Claude silver is the worlds first chief heart officer for Vayner Media which has an ethos of “people first”. Claude’s only JD is to touch the hearts of everyone at the company - she is an intuitive, a feeler, and a spiritual being who gets to translator all of that magic into the workplace. 

I think you’ll find joy, solace and lots of love in this episode as we cover emotions in the workplace, building psychological safety and how soft skills like kindness and patience are the real superstars of company culture. Brew some tea, get your pen and paper out and enjoy this special episode. 

In this episode, you will learn: 

• How Claude’s childhood growing up in NYC and Santa Fe 
• How a game called, “Lead my people” with her Dad influenced her leadership style and worldview 
• Claude’s most influential people growing up 
• How Claude’s childhood and struggles in academics early on shape her emotional capacity and intelligence 
• How Outward Bound helped shape Claude into a leader
• What two core learnings remain with Claude to this day: 1. “It’s really not about being right, it’s about being better, about giving, about creating places where people feel loved.” and 2. “We all have this reservoir of untapped potential inside of us. What are we going to do about it?” 
• The power of our internal narrative for mental health and how it shapes the way we show up in the world. 
• Anything that I do that is not in love, that’s fear.
• How Claude always finds a way to see the light within darkness
• What spiritual practices resonate work for Claude 
• David Whyte’s work in corporations, and his book, “The Heart Aroused: The Preservation of the Soul in Corporate America” 
• The word culture comes from the word cul-ture, which means “cultivate of the soul”. 
• On being a human: “It’s the biggest gift of all, and every single day, every single hour is a surprise. It’s the biggest gift of all.” 
• How there is no business success without the people. 
• How emotional regulation, gratitude and patience are the soft skills that need more press and attention. 
• How self-compassion is a core unlearning and relearning for Claude
• “If companies could unlearn priorities, where they put their time and energy and heart, they would unlock the people.

Check out Claude’s podcast, “Emotional Optimism” on Apple and Spotify podcasts and follow her on LinedIn here. 

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Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

We have conditioned and trained "bad" emotions out of us but the truth is is that a wide array of emotions add to the tapestry of our lives. Being literate with our emotions is the first step towards embodying emotional intelligence and being more prepared to lead with courage and presence. In this episode, I plant the seed that all emotions deserve a seat at the table. 

In this 5 Minute Friday, you will learn: 

• What emodiversity means 
• Who Dr. Jill Botle Taylor is and how her work speaks to the power of emodiverstiy 
• Dr. Jill Botle Taylor's TED Talk, "My Stoke of Insight"
• How life without a diversity of emotions is a flat place to live
• How emotions only last up to 90 seconds in the body - and when they last longer, it's because we have a narrative that is fueling the physiological response 
• How emotions are data 
• The next time you are feeling a strong emotion, ask yourself, "what is it I am needing right now?"

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

While we are all actively navigating through individual and collective grief, I introduce David Kessler's newest step to the 5 steps of grief: finding and creating meaning. This solo-pod is a primer to help you understand the message of our emotions, namely grief and anger and how to best process them for closure. 

In this 5 Minute Friday, you will learn: 

• How grief can be sneaky 
• What feeling the feeling to completion means and how this plays out in practice 
• What anger is here to tell us 
• How we can strengthen the muscle of avoidance or attention to emotions
• How grief is a sign that you have loved 
• How creating meaning during and after loss provides closure 

I recommend watching Pixar's movie, Inside Out to navigate learning the meaning of emotions. 

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

Andrea’s become a force for good and change in the world of functional medicine, as a nutritionist who can help chronically ill people get better when no one else can. Her clinical skills have won her the attention of many world-renowned doctors, who consult with her on their own difficult cases. More than that, Andrea trains thousands practitioners every year in how to have the clinical success she’s had. She’s training an army of changemakers in the field of healthcare. Those triumphs came out of Andrea’s own tragedy when her young husband was diagnosed with a fatal brain tumor while she was pregnant with their only child.

I was first drawn to Andrea’s work over a decade ago when I was studying to become a health coach. Little did I know the course I was about to sign up for, Digestive Intensive would change the way I viewed healthcare, problem solving and begin a friendship that would see me through my own personal and professional celebrations and challenges. This episode is raw, it’s real, and it’s brimming with insight and vulnerability. Here we go. 

In this episode we cover:

• Andrea's most influential people growing up
• Key learning that Andrea carries with her to this day
• Andrea's , "we get to" to be what we are most passionate about
• How design and art influenced Andrea's thinking and creativity early on in life 
• How the loss of her beloved husband, Isamu changed her life and her career. 
• What Andrea's superpower is
• What drives Andrea today and her advice for working with unlearning 

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

In this 5 Minute Friday, I argue that questions are more powerful than mantras. I discuss how questions remove us from the island, or illusion, of knowing and help blow up our narrow perspective on how we want things to be.

