This episode is all about resurfacing — that transformative moment when the old version of you finally releases its grip, and you rise with clarity, strength, and unapologetic truth.

Straight from Tami's Paddleboard, she dives into (pun intended):

• The “underworld phase” and shadow work — why breakdowns often lead to breakthroughs
• Outgrowing old identities and stepping into your next evolution
• Recognizing where you’ve been giving away your power
• Releasing the people-pleaser and embracing authentic self-expression
• Speaking your truth, even when it scares you
• Healing fear of rejection and choosing self-trust
• What it feels like to resurface into a new timeline — grounded, aligned, and empowered

If you’re navigating spiritual awakenings, emotional healing, reclaiming your voice, or shedding old patterns, this episode is your permission to rise, reclaim, and resurface fully as your most authentic self.

Healing isn’t just something we do for ourselves, it’s something that moves through past and future generations. In this conversation, Tami and Dr. Alvin Thomas - Clinical Psychologist, Professor, and Researcher - dive deep into how self-awareness and inner healing create ripples across generations, and how the bravery to face our wounds can transform entire family dynamics.

Together, they remind us that the work we do to heal ourselves doesn’t just change us, it touches everyone connected to us and becomes one of the greatest gifts we can offer those we love most.

Connect with Dr. Alvin Thomas:

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Show Notes:

• 00:00 Podcasting Woes and Wins
• 02:58 Balancing Dreams and Self-Care
• 05:55 The Importance of Personal Journeys
• 09:02 Comparing Journeys: A Double-Edged Sword
• 11:57 Inner Child Work: A Path to Healing
• 17:51 Understanding Family Dynamics and Wounds
• 23:54 Modeling Healthy Emotions for Future Generations
• 36:17 Understanding Emotional Regulation and Its Impact
• 39:09 The Influence of Parental Modeling on Children
• 42:32 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 46:29 Modeling Vulnerability and Emotional Expression
• 50:22 The Legacy of Parental Wounds
• 54:09 Healing Through Conversations and Acknowledgment
• 01:00:23 The Necessity of Unpacking Emotional Wounds
• 01:13:57 Healing Conversations and Personal Growth
• 01:16:10 The Mission Behind the Black Fathers Pulse Podcast
• 01:19:33 Challenging Stereotypes of Black Fatherhood
• 01:21:43 Common Humanity in Parenting Stories
• 01:23:33 The Importance of Emotional Expression
• 01:29:04 Recognizing and Addressing Childhood Wounds
• 01:33:48 The Impact of Parental Communication on Children
• 01:38:25 The Cycle of Emotional Neglect and Its Consequences
• 01:42:52 The Journey of Personal and Professional Growth

I was prepared for the physical challenges of my first HYROX event. What I didn’t expect was for it to reveal just how much emotional weight I’d been carrying.

Somewhere between the training, the illness, the IV drips, and the intensity of race day, HYROX pulled up years of grief, loneliness, self-protection, and the quiet ache of doing life solo for far too long.

The sudden 14-pound weight spike in just two weeks became the wake-up call I couldn’t ignore — the physical proof of everything I’d been holding in.

This event didn’t just test my body. It cracked open everything I’ve been avoiding. It forced me to feel the pain I’ve suppressed… maybe even used fitness to outrun. And it made me face the ways I’ve kept people at a distance because it felt safer than risking disappointment.

This is the real story of how HYROX became less about the competition and more about healing, trauma patterns, and emotional clarity.

If you’ve ever pushed down your pain until it showed up in your body… If you’ve ever kept people at arm’s length because disappointment hurts more than loneliness… If you’ve ever been confronted with the truth you’ve been avoiding...

This episode is going to hit home.

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00:00 — Welcome to Unscripted Healing 01:16 — The (chaotic) weeks leading up to HYROX 05:08 — Getting sick + training setbacks 08:37 — Hydra Life experience + recovery 10:45 — The electric energy of HYROX 14:06 — Team dynamics, vulnerability, and growth 18:22 — Emotional transference through physical intensity 20:53 — Community, connection, and letting yourself be supported 29:19 — When unprocessed sadness finally breaks through 31:32 — How isolation becomes a habit 33:40 — Ignoring physical symptoms (including the heart attack story) 40:02 — Emotional ↔ physical health 45:52 — The spiral of healing and being witnessed 52:54 — Where are you blocking yourself from love + support?

What if the reason you're exhausted is because you're holding on to something that’s already trying to fall away? This episode invites you to notice what’s no longer aligned so you can step into your next season with clarity and power.

We explore seasonal living, emotional release, protecting your energy, rebuilding self-trust and trust with others "one marble at a time," and the significance of 11/11 as an energetic reset.

Chapters: 03:58 — 2025 Reflection: Why slow growth can feel lackluster 08:10 — A year of true nervous system regulation 11:07 — Learning to live like the seasons 14:28 — Where is your energy going? What’s not reciprocal? 18:08 — Understanding energy as a privilege 18:43 — The Marble Jar: How to rebuild trust with yourself 26:00 — Why protecting your energy matters 29:43 — Who is adding marbles to your jar? 30:58 — 11/11 as the Energetic New Year 34:40 — Evolve or remain: The moment of choice Connect with Tami F45 Free 7-Day Trial: Use Code "Tami"

What if saying yes to your soul meant risking everything? After leaving her corporate job, selling nearly all her belongings, and setting out to travel the world, Robin Finney — “The Wandering Aunt” — discovered what true freedom really costs.

Her leap of faith eventually led to bankruptcy — but also to deep healing, renewed trust, and a calling to help other women release shame around money and self-worth. In this raw and empowering episode, Tami and Robin explore what it means to surrender control, rebuild after loss, and live in alignment with your truth. Through her “Soulo Adventures,” Robin now helps others face the unknown with courage — proving that sometimes the breakdown is the breakthrough.

