Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins

Publisher's summary

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

For those Mourning a Breakup

This helped me so much to get over a relationship and recognize what I need in a partner.

Amazing

This book answered all my questions about why I had difficulty in relationships. This information has empowered me to communicate effectively. I now know my needs matter and everyone doesn’t have the capacity to meet them.

Wish I had known these things earlier in life!

Really inciteful. Found out alot about myself and my past/present companions. Offers many helpful techniques to improve one's relationship or decide to move on.

Amazing audiobook for my collection

I was turned onto this type of research by Alan Roberge who has great content and many videos to learn from. I'm glad I stumbled on this title and would highly recommend it.

Excellent book

Might be more helpful to have the paperback as there are quizzes that work better with the book.

Eye Opening

I learned about myself and the people I love from this book. I am taking away a greater understanding of how to calm my anxiousness in my relationships and also to have a greater appreciation and understanding of how to communicate my needs. I did not expect all of the value and knowledge that I received from the book. I was pleasantly surprised.

This book gave me incredible insights to my attachment style and my past relationships

It helped me understand why things ended the way it did with my past relationships. It also helped me to let go some of the pains I endured due to being with people (scientifically) unsuitable for me.

Very informative

This is a wonderful book! Everyone should read it before they start dating. We'd avoid a whole lot of pain.

Great book for anyone who is dating

This was a great book, I learned quite a bit about myself and all of my past partners. I feel better prepared for a healthy relationship.

Eye opener

I have been beating myself up for months about my failed relationship with the woman I loved more than anything else in this world. I had gone to therapy with her, I had begged and pleaded, excepted her unilateral decision to move out but yet remain in a committed relationship and still never felt like she was fully open to me. Understanding that she is an avoidant to the T, immediately released the pain and guilt of thinking that I had somehow messed up or ruined our relationship. It is just what her attachment is, I’m not meant to click with that kind of attachment. I only wish that I had found this book earlier so that I could have saved myself from so much unnecessary self doubt and heartache.