In this 5 Minute Friday, you will learn:

• The benefits of asking big questions
• How mantras do have some application but more often, limit our vision
• How fear and love shape the questions we ask 
• My favorite question to help open me up from fear: "What does life want from me?" 
• How asking questions paves the way for growth, learning, more play and more FUN!

My favorite quote on living the questions by poet and author, Rainer Maria Rilke: 

"Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer."

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

Quitting comes with a lot of shame and fear. We are all told from a young age, that quitting is weakness and is a recipe to let yourself and others down. In this 5 Minute Friday, I challenge that notion by sharing my relationship to quitting from a young age through sports and how more recently, I am actively unlearning the meaning and value of stepping away from relationships and pursuits that my body says no to. 

In this 5 Minute Friday you will learn:

• How society conditions us to think about quitting 
• How we have learned to disassociate from what our bodies are telling us, and then be rewarded for doing so
• The value is listening to your intuition and saying yes to what your body is saying 
• Going against the grain is never easy, but it's usually worth it. 
• Quitting, when its in the service of your health, is a radical act of self care, badassery and leadership. 

Please take the time to rate and review this podcast on Apple podcasts and share with a friend who would benefit. 

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.

Laura Lea Brant is a two time cookbook author, chef and voice of reason in the culinary world. Laura Lea has always had this strong desire to fit in and belong, more than her need to belong has been the pull to create a life that aligns with her core wants and desires. From ditching the conventional path of career, being a woman who grew up in the South to breaking relationship patterns, Laura Lea is vulnerable and honest in this conversation. Laura Lea also opens up in a bold way about the way social media has shaped her career but also about the boundaries she has had to create in what and how she shares her life.

In this episode, you will learn: 

• What inspired Laura Lea to make the big move from Nashville to NYC 
• How food helped Laura Lea navigate mental health and anxiety 
• Laura Lea’s most influential people growing up 
• How growing up in the South influenced Laura Lea’s voice and sense of rebellion 
• The pivotal moment when Laura Lea decided to unlearn the learning that “women in the south were supposed to be seen, not heard” 
• The signals Laura Lea looks for when she needs to make big life decisions and on following her gut 
• The core learning about materialism and intentionality that continues to stay with Laura Lea decade after decade: “it doesn’t matter how many times you walk into a store and buy things, you are going to want more if that’s your perspective about it. There will always be new shiny things.” 
• How Laura Lea has had periods of living to eat and then during times of stress, eating to live. 
• What Laura Lea is learning and unlearning about what a healthy relationship looks like. 
• What social media “love bombing” can look like (yes, this is a thing!) 
• How social media has influenced Laura Lea’s career and how she has had to unlearn what and how to share to her growing audience. 
• How assumptions on social media can be dangerous and what boundaries she is setting to have a healthier relationship to social media.  
• We discuss Cal Newport’s approach to social media and his book, “Digital Minimalism”. 
• How to start with the work, then build your following - and the value of consistency. 
• How we both think about self care and alone time - and how it allows us to show up more fully for those we love. 

In this episode, I mention the work of Cal Newport and his book, “Digital Minimalism”. 

Please follow Laura Lea on Instagram and pre-order her next cookbook here. 

Noticing what you notice is used in clinical psychology to help people combat anxiety and mediate mental health concerns. Noticing what you notice is a practice, a tool that can help anyone, anywhere, at virtually any moment, strengthen our most precious resource: our attention. 

In this 5 Minute Friday you will learn: 

• What Forrest Bathing is 
• What our most valuable resource really is
• A practical way to think about and approach mindfulness 
• An exercise to sharpen your attention 

I mention the work of Sherry Turkle in this podcast, click here to read her book, "Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age."

Please take the time to rate and review this podcast on Apple podcasts and share with a friend who would benefit. 

To learn more about Elisa and The School of Unlearning podcast, follow her on Instagram. 

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To schedule a discovery call with Elisa on Conscious Living and Leadership Coaching, please click here. 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. Elisa has been a coach for over 18 years- from college basketball to nutrition to more recently helping leaders bring more consciousness and play into their personal and work lives. Her work is influenced by a philosophy and belief that, "life happens for you" which has been a through line for Elisa her entire life. Believing life happens for you begs the question, "how can I learn and grow from whatever is happening?". She has sought to find and create meaning from every chapter of her life and empowers her clients and teams to do the same. From her first heartbreak, first job loss, divorce and enduring the grief that comes with slowly losing her Dad to a rare form of Dementia, Elisa's rich life experience and humble curiosity is what allows others to connect with her, and ultimately themselves in a deeper way. She finds joy in making her friends homemade chocolate and can most often be found hiking or spending time in nature and has two adorable cats, Josie and Lou.