He's Just Not That Into You

The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

By: Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo

Narrated by: Liz Tuccillo, Greg Behrendt

Celebrating twenty years since its release, He’s Just Not That Into You remains a game-changer, offering no-nonsense advice for how to spot when a guy just isn’t interested—saving you from wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationships. Inspired by a memorable episode of the iconic show Sex and the City, it holds its ground as the best relationship advice you'll ever get!

For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.

Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”

He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.©2004 Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo; (P)2004 Simon & Schuster Audio

We Are Pathetic

Women are taught, at a very early age, how to stay in relationships. They know how to connect interpersonally. Men, on the other hand, are taught, at an early age, how to get into relationships... and that's it. That is all they know.

As a guy, I have recommended this book to every single woman I know. It is painful, but it is the truth. If you want to know what goes through a guy's mind (or what isn't going through it) listen to this book.

A good basic message.

In order to make this book more accessible, the authors often use easy maxims, such as "He doesn't call." to try to get the point across that "He's not that into you." This makes the book easy to criticize (and I have my own issue with "Women should never make the first move.").

However, after listening to the entire book, one realizes that the underlying message is that if the person you are dating (and I agree with previous reviewers that this book would help both men and women) is not treating you the way you want/deserve, you need to move on.

I do take issue with the previous reviewer who uses the example of a woman who talks of marriage before the salad; that is not who this book is for or about (perhaps he should FINISH the book before reviewing it).

Sadly enough, the examples used in this book include the woman who hopefully dates a married man for a year, or the other woman whose partner refuses to commit for whatever reason after many years. When years (and pride, I mean, please, a married person?!) are lost, "having fun" is no longer funny.

If anything, I do think this book PROMOTES dating, as it makes sure a woman doesn't get stuck on and "wait for" someone who is not good for her for the long run.

This book teaches me to spend my time with people who truly like me and who meet my standards of a decent human being. Not to much to ask for, is it?

knowledge to listen to over and over

very helpful should be used as a tool when in bad relationship or bad break up

Hilariously helpful

This is one of those books that you will not want to stop listening to once you start. It is hilarious in its presentation and painfully truthful in topics presented. The sting if the truth delivered with humor makes it easier to accept without beating yourself up for not seeing the patterns before.

GREAT book, worth listening to if you are single or have single friends who often discuss their dating life with you. Enjoy!

I NEEDED to read this

This book states some things that we would think would be pretty obvious, but after being in lots of unhappy and unfulfilling relationships this book hit me like a freight train. I listened to it twice just to be sure I took it all in. The narration can be a little annoying at times since they do comical voicing and there is music, etc, but the content is great. It really dives in to all the things we put up with in relationships and gives details to why we are better than that. This book was a much needed reality check for me.