In Episode #26, "Breaking the Cycle: Becoming the Father He Never Had," Don shares his journey from a traumatic childhood to becoming a committed father and coach. He opens up about the emotional toll of feeling abandoned as a child, how becoming a parent triggered unresolved wounds, and the importance of finding healthy outlets for coping.

Don also offers tough-love advice for parents navigating divorce, along with a heartfelt message to their kids. This episode is a candid look at breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and building a better future for the next generation.

If this episode triggered you in any way, please reach out. My job (and purpose) is to hold space for you and your Inner Child as you share and validate your story and I am just a FREE Discover Call away.

In This Episode:

• 01:50 - Take Two: Recording challenges and overcoming technical difficulties
• 02:30 - Reflection on how Krista’s episode inspired personal growth
• 06:05 - Introducing Don, the “Gym Bro” and younger “Big Brother”
• 11:40 - Discussing how your past doesn’t dictate your future
• 15:25 - Emotional impacts of growing up in an unstable home
• 19:20 - The consequences of adults breaking promises to their children
• 22:44 - The positive shift that came from finding a healthy outlet
• 23:27 - How becoming a father triggered Don’s unhealed childhood wounds 26:48 - The cycle of emotional neglect passed down from parents to children
• 30:17 - The parallel between Water Boy and Don’s aggression and frustration
• 31:10 - Creating a safe space for processing all emotions from a traumatic childhood
• 34:24 - The pivotal moment when injury forced Don to choose a new path
• 39:07 - The dangers of ego and its need for negative attention
• 42:36 - How Don’s childhood experiences have made him a better coach
• 52:20 - The risk of projecting personal wounds onto one’s children
• 53:30 - Differentiating between a healthy ego and an unbalanced one
• 59:20 - Don’s advice for parents going through divorce and a message to their kids

In Episode #25, we welcome Krista, the powerful voice behind Z104, 96.3 Star Country, and the Madtown Mom Squad Podcast. Krista bravely shares her journey of overcoming the stigma around mental health, the pain of childhood trauma, and her experiences with $exual assault. Through her story,

Krista reveals how she found her voice, healed her wounds, and became a strong role model for her daughter. Join us for this deeply unscripted and raw conversation about resilience, self-worth, and breaking the cycle of generational trauma.

If you or someone you know needs support around any of these topics, please do not hesitate to schedule a free discovery call with Tami. Schedule Here.

Krista also mentions Tellurian in the episode as a resource that was of great help to her through her healing journey.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 - Introduction to Krista, the voice behind Z104, 96.3 Star Country, and the Madtown Mom Squad Podcast.
• 05:17 - Krista discusses her passion for breaking the stigma surrounding mental health.
• 06:00 - The impact of her parents' divorce and the abandonment wound it created, leading to projections onto others.
• 08:24 - Krista shares the moment when the pain became unbearable, leading her to attempt to end her life.
• 10:15 - Krista recounts her first experience of sexual assault in 6th grade.
• 12:53 - Another violation in 7th grade left Krista in a "freeze" state.
• 16:40 - Moving away to a different state didn’t stop the violence from following Krista.
• 18:42 - Krista's audition for Second City and how it led her into the radio business.
• 19:25 - The aftermath of being mugged by three men, which triggered severe anxiety and physical reactions.
• 21:00 - Krista shares the traumatic experience of being assaulted by a family member and the toll it took on her body.
• 23:28 - How trauma therapy, specifically EMDR, was recommended by her therapist.
• 24:26 - The connection between all her trauma and her childhood abandonment wound.
• 25:06 - The importance of creating a safe space for children to express their emotions.
• 25:54 - Krista discusses how looking at herself as a child was a pivotal step in her healing journey.
• 26:49 - Addressing the common question: “Why are you coming forward now?”
• 27:53 - Exploring how abandonment wounds can manifest in various aspects of life.
• 28:38 - How therapy helped Krista stop being a people pleaser and recognize her self-worth.
• 31:21 - Krista’s advice to women who have experienced trauma.
• 35:25 - The prevalence of body dysmorphia and disordered eating among those who experienced childhood trauma.
• 37:06 - How to ensure children feel safe and open to discussing their feelings.
• 38:38 - The dangers of people-pleasing, which creates a false sense of love and builds resentment.
• 39:44 - Strategies for creating emotional safety within the body to prevent trauma responses.
• 40:44 - Why people avoid pain through addictions and the resulting harm to themselves and others.
• 42:35 - The importance of breaking the cycle of generational trauma.
• 46:49 - Krista’s journey to becoming a strong role model for both her Inner Child and her 14-year-old daughter.
• 49:23 - How Krista set strong boundaries to protect her energy, peace, and healing.
• 51:48 - The power of forgiveness and how it is ultimately for your own benefit.
• 53:38 - Finding people who truly support you and knowing when to let go of those who don’t.
• 1:02:40 - The importance of helping children detach from their ego to prevent the creation of false narratives.
• 1:06:16 - Krista’s response to losing her job and the lessons learned from that experience.
• 1:10:56 - Krista offers advice for abuse survivors and highlights resources like Tellurian.
• 1:15:12 - A plug for Krista’s podcast, Madtown Mom Squad, co-hosted with three other moms, focusing on real conversations.
• 1:19:50 - Wrapping up the most unscripted episode ever.

Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse is mentioned in this episode.

Sue was an intuitive, spunky, funny, little firecracker growing up until she learned it was better and safer to be quiet and unseen. Her protective Ego convinced her that if she wanted to receive love, she needed to be the “good girl.” This persona not only turned her into a People Please but also silenced her intuition and voice impacting every relationship in her life.

It wasn’t until Sue found the courage to leave her abusive marriage, in order to protect her daughters, that she started to find her voice and power again. Tune in to hear how Sue started listening to her Intuition again, which guided her on her healing journey, and into her “happily ever after!”

In this Episode:

• 03:33 - Why now is the time to step into your “Main Character” energy.
• 05:06 - The triggering experience of being a judge at Taste of Madison.
• 06:30 - Welcoming my guest, Sue, and how our paths crossed.
• 09:50 - Understanding what it means when past weight loss strategies no longer work.
• 12:07 - How Sue’s childhood experiences dimmed her light and led her to become a people-pleaser.
• 18:20 - The moment 5-year-old Sue learned not to trust her intuition.
• 25:35 - How Sue’s Protective Ego guided her through school.
• 31:16 - The beginning of Sue’s journey in reparenting her Inner Child through education and career.
• 37:00 - The impact of Sue’s childhood wounds in her relationships and abusive marriage.
• 48:22 - Sue’s efforts to provide her daughters with a supportive and nurturing childhood.
• 50:25 - How empowering herself to ask for help changed Sue’s perception of failure.
• 53:46 - The struggle of losing oneself in motherhood while trying to create a better life for her children.
• 59:40 - Why your Inner Child holds the key to unlocking healing, potential, and success.
• 1:04:16 - How Sue’s healing journey turned her dreams into reality.
• 1:08:30 - The ripple effect of Sue’s healing on those around her.
• 1:13:44 - The importance of meeting people where they are with love and compassion without lowering your vibration.
• 1:15:23 - A touching healing moment between Sue and her sister.
• 1:20:30 - Sue’s heartfelt advice for those curious about Inner Child Work and the emotional moment that brought me to tears.
• 1:22:40 - Finding love again and living out her Inner Child’s fairytale.

Connect with Tami to Reconnect with Your Inner Child:

• www.unscriptedhealingwi.com
• https://www.instagram.com/tami.schiltz.rd/
• https://www.facebook.com/tlschiltz

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In this heartfelt episode, my 10-year-old daughter and I share our deeply personal journey, beginning with my realization that my daughter’s struggles were a reflection of my own unhealed childhood wounds. I share how parenting Aria has helped me reparent my Inner Child and the profound changes that have come from healing our relationship as mother and daughter.

Aria also shares her unique perspective on various topics, including the development of a child’s Ego, her experience of COVID-19, and how kids pick up on and are affected by their parents' energy. We also delve into practical aspects, such as ensuring kids have outlets that bring them joy, the significance of quality time, especially for older siblings, and making sure children feel seen and heard. Aria even shares her new favorite app for staying calm and motivated.

Tune in for an episode filled with love, growth, and invaluable lessons from our healing journey together.

Please don't hesitate to reach out and schedule a Free Discovery Call if you want help navigating your healing while parenting. You can use this link to set up a call and/or explore more about Inner Child Work.

Episode Highlights:

