In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the hidden dangers of pursuing happiness for those with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), or codependency. He explains how codependents often mistake the absence of pain for true happiness due to their relationships with narcissists, who manipulate and gaslight them. Ross emphasizes the importance of addressing underlying issues like trauma, shame, and loneliness, and building self-love before seeking happiness. For more resources and support, visit selfloverecovery.com or contact help@selfloverecovery.com.

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With a new introduction, Ross re-shares the video that has changed thousands of lives.

The most effective of all the narcissist's manipulative strategies is “Induced Conversation.” Especially when breaking down a no-contact initiative or when trying to hoover (suck back into the relationship) the codependent. For codependents to not get sucked back into the relationship that has nearly destroyed them, they must have potent countermeasures to survive the narcissist’s induced conversation strategies.

Induced conversation is the primary weapon that the narcissist wrestler uses to maintain their power and control over you. As you begin setting boundaries, breaking off the relationship, and even utilizing the ODA technique, you will fail if you do not understand what is at stake for the narcissist. Remember, their number one goal is to keep you in the wrestling ring.

Narcissists are nothing by themselves, despite what they may tell themselves. They need you like they need oxygen to live. Internally, they are filled with insecurity, shame, and dread, regardless of if they are conscious of it. Most narcissists can’t become aware of these internal battles. There may be rare moments where they can connect with their shame, such as moments when they meltdown, beg, plead, and promise you everything so they can keep you in their life. However, that window closes quickly and is unlikely to reopen. They simply are oblivious to their darker sides and their shame.

Induced conversation is what keeps them in control of the relationship. It is how they command their powers and control strategies. After all, if they can get you to respond, defend yourself, or argue, you will be right back in the wrestling ring with them.

To wield this power, the narcissist has to get you to talk to them first. If you try to go no-contact, the only way for them to get back into your life is through induced conversation.

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses the concept of pathological loneliness, a profound existential pain that individuals with self-love deficit disorder (SLDD), or codependency, experience when they are not in a relationship. Rosenberg explores the roots of this condition, its connection to codependency, and how it manifests as a visceral, bone-aching pain driving individuals into unhealthy relationships to avoid loneliness. He likens SLDD to an addiction, where the "drug" is the relationship itself, not the narcissistic partner. Through this discussion, Rosenberg aims to shed light on the existential crisis faced by those with SLDD and offers insights into his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program as a path to healing and overcoming this debilitating condition.

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In this podcast, Ross joins Wendy Meyers to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is joined with Psychotherapist and Reiki master Robert Jackman where they discuss the unresolved wounds one may acquire during childhood and the process for healing and embracing an authentic life.

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In this podcast, Ross joins Terri Cole on the Terri Cole Show to discuss his new book, "The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken." Within this discussion, he talks about the magnet-like forces that compel people with self-love deficit disorder/Codependency to fall in love with pathological narcissists (and vice versa) as well as the healing cycle of narcissistic abuse. More about the book: https://shorturl.at/9kc21

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed, LCPC, CADC, discusses Codependent Threshold Reactors as a type of codependent personality characterized by intense emotional reactions and a tendency to overreact to perceived threats or slights. They often have a hair-trigger temper, quickly becoming angry and defensive when their boundaries or needs are unmet. This can lead to explosive outbursts, hurtful words, and damaging behavior. In relationships, Threshold Reactors may become overly attached and clingy, seeking constant validation and reassurance from their partner, which can create a toxic cycle of codependency. A fascinating topic!

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In this podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, explains the distinct characteristics between covert narcissism and sociopathy. In this deep dive, he elaborates that both disorders involve a degree of manipulation and lack of concern for others, the motivations and behaviors associated with each are different. Covert narcissists seek admiration and validation, whereas sociopaths are driven by a desire to exploit and control others. It’s important to note that these are complex disorders that should be diagnosed by a professional. If you suspect someone might have one of these disorders, it’s crucial to approach the situation with care and seek guidance from a mental health expert.

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