It’s one of the most common questions people have about mental health:

How do I know if I need therapy?

How do you know if your problems are “normal” or if it’s time to call in a pro?

In this episode, we answer questions like:

• What’s the difference between a sad day and a red flag for therapy?
• How do I know if I’m leaning too much on my friends?
• Is medication without therapy a real thing? And if so, is it effective?
• Can a physical illness mean that you need therapy?
• What types of therapy work the best?

AND… I share with you the most IMPORTANT questions any therapist should be able to answer for you at the start of therapy.

Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES

Average Cost of Getting a Master’s Degree in Social Work

Divorce Stats

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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*correction* Darcy states that she’s been on medications half her life, since she was 26 years old. Math is not her thing. She’s 54, bringing her total number of years on medication to just under half her life.

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A couple of months ago, I interviewed New York Times bestselling author, Molly Roden Winter. Her book, “More: A Memoir of Open Marriage” documents her journey as a Brooklyn Mom who ventures into the world of polyamory, as she opens her marriage.

My interview with her sparked such a buzz from listeners — more than any other episode of WNTT. It’s linked below if you haven’t listened.

I just re-read her book while I was on a vacation and I have to tell you, about every 50 pages I found myself taken aback by how well her husband Stewart navigated their experience. He was repeatedly in situations where there were five wrong ways of responding to things, and in my opinion, he consistently landed on the right one.

Was he lucky? Or has he actually been taught relationship skills?

Those were the answers I wanted, so I invited him to join me.

Stewart Winter did not disappoint.

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

Link to Molly’s book: More: A Memoir of Open Marriage

Link to Molly’s episode

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When you think about boundaries, what emotions come up for you? Since you listen to this podcast, you probably think that the idea of boundaries is appropriate — that people should have the right to set them.

But that doesn’t mean you find it easy to set boundaries. Humans, particularly women, are raised to be likable. And for a lot of people, “likable” and “boundaries” are oxymorons.

I teach people how to set boundaries every week. But when it comes to setting them in my personal life, I squirm. Everywhere I look I hit a blind spot.

Lucky for both of us, today’s guest is a powerhouse when it comes to understanding and teaching boundaries. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the New York Times bestseller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Nedra’s definition of boundaries.
• The boundary people cross most often.
• Why women who set boundaries can be confused with being demanding, difficult, or a diva.

AND… Nedra gives me some tips to use myself!

Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

The Boundaries Flip Chart: A Psychoeducational Tool to Help Clients Set Healthy Limits, Develop Fulfilling Relationships, and Reclaim Their Worth

Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

The Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits

Consider This: Reflections for Finding Peace

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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I spent the first 15 years of my career working with teenagers, studying child and adolescent development. And what I can tell you is that throughout history, adults have consistently seen new technologies as potential threats, and we’ve been particularly concerned about the harm those technologies can have on children.

It’s part of the reason why I’ve been slow to join the hand wringing around social media.

Which doesn’t mean I’m dismissing the concerns. I’m clear that social media has played a role in triggering certain mental health issues. But a few weeks ago, the American Surgeon General proposed that social media platforms be required to publish a general warning about the danger to mental health, in much the same way we label alcohol and tobacco products with warnings.

And it made me wonder if the adults in the room are once again viewing normal adolescent behaviors and misattributing the causes to the newest, loudest technology of the moment.

Is this a real thing? Or the latest moral panic?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the surgeon general proposes for social media warnings.
• If the rise in mental health issues is truly related to the rise of social media.
• Whether any good can come from social media.

Xxoo Darcy

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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Marriage, today, is a very long partnership. Half a century or more, if you do it in your 20’s and you’re lucky enough to live out the average lifespan in the USA: 77.

When I think about the length of that intended commitment, I wonder how reasonable it is that we expect anyone to make it.

I’m going to use a very unromantic analogy here:

Making a long-term commitment can be a little like a teacher who gets tenure.

You just don’t try as hard. Because you don’t have to. You’ve got job security.