• 02:30 - Why I was so nervous to have my daughter on the podcast
• 03:41 - Is my daughter depressed? When I realized my daughter was a reflection of me
• 06:00 - Zoe’s Grandpa’s parting gift to the world
• 08:00 - Welcome my favorite guest so far, my 10-year-old daughter, Aria
• 11:05 - How parenting Aria has helped me reparent my Inner Child
• 12:34 - What happens when a kid’s Ego starts to develop
• 15:00 - Covid through Aria’s Eyes
• 17:15 - How abandoning myself made me emotionally abandon my daughter
• 19:00 - When I learned what NOT to do when Aria was triggered
• 23:25 - Why Aria had a hard time telling me how she was feeling
• 25:37 - Kids pick up on energy, make sure they aren’t taking on yours
• 27:26 - Don’t take your bad day out on your kids
• 28:28 - What Intuition feels like for Aria and why parents need to foster it
• 34:27 - How understanding Ego has helped Aria with kids at school
• 37:42 - Aria’s takeaway from Inside Out 2
• 39:42 - How I learned you can’t rush into the “teaching moment”
• 44:16 - Aria the Magical Manifestor
• 48:08 - Aria’s new favorite app to help her calm down and stay motivated - Link Below
• 52:00 - When my Ego took over and broke my phone
• 57:22 - Make sure your kids have an outlet that brings THEM joy
• 59:30 - Be intentional about making sure your kids feel SEEN and HEARD
• :02:40 - Why quality time is so important for kids - especially the older sibling
• 1:05:11 - Aria goes Skibidi Rizz to send us out!

Links & Resources Mentioned: Aria’s favorite app to help her calm down and stay motivated: Finch

Most of us have already lost someone we love and all of us are going to have to face the inevitable at some point. Those final days with your loved ones are days you will never get back and the last thing you want is for your Protective Ego to get in the way of being able to fully show up from a place of love, leaving you living in regret.

This episode will not only help you learn how to take care of yourself while taking care of others, but also help you understand how suppressed emotions can be triggered during these challenging times.

If you want help processing your emotions around the loss of a loved one, please feel free to set-up a FREE Discovery Call with this link because you don't have to move through those emotions alone.

Intro:

• 4:40 - What Wonder Woman had to do with my recent speeding ticket
• 15:15 - How the Universe got me out of another speeding ticket 2 days later
• 19:05 - Exciting update about next week’s guest

Episode:

• 20:25 - Welcoming Zoe back to the Tami Talks Podcast
• 21:55 - Why she is Zooming from the hospital
• 23:08 - How and why people project their wounds during hard times
• 27:16 - How helping her grandfather transition has been healing
• 30:33 - How my Wonder Woman story came full circle after listening to Zoe’s purpose
• 31:50 - How Zoe is supporting herself while supporting her family
• 35:55 - How losing my father-in-law in 2017 helped me find a crucial piece of my puzzle
• 39:33 - How to not lose yourself when losing loved ones
• 40:40 - How suppressed emotions get in the way of showing up for ourselves and others
• 44:22 - How unmet emotional needs in childhood block your energy and shut you down
• 49:20 - Why learning how to meet your emotional needs is so important
• 51:54 - What happens to your physical body when you suppress your emotions
• 53:42 - How Ego’s “best intentions” to avoid emotions only makes matters worse
• 54:08 - Why we need to teach our young daughters to speak up for their needs NOW
• 57:21 - What happens physically and emotionally when you give your power away
• 1:01:18 - If your kids have physical symptoms “out of nowhere,” look deeper
• 1:03:43 - What happens as adults when we didn’t receive the love we needed as kids
• 1:09:46 - What happens when you create a safe space for people and their emotions
• 1:13:10 - How my own blocked energy from childhood wounds impacts my career
• 1:14:10 - What happens when we block our Intuition
• 1:19:10 - How we block our own blessings and miss the messages
• 1:26:26 - Energy is EVERYTHING - call it what you want but it’s there and REAL

Time flies when you are podcasting and fumbling along the way!

Intro: Celebrating 20 episodes with a massive THANK YOU to the Tami Talks Listeners and a LOT of behind-the-scenes triggers and healing that have come up along the way!

Help Me & Lil Tam Tam Celebrate: Leave a review so we can hit our goal of 20 NEW REVIEWS!!

Timestamped Highlights:

• 2:28 - When The Universe deleted my audio, forcing me to pause and reflect on this journey.
• 3:10 - Snoop Dogg Said it Best!
• 4:03 - The triggers and healing this podcast has created that I haven’t talked about—until now.
• 4:24 - Why losing the audio of a recent recording triggered me so much.
• 7:47 - When my Ego said, “F*** THIS! I’m DONE!”
• 8:11 - How editing the Everyday M&K Episode snapped me out of it.
• 8:50 - Comparison is the thief of joy.
• 9:33 - When I had to give myself my own pep talk.
• 10:15 - How getting pulled over for speeding was just what I needed.
• 11:33 - What BIG, explosive reactions are really trying to tell you.
• 13:37 - How this podcast has triggered and healed my worthiness wound.
• 14:20 - The biggest investment I ever made on myself that likely saved me.
• 16:43 - What setbacks really are and how I have learned to embrace them.
• 20:29 - How this podcast got started.
• 24:16 - Put yourself in the energy of what you want.
• 25:21 - Release the “HOW” and TRUST.
• 27:24 - Turning this Podcast into the Final Episode of Survivor.
• 28:23 - The “fan mail” I received after the Sexual Shame Episode.
• 30:25 - The healing connections that has come from Colleen’s Episode.
• 32:12 - How my Ego almost sabotaged Korbey’s Episode and how Andrea saved it.
• 37:30 - What really goes on behind the scenes—SO MUCH HEALING.
• 38:46 - THANK YOU TO my editor, Faith.
• 39:55 - The life and healing that happens with my kids when I’m off the mic.
• 41:31 - How me and kids triggered each other and moved through it.
• 45:30 - Why validating Arlo’s experience was so important to my Inner Child.
• 47:35 - Why healing feels like a full-time job.
• 48:35 - HELP ME CELEBRATE by leaving a review to help me reach my goal of receiving 20 new reviews.
• 50:40 - Exciting Inner Childhood Retreat Updates coming soon.

