The Long Goodbye

A memoir

By: Meghan O'Rourke

Narrated by: Meghan O'Rourke

From one of America's foremost young literary voices, a transcendent portrait of the unbearable anguish of grief and the enduring power of familial love.

What does it mean to mourn today, in a culture that has largely set aside rituals that acknowledge grief? After her mother died of cancer at the age of fifty-five, Meghan O'Rourke found that nothing had prepared her for the intensity of her sorrow. In the first anguished days, she began to create a record of her interior life as a mourner, trying to capture the paradox of grief-its monumental agony and microscopic intimacies-an endeavor that ultimately bloomed into a profound look at how caring for her mother during her illness changed and strengthened their bond.

O'Rourke's story is one of a life gone off the rails, of how watching her mother's illness-and separating from her husband-left her fundamentally altered. But it is also one of resilience, as she observes her family persevere even in the face of immeasurable loss.

With lyricism and unswerving candor, The Long Goodbye conveys the fleeting moments of joy that make up a life, and the way memory can lead us out of the jagged darkness of loss. Effortlessly blending research and reflection, the personal and the universal, it is not only an exceptional memoir, but a necessary one.

For the "unmothered"

Having recently lost my mother to cancer, I came across this book in my search to cope with my grief. I'm so glad I did. Meghan O'Rourke put into words what I feel but cannot express. It felt as though I had a companion by my side who understood the depths of my grief and the journey that I am in. I highly recommend this book for all the unmothered, particularly those who have experienced a terminal illness such as cancer. It's an awful club to become part of, but this book makes the journey not quite so lonely...

The honesty

I love this book, will listen to it again. Much to learn and this feels like a lesson and help to anyone loosing someone they love so very much.

Mixes emotions with statistics

I like this book because my mom is in hospice, although my mom is elderly and the author's mom was only 55 when she died. I lost my dad when he was 54 years old, but he died suddenly.
I can relate to a lot of what the author is saying and I do like how she mixed in with it like the stages of grief and how she did or did not follow those stages. I guess I'm just trying to prepare myself for when my mom passes. I listened to this book several times, I bet about three times total and several times I felt asleep to it. But that's not because the book is boring I think it's because I felt it comforting and I have been having insomnia, so having someone read to me who is going through some of the same emotional & physical care-taking related issues I'm going through was comforting and I drifted off to sleep. So I found this book to be super helpful.

Really great. Loved it.

O'Rourke writes with meticulous detail and creates a vivid emotional presence in this book. It could easily have been longer; every paragraph seemed worthy of expansion, and the book's not so much about loss, or about remembering the past, as it is about living in each moment and savoring the gifts contained in the present.

Why do authors insist on narrating?

Very good story. I just happened to listen to this after Wild, both about women losing their mother at a young age. As an aside, both lost their marriages which escapes me. The mother daughter relationship is so complicated and I thought this book captured this well and I wish I could have been so eloquent with my feelings. Would have been better with another narrator.