The Courage to Be Disliked

How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness

By: Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga

Narrated by: Noah Galvin, Graeme Malcolm, January LaVoy

The New York Times bestselling TikTok sensation with more than 13 million copies sold worldwide, The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative and practical guide to personal happiness and self-fulfillment.

Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that’s accessible to all.

The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, over the course of five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life’s direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others.

Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next.

Amazing!!

This book helped give language and a system to becoming more comfortable in your own skin. The idea that all of life is divided into tasks was very help to imagine. No need to try and complete any task that is not your own. This book talks about how “trauma” doesn’t exist. Don’t let that deter you. The lessons learned from that idea are helpful, but I don’t think I’ll be walking around telling myself or others “your trauma isn’t real” any time soon. It just helps to give power to the here and now. Overall great book! I will probably listen to it again just to make sure I remember everything.

Great book in an excellent format

This is an incredible book that is digestible, understandable, and still profound. I've heard many of these ideas before but never attributed to Adler. The ideas in this book truly have the potential to change people's lives for the better and help them live a life of freedom without constraints of the past weighing them down and without living according to others' needs. Some people complained about the format but I found that it was a great way to express the ideas and also harkens back to Socrates/Plato dialogues that are the foundation of philosophy. A++

Not what I thought it would be, but I LOVED it!

When I read the description for this book I expected it to be more self-helpy and inspirational, which it was in a sense. But mostly it was a presentation of a particular philosophy of self-actualization based on an ages-old type of psychological theory by Alfred Adler (a psychological theorist I've never heard of).

What I loved about this book is that the very heady material was presented simply through a dialogue between the characters of a philosopher and a seeker. So the concepts were presented in a way that apply the concepts to every day situations and were easy to follow along with. It gave me much food for thought!

It will take a lot of courage and faith to initiate the types of psychological changes to follow the Adlerian model, but may be worth at least dipping your toe into that pool!

I highly recommend this book, but expect to have your views of interpersonal psychology challenged!

Want to love this book

The message and true purpose of this book are powerful and on point. However, that it’s relayed in a long-outdated patriarchal conversation between painfully cliched archetypal wise teacher and arrogant student is making it hard to get through, let alone enjoy.

Brilliant But Annoying

First of all, I full enjoyed learning about Adlerian psychology. I wasn’t all that familiar with it and I got a lot out of this audiobook. I thought the Q & A format was a great way to communicate some of these ideas and the examples were helpful in understanding them.

My main criticism was the way Noah Galvin read/interpreted the character of the student. He came across as antagonistic and arrogant, as though he is suspicious of this new and original point of view. Of course I believe in questioning everything, but there's a fine line between skepticism and distrust. There were times I wanted to shout: what do YOU know? You’re like TWENTY, and you're interviewing a scholar who is older and wiser. Tone down the attitude and show some humility, you might learn something.

Despite this grievance, I got a lot out of this audiobook and will definitely read more of this writer’s work.