The Feminine Mistake

By: Leslie Bennetts

Narrated by: Leslie Bennetts

Women are constantly being told that it's simply too difficult to balance work and family, so if they don't really ""have to"" work, it's better for their families if they stay home. Not only is this untrue, Leslie Bennetts says, but the arguments in favor of stay-at-home motherhood fail to consider the surprising benefits of work and the unexpected toll of giving it up. It's time, she says, to get the message across—combining work and family really is the best choice for most women, and it's eminently doable.

Bennetts raised two children while earning a living, and understands the challenges and the rewards firsthand. She and millions of other working women provide ample proof that there are many different ways to have kids, maintain a challenging career, and have a richly rewarding life as a result. When women sacrifice their financial autonomy by quitting their jobs, they become vulnerable to divorce as well as the potential illness, death, or unemployment of their breadwinner husbands. The truth is that when women gamble on dependency, most eventually end up on the wrong side of the odds.

Not since Betty Friedan has anyone offered such an eye-opening and persuasive argument for why women can—and should—embrace the joyously complex lives they deserve.

©2007 Leslie Bennetts; (P)2007 HarperCollins Publishers

Great point, too many anecdotes

The point of the book is an excellent one, but it could have been made in fewer chapters. There were too many similar anecdotes. I would've traded some for more facts and practical advice. Reading this book gives me a little more security in decisions I will soon be making in relation to working vs being a mom.

Thank you Leslie Bennetts

This book made me feel better about my decision to keep working even though by down-sizing my family might have been able to swing it with a single income. This book gives a lot of food for thought, I would highly recommend it to any working Mom. I live in Silicon Valley and this book does speak to my reality; I am surrounded by well-educated well-to-do women that have decided not to work and occasionally I think I'm insane for keeping working; this book reminds me that my choice is not insane.

I didn't give 5 stars because the book is quite sexist (against men) and it really does speak mainly to those women that are wealthy enough to have a choice as about working not to those women that work to make ends meet.

Great read, it changed my mind.

This book is honest about the ugly truth that SAHM’s and Trad Wives, even young ones now, are learning the hard way. You can’t control your husband, and half of all marriages end in divorce… even the very conservative, very traditional ones. Ideology and theory so often get bashed by reality. You’re free to choose your behavior, but no one is free from the consequences of their choices. Great read, backed by pure logic and a mountain of data. Cottage core is an aesthetic; let’s keep it in the realm of decor and fashion, where it belongs.

A Wonderful Wake-up Call!

I was so gratified, so happy to hear someone articulate how important it is to nurture your career AND your family. So many of my friends have backed quietly into the stereotypical role of stay-at-home mother, with only their husband's income to keep things going. Today!! This is going on in my generation, right now! I'm planning to send some of them this book as a New Year's present to remind them of a few things: that they are as obligated to support their families financially as their husbands are... that husbands should be asked to make life-changing decisions about career and family (relocate so she can find a job? drive the minivan? quit your job so she can accept a promotion 2,000 miles away? stay home with the sick child? deal with the PTA?) as often as wives are... that fathers can love and nurture their children as well as mothers... that working mothers ARE full-time mothers... that recovering from a 5- or 10-year hole in your resume is hard enough to make you give up, and that you can't afford to do that. Thank you, Leslie, for this logical, methodical, enlightened explanation.

Must Read

I'm a mother of 2 and have been on the fence between staying home with my children or staying in my career of ten years. This book has greatly helped me make my decision. What was my decision? Listen to this book and you will know. Thank you so much Leslie Bennetts!