You know that moment when business gets hard, sales slow down, ideas aren't flowing, motivation dips and your brain immediately goes "What's wrong with me?"

In this episode, we're breaking down the blame cycle that keeps high achieving women stuck, why your subconscious defaults to self blame when uncertainty hits, and the critical difference between looking at yourself through shame versus looking at yourself through curiosity.

Discover how to shift from the "fixing" lens to the "curious" lens so you can actually lead yourself through challenges instead of spiralling into self criticism.

Subconscious Prompts :

1. What do I make it mean about me when things feel hard in my business?
2. Where in my business do I default to self blame instead of self leadership?
3. When I last experienced a challenge, was I looking at myself through the blame lens or the curious lens?
4. What evidence do I have that I can move through challenges without blaming myself first?
5. What would it look like to examine a current challenge through curiosity instead of blame?
6. How can I show myself I'm safe to grow even when it feels uncertain?

Topics Covered in How to Stop Blaming Yourself:

• Why high achievers default to blame when business gets hard
• The two lenses: blame vs. curiosity and how they shape your reality
• What your subconscious is actually communicating (it's not what you think)
• The difference between fixing yourself and leading yourself
• How to pause the blame spiral and ask better questions
• Practical steps to redirect fixing energy into leading energy

Connect with Rebecca Haydon:

• Apply to work with me
• Join The Subconscious Membership
• Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

Can't get clear on your next business move? You're not alone.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why hustling for clarity keeps you stuck in confusion and what's actually happening at the subconscious level when you can't make a decision. Spoiler: it's not a discipline problem.

Clarity is a byproduct of safety, not hustle. I'll walk you through exactly how to create the internal conditions that allow clarity to emerge, so you can finally stop second guessing yourself and start moving forward with confidence.

Topics covered in this episode:

1. Why confusion is actually a protection mechanism (and what your subconscious is protecting you from)
2. The clarity trap: Why forcing clarity through journaling and strategy keeps you spinning
3. What safety really means when it comes to making big business decisions
4. The 5-step process to create safety so clarity can emerge naturally
5. How to build evidence of your capacity so your subconscious trusts you to handle the next level
6. Why clarity comes from embodying the future you, not analyzing the present
7. What changes when you stop hustling for clarity and start creating internal safety instead

Connect with Rebecca Haydon:

• Apply to work with me
• The Subconscious Membership
• Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

If you’ve ever felt like you’re showing up powerfully, but not fully, this episode will hit home.

In today's episode I unpack the subconscious psychology behind the invisible gap between what you’re doing and what you know you’re capable of.

I dive into why high performing women unconsciously hold themselves just below their edge, how your mind equates “more” with “pressure,” and the exact subconscious rewires that allow you to hold expansion without burning out.

This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about feeling safe enough to access the rest of your power, the 30% that’s already waiting to be expressed.

• The subtle ways high level women limit access to their full potential
• Why your subconscious links growth with pressure, rejection, or loss
• How identity and safety create the ceiling on your capacity
• What “holding success” actually means on a subconscious level
• Five practical subconscious shifts to access your missing 30%
• The difference between control and true capacity
• How to build safety around expansion instead of pressure

Connect with Rebecca Haydon:

• Apply to work with me
• The Subconscious Membership
• Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/