Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting

The Co-Dependency Connection

By: Patricia O’Gorman, Phil Diaz

Narrated by: Rebecca Rogers, Winter Rogers

Self-healing through self-parenting, a concept introduced a generation ago, has helped thousands of adult children of alcoholics who are codependent and have conflicts in their primary relationships. Now Patricia O'Gorman, PhD, and Phil Diaz, MSW, authors of the classic book The 12 Steps to Self-Parenting for Adult Children and its companion workbook, expand the reach of that successful healing paradigm to anyone who has suffered from any kind of trauma. Whether they grew up in a dysfunctional home, were victims of violence, or suffered other types of acute distress, many people struggle to determine the impact of earlier trauma on current adult decision making. O'Gorman and Diaz show how trauma is a driver of dysfunctional behaviors and linked with codependency, and they offer a concise yet detailed resource for survivors and thrivers as well as the professionals who work with them.

Through a process modeled after the 12 Steps of AA, Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting: The Codependency Connection offers help to a broad array of listeners (not just those who are ACOAs) by healing the wounded inner core and helping listeners reconnect to their inner child.

Download the accompanying reference guide.©2012 Patricia O’Gorman and Phil Diaz (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

Great Information for all Types of Trauma

This is a great source of information for all people who are dealing with all types of trauma.

Great book and information, terrible readers

What made the experience of listening to Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting the most enjoyable?

The book itself was wonderful and as a counseling student, I found it very useful and applicable. However, the man who read half of the book has a rather disturbing voice and it was very difficult for me to focus when he was reading. I gained much more knowledge from the chapters read by the woman and less from the ones he read.

What three words best describe Rebecca Rogers and Winter Rogers ’s voice?

Rebecca Rogers: Soothing, interesting, engagingWinter Rogers: Monotone, off-putting, unpleasant

Narration is like an SNL skit

I couldn't finish this book. The female narrator is fine. But the male sounds like an SNL skit. He can't be serious...can he?

Couldn't continue to listen

I really thought I would like this book. However,I could not stand listening to the guys voice. The woman's voice was much more pleasant. And I thought that I would be listening to the woman but the guy is who narrates it. His voice to me is dull and drawn out. It effected what I was hearing and I had to stop listening. Unfortunately, narrators can ruin a book for me. That's what happened to this one. I apologize for sounding harsh. But I bought it didn't listen to it fully, then months later went back and I still couldn't listen to it.

Breakthrough moments

As a child I experienced profound complex trauma, generational trauma, adult child of alcoholism and two time fire survivor. I’ve loved my life in extreme trauma. Wearing my trauma like a badge of honor over functioning deep embedded co-dependent behaviors. A child born into a toxic dysfunctional family narratives past on…rooted in negativity. I’ve always felt stuck not realizing the trauma of my life. I repressed memories, I created tolerable narratives to explain or justify the things I experienced that were out my control. I’m highly intuitive and give deeply to others. I have internal rage issues and can be a star at work and perform low at home. My adult son went through serious addiction and life/death experiences with extreme loss. I created an addict, I dove into therapy with him and help “save” him when he “saved” me by bringing to light my childhood I refused to remember. I chose a career in HR helping resolve conflicts and taking on other peoples energies. I bonded with co-workers through traumatic experiences never realizing I enjoyed the pain. It was constant reminder of my unworthiness. My family is indigenous both Hawaiian and Alaskan Native. Horrific acts of genocide and my descendants were of boarding school era ripped from their homes and forced to learn a better way of life. Taught immense shame. My family was toxic and I was toxically loyal in a constant karpman triangle between victims, persecutors, and rescuer’s. I have to unlearn destructive habits so I can serve as a healthy role model to my children who are worthy of a happy and whole mother. In my broken pieces of myself I found love for myself. Strength in a higher power and the ability to let go. Addiction is no stranger. I’ve been taught it at a young age….what I loathed I became. Always trying so hard to better myself not realizing I needed to Face my past and understand it for what it was and the destructive patterns I learned I can unlearn too. Thank you this audio was life changing for me. I am on the road to healing and this help open those doors to see myself trapped by my past living a Groundhog Day nightmare of continued pain as if it is all I deserve. We are so much more worthy and I believe and place rest in a higher power. Thank you for this book it gave me deep insight. I can begin to recover