Existential Kink

Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power; A Method for Getting What You Want by Getting Off on What You Don't

By: Carolyn Elliott PhD

Narrated by: Carolyn Elliott PhD

A smart, sexy guide to embracing the repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve.

“We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark - very dark.”

Each of us has a dual nature: we are light (conscious) and dark (unconscious). The dark side of our personality - the “other”, the shadow side - is made up of what we think is our primitive, primal, negative impulses - our “existential kink.” Our existential kink also drives the dark or negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy. But it also is the source of our greatest power.

In Existential Kink, Carolyn Elliot, PhD, offers a truth-telling guide for bringing our shadow into the light. Inviting us to make conscious the unconscious, Elliot asks us to own the subconscious pleasure we get from the stuck, painful patterns of our existence.

Existential Kink provides practical advice and meditations so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures”, love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, Elliot shows, we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.

©2020 Carolyn Elliott, PhD (P)2020 Blackstone Publishing

Phenomenal and Magical Philosophy

Ive been obsessed with manifestation since i was a child. I made hundreds of wishes upon stars, I analyzed my dreams even from my elementary school days, and often pretended to have knowledge i couldn’t possibly posses as it was a fun play. As a teen i had this unshakeable feeling i could have anything i could possibly want, but upon entering adulthood i was overwhelmed with so many happenings, emotions, stress, societal expectations etc…but I’ve maintained the idea that yes indeed i can have anything i want and Carolyn literally in quote says “having is evidence of wanting”. Everything around me is of my gorgeously playful manifestation! All the “ugly” and tacky drama, wrapped into one package. With mainstream manifestation tactics I seriously struggled with having gratitude for some of my egos greatest offenses…being fake grateful was a painful chore that got me nowhere. I devoured this book in 1 day. I have both the physical and audible copy. This is the most delicious philosophy on life, magic, and manifestation that i will ever read as Carolyn is skilled in putting into words what others could not. Its all the missing pieces I’ve needed to understand my raw unfiltered power…and the tools I need to begin processing just how crazy this whole trip is. This book alone…if it was the only self help i ever read would be the only self help book id ever need. I could cry, an ugly primal cry, a bone chilling screech of joy… its insane the value this short book has. What more can i say. Apply the knowledge and have a playful mindset.

Amazing book

Carolyn Elliott, PhD’s work is amazing. She deep dives into why it’s not enough to just “love and light” your way or of one situation and into another; instead you must acknowledge the underlying circumstances that you actually (unconsciously) wanted—and therefore manifested that situation.

She then tells you how to not only deal with that, but also to embrace it.

I used this book both in hard copy and on Audible.
Her use of voice in writing makes it a quick read; her reading voice brought a Lot of fun into the book.

Not for wimps

Okay ; I have read countless self help books and gone through years of therapy yoga and meditation. I was in such pain I would have urinated on a electric fence if I thought it would have helped , As anyone who goes on these journeys know it's not easy changing and healing from our past trauma . Carolyn is a ,wounded healer who asked me to go back to some of the worst times in my life and , Flip them as James Brown would say . It was terrifying painful and ,orgasmic? which makes absolute no since but OMG it worked ,for me anyway . Carolyn is sadistic ,witchy, authentic , hyper intelligent and cusses like a sailor. I absolutely love her . If you think your ready to journey back to some very dark twisted parts of your life and kick butt or maybe spread its legs and you know what , would be a better example; let Carolyn be your guide. Be brave work hard and never stop trying . Blessed Be

Getting into the Shadow and making the Unconscious.....Conscious

This is a beautifully done.... well experienced and highly efficient book on how to dig deep to remove the obstacles to presence, pleasure and play. Lots of useful practices that will help you to “lose your mind and come to your senses.”

A Great Listen!

I have now listen to this book twice.
Carolyn’s voice reading her own script is like eating a hot fudge sundae topped with rainbow sprinkles. Amazing! Thank you so much for creating this process. And all of your words.