Are you navigating non-monogamy as a newbie, feeling intimidated by those with more experience who have read all the books or had lots of partners? Or maybe you're the one with the experience, rolling your eyes at the fresh faces? We’re exploring the nuances of different experience levels in the context of non-monogamy because experience doesn't guarantee a great partner or ethical behavior, just as being new doesn't always lead to disaster.

You’ll hear—
(12:38) The nuances of being experienced or new to non-monogamy
(22:15) Having a beginner’s mind and staying curious
(30:07) Generational differences in non-monogamy
(38:37) Going into a relationship with intentionality
(42:52) Queer Joys

Let us know your experience exploring these dynamics as either a newbie or someone with experience. As always, you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.

How do we engage with the world around us and continue some form of activism or social justice while also finding moments of joy? We’re exploring this question to bring some optimism and mindfulness when it feels like the world is fire.

You’ll hear
(5:56) Finding joy in challenging times
(8:37) Balancing activism with moments of joy and hope.
(13:56) Finding hope and inspiration in small moments, or glimmers
(19:43) Oxytocin and sex
(25:23) Meaning, joy, and overstimulation in modern life
(28:06) Queer joys

Keep up with Melisa on Instagram @therapeutic.ideas and look out for the training on April 20th by Alex Iantaffi on mixed orientation relationships at Eventbrite or connectivetherapycollective.com.

Differentiation of self is like learning how to be your own person while still being part of a group, or a relationship. We’re unpacking this fancy psychological term by Bowen and applying it to dating to help you be connected with your own emotions while also being present for others.

You’ll hear—
(15:19) What “differentiation of self” is and why Melisa thinks it’s a fun term
(18:38) Differentiation in the context of relationships
(25:12) How to practice self-awareness in this process
(29:47) Queer joys

Connect with us over on Instagram @melisa.deseguirant and @queer_therapist_pdx