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Show Notes:

• • 04:54 — Meet Robin Finney, “The Wandering Aunt”
  • 07:25 — Discovering identity and freedom through travel
  • 08:38 — Understanding neurodivergence and how it shapes self-awareness
  • 13:24 — The spark behind Robin’s love for travel
  • 20:02 — The hardest part of healing: letting go
  • 23:20 — How childhood beliefs influence adult choices and adventures
  • 29:23 — Growing up in a conservative home and healing the fear of God
  • 38:00 — The risks and rewards of entrepreneurship and self-investment
  • 43:10 — Releasing the weight of other people’s projections
  • 48:00 — Finding peace and purpose after bankruptcy
  • 7:00 — Robin’s upcoming Soulo Adventures event (Nov 11)
  • 1:02:20 — Full-circle healing moments
  • 1:09:30 — Why we resist adventure — and what it’s really showing us

You can’t build an authentic life while living for someone else’s approval.

In this episode, Tami records lakeside (while sitting on a fallen log) to unpack how to unlearn conformity, heal what’s blocking your self-expression, and reconnect with your inner child — so you can build your dreams from a place of wholeness, not wounds.

A powerful reminder that authenticity isn’t rebellion — it’s alignment.

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Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction to Unscripted Healing
• 01:17 Channeling Sacred Anger
• 03:05 Dreams and Manifestation
• 04:54 Overcoming Doubts and Criticism
• 06:22 The Journey of Authenticity
• 08:27 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 11:30 Observations from the Volleyball Game
• 13:15 Taking Ownership of Our Healing
• 15:28 Embracing Authenticity
• 17:38 Discomfort as a Growth Tool
• 20:27 Understanding Ego and Inner Child
• 23:25 The Power of Authentic Messaging
• 27:27 Embracing Your Inner Builder
• 29:30 Authenticity in Building Dreams
• 31:46 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing

Sometimes the universe doesn’t whisper — it drops a safety pole on your head!

That wake-up call pushed Brie Pawlak to realize that a “safe” engineering job wasn’t truly safe if it meant abandoning their soul’s purpose.

In this Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing episode, Tami Schiltz and Brie dive into awakening, healing childhood patterns, and aligning with your true frequency. They explore how to trust change, practice energetic hygiene, and find real safety through presence and self-love.

Brie also shares insights from their Lightworker Strong Challenge, a space for empaths and healers to rise in community and embody their light.

If you’ve been feeling the nudge to realign, release, or rise — this one’s for you!

The 5-Day Lightworker Strong Challenge starts Monday, October 20th!

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Connection
• 02:44 Journey of Self-Discovery
• 05:31 Understanding Identity and Pronouns
• 08:28 Spiritual Awakening and Transformation
• 11:31 The Call to Change
• 14:37 Presence and Inner Work
• 17:33 Energetic Hygiene and Frequency
• 20:32 Healing and Transformation
• 23:22 Lightworker's Challenge and Tools for Growth
• 28:51 Transformational Energies and Frequency Shifts
• 31:19 Navigating Energetic Changes and Eclipse Effects
• 36:10 Understanding Timelines and Frequency Alignment
• 37:44 Exploring Gene Keys and Soul Alignment
• 40:48 The Power of Choice and Embracing Change
• 45:25 Trusting the Process and Letting Go
• 50:27 Healing Patterns and Embracing Vulnerability
• 54:29 The Importance of Support and Community
• 01:01:45 Identifying as a Light Worker and Seeking Purpose
• 01:02:41 Awakening the Lightworker Within
• 01:04:00 Embracing Your Unique Energy
• 01:05:23 Maintaining Your Light in Challenging Times
• 01:07:48 The Power of Community and Connection
• 01:08:18 The Call to Action in the Age of Aquarius
• 01:10:34 Building a Strong Foundation for Growth
• 01:11:28 The Lightworker Strong Challenge
• 01:13:32 Bringing Light to a Fractured World

After gaining and losing 80–100 pounds five times, Julie finally realized that she didn’t need fixing — she needed healing. That curiosity sparked a five-year journey through pain, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, grief, ultimately leading her back to the truest version of herself.

Through vulnerability, self-compassion, and honest reflection, Julie shares how she began to release old patterns, reconnect with her body, and rediscover joy in the simple moments.

Timestamps & Highlights:

• 00:00 – Introduction to Healing Journeys

• 02:15 – Who is Julie / Background & Community Involvement

• 04:56 – How Julie and Tami Met

• 08:04 – Early struggles with self-worth & joy

• 12:03 – Growing up in a “Leave it to Beaver” family

• 17:30 – Embracing imperfection & the ongoing healing journey

• 20:32 – Setting boundaries & prioritizing herself

• 22:35 – Realizing emotions are a strength, not weakness

• 28:38 – Lessons from her mother & family legacy

• 37:18 – Grief as a catalyst for deeper self-healing

• 41:22 – Childhood influences & people-pleasing patterns

• 49:39 – Healing’s ripple effect on relationships

• 55:12 – Vulnerability in relationships & leadership

• 01:04:52 – Gratitude for support through healing journeys

• 01:10:53 – Understanding comfort food & emotional cues

• 01:11:52 – Full circle moments & personal growth

Key Takeaways:

• Healing is about reconnecting with your authentic self, not fixing yourself.

• Vulnerability is a strength that deepens connection and personal growth.

• Boundaries and prioritizing yourself are essential for long-term well-being.

• Grief and loss can catalyze transformation and self-discovery.

• The ripple effect: healing yourself naturally supports those around you.