Tune in to this milestone episode of Tami Talks and join the celebration! 🎉

Tune in to hear how two "Good Enough" Bloggers turned their passion for food, fashion, fun, and community into a successful social media following of over 52,000 followers and into a career they love by following their Intuition!

"Why Not You" Free Workshop Interest Form: https://forms.gle/yBwCRJR4fXYCuHK9A

Links to find Everyday M&K:

• https://www.amazon.com/shop/everydaymandk
• https://www.facebook.com/everydaymandk/
• https://www.everydaymandk.com/
• https://www.shopltk.com/explore/everydaymandk

In this Episode:

• Intro - Brava Magazine Feature
• 8:52 - Official Everyday M&K Welcome
• 10:14 - Melissa & Katie's Journey Before Everyday M&K
• 12:20 - How Melissa & Katie Found Each Other
• 15:06 - Katie’s “Divine Intervention” That Signaled a Turning Point
• 17:45 - Taking the Step You Fear Might Not Be the Perfect One
• 18:05 - Katie’s Favorite Quote: “Nothing in life is so permanent that you can’t change it.”
• 18:31 - Overcoming the Fear of Failure
• 19:54 - The Difficult Decision That Led to Creating the Blog
• 20:33 - “This Has Not Been the Perfect Journey”
• 21:24 - How a Hobby or Interest Can Be a Clue or Stepping Stone
• 22:18 - Sponsorship Time: It’s My Fit Tribe
• 23:10 - Tami Talks: Free “Why Not You” Workshop for Everyday M&K Followers and Listeners of the Podcast
• 24:24 - Workshop Information - Link in the Show Notes
• 26:06 - Back to the Episode: The “Tower Moment” That Changed Everything
• 28:00 - Growing from a Part-Time to a Full-Time Blog
• 31:17 - The Myth of “If They Build It, They Will Come”
• 32:47 - “If We Keep Going…”
• 33:09 - Three Years of Grit to Match Their Previous Income
• 33:43 - “Good & Bad Blog Days”
• 34:48 - Growing Their Instagram Following & Joining the LTK Affiliate Program
• 38:10 - What Really Happens Behind the Scenes to Run the Blog
• 39:50 - How They Earn an Income Through the Blog
• 42:30 - Blogging for Fun vs. Blogging to Earn an Income
• 44:27 - Measuring Success by the Fun You’re Having
• 45:58 - Adjusting to Highs and Lows and How They Trigger Childhood Wounds
• 49:46 - Differences in People-Pleasing Between Melissa and Katie
• 50:42 - How People Project Their Childhood Wounds Onto Them
• 54:52 - “You Are Not Going to Steal My Joy”
• 55:15 - Katie’s Biggest Takeaway: The Importance of Good Communication
• 58:00 - The Experience of Going into Business with Someone Else
• 1:00:15 - We Are All Wounded but Not All Aware
• 1:02:40 - Letting Go of Things That No Longer Serve You
• 1:03:50 - The Blessing of Closed Doors and Avoiding “Golden Handcuffs”
• 1:05:19 - Balancing Authenticity with Protecting Family Privacy
• 1:11:33 - Everyone Has Issues and the “Weirdness” of Social Media
• 1:13:22 - The “Good Enough” Bloggers
• 1:15:08 - The Concept of “Make Your Bed”
• 1:16:03 - Why Melissa Returned to Therapy
• 1:18:02 - Inner Child Neglect When You’re “All Work and No Play”
• 1:20:10 - The Power of Thinking Outside the Box and Taking Risks
• 1:21:38 - Allowing Yourself to Figure Out What Works and What Doesn’t
• 1:22:20 - Don’t Live with Regret

Episode Sponsored By: My Fit Tribe

• https://www.facebook.com/myfittribez
• https://myfittribe.org/
• https://www.instagram.com/my_fittribe/