There’s no meaningful annual review because you know they can’t fire you.

And with marriage, the emphasis is on honoring the commitment. Not on how each of you shows up.

Over the years, I have often thought that we’d be better quality partners if our commitments were shorter. Time-limited.

If, instead of promising forever, we made micro-commitments. If we had marriages.

3 years. 5 years. Pick your interval. That way there’s an incentive to keep working at it. To keep trying.

Because both partners know that there’s a date by when they’ll meet to reevaluate how happy they are. How compatible they still are.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What a micro-marriage is and how it differs from a traditional marriage.
• The psychological benefits of a micro-marriage.
• How to suggest a micro-marriage to your partner if you’re so inclined.

AND… for the critics who would judge me for proposing micro-marriages, I explain the ways in which micro-marriages already exist in society today. So there. 😉

Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/13229400.2021.1952889?needAccess=true

https://ri.urd.ac.ir/article_113827.html

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-Kdsb-2fR6iIWr8zrw3L6mdVPw9GvDCA/view

https://heinonline.org/HOL/LandingPage?handle=hein.journals/jlfst10&div=21&id=&page=

https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/11207

Link to VIA Survey Character Strengths here

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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#LoveAndMarriage #MicroMarriages #ModernMarriage #MicroWedding

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I love a good redemption story.

And few things epitomize redemption better than successful recovery from addiction.

One of the fundamental aspects to recovery is a notion that you have to hit rock bottom to realize you are no longer a recreational user who has any control over how much, when, and where you use.

But what is it about needing to reach a breaking point in order to decide, once and for all, that you’re done using substances?

Joining me in this discussion is Dr. Tamir Aldad, an addiction psychiatrist and CEO of Mindful Care.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why “rock bottom” is a thing in addiction — and how we all play a role in that.
• The new trend of harm reduction treatment versus complete abstinence — and why it works.
• The hardest drug to come off of. The answer may surprise you!

Xxoo Darcy

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

This episode is dedicated to Kenny, with love.

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I keep secrets for a living. That’s more or less what a therapist does.

But in my personal life, I don’t want anything to do with them.

I don’t find delight in them whatsoever.

To me, they’re an imposition.

Humans are hardwired to feel valued when someone confides in us.

It scratches an evolutionary itch that can leave us feeling bonded to the person who shared the secret.

But that’s only the case when the secret doesn’t directly impact you.

There’s an old expression: “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The difference between being “private” and keeping a secret.
• The types of secrets that are most damaging to your mental health.
• The surprising amount of secrets the average person keeps.

AND… I share the reason why I refuse to be on the receiving end of secrets in my personal life.

Xxoo Darcy

REFERENCES

Categories of secrets

The Bright Side of Secrecy: The Energizing Effect of Positive Secrets

It takes two (or more): The social nature of secrets

What you don't know might hurt me: Keeping secrets in interpersonal relationships

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/09/hidden-world-secrets

https://www.columbia.edu/~ms4992/secrets/keepingsecrets.html

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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Guess who you get to meet in this episode? My WIFE, Steph Sterling.

Today’s topic is all about communication.

And in the spirit of walking the walk, I felt there’d be no better person to have this conversation with than the person who is on the receiving end of the ways I communicate, so I invited my wife, Steph Sterling, to join me for this episode.

Steph has been a practicing therapist for 18 years.

She and I met when we were at NYU. She was getting her Master’s Degree in clinical social work. I was getting my PhD in clinical social work.

And since then, Steph has carved out a specialty for herself in couples therapy.

She is Certified in Imago Therapy.

She is trained under John Gottman.

Today, she co-owns my practice, Alternatives Counseling.

And when it comes to helping hurt people understand each other and reconnect, I’ve never seen anyone better at it than her.

Come hang with me and my better half and hear Steph’s take on my communication strengths and weaknesses!

Xxoo Darcy

CREDITS

This episode of “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” was produced by Darcy Sterling with editorial support from Vicki Vergolina. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani, Stephanie Sterling and Preston Smith. “We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production.

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