
• How to gather real data from your habits
• How to harness results so progress keeps moving
• How to tend your garden instead of tearing everything down

You need a way to keep going when motivation fades.

That’s exactly what this episode gives you.

And if you want to go deeper, the book LIGHT walks you through this process in a clear, step-by-step way. It’s basically your steady guide for the moments when things feel messy and you’re tempted to quit.

You didn’t ruin the year. You’re still learning. You can keep going.

Get the book! LIGHT: The New Psychology of Weight Loss

Click HERE for the digital ebook version

Also, check out my first book: You Are A Miracle