We Should Get Together

The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

By: Kat Vellos

Narrated by: Kat Vellos

Length: 5 hrs and 17 mins

Publisher's summary

We Should Get Together is the handbook for anyone who's ready for better friendships, now.

Have you recently moved to a new city and are struggling to make friends?

Do you find yourself constantly making plans with friends that fall through?

Are you more likely to see your friends' social media posts than their faces?

You aren't alone. Millions of adults struggle with an uncomfortable and persistent ache: platonic longing, which is the unfulfilled wish for authentic, resilient, close friendships.

But it doesn't have to be this way. Making and maintaining friendships during adulthood can be hard or, with a bit of intention and creativity, joyful.

Author Kat Vellos, experienced designer and founder of Better Than Small Talk, tackles the four most common challenges of adult friendship: constant relocation, full schedules, the demands of partnership and family, and our culture's declining capacity for compassion and intimacy in the age of social media.

Combining expert research and personal stories pulled from conversations with hundreds of adults, We Should Get Together is the critically acclaimed, much-beloved, modern guide for making and maintaining stronger friendships.

With this book, you will learn to:

• Make and maintain friendships when you (or your friends) keep moving
• Have deeper and more meaningful conversations
• Triumph over awkwardness in social situations
• Become less dependent on your phone
• Identify and prioritize quality connections
• Find time for friendship despite your busy calendar
• Create closer, more durable friendships

Full of relatable stories, evidence-based guidance, practical tips, and 55 suggested activities, We Should Get Together is the perfect book for anyone who wants to have dedicated, life-enriching friends and who wants to be that kind of friend, too.

©2020 Kat Vellos (P)2021 Kat Vellos

Close to perfect for me

I am writing a book about friendships. :)
I really liked all of the content of this book and find it very honest and whole. The only thing that I would recommend for those who are listening to it because they find it hard to start new friendships is to start with the chapters about awkwardness. If you feel awkward in situations, than if you listen to the book from the beginning, it sound like: “… mmm ok, but how should I do this?” I think most peoples problem is not that they do not know what they should do but they do not know how. You can tell people to go to someone and ask them if they want to hang out, but what if 500 people all tell you no? I find the solutions good, but a little shallow.
The parts that were missing for me were the parts that go deeper about fears and about behavior that make it hard to make friend with others. I think that it’s easier to make a new friend when you are young, beautiful and have a normal human behavior, but it’s really much harder when you are really weird and most people find you irritating or just not a good company. Other then this missing topic, perfect book!

Best book on Friendship!

Kat's passion and experience comes through clearly in this well-thought-out distillation of her wisdom on friendship. I appreciate the time and experience she beings to bear and her warm way of communicating. Her reading voice is great too!

I've been searching for good books on friendship and belonging, and this is the best one yet, by far!

Enjoyable and Relatable

I enjoyed listening to this. The author has a warm, kind, animated voice. The examples were modern and real. Lots of good thoughts about social media. I really liked the story about the developer / Uber driver, and the ideas around hanging out in homes. I used to not choose books if they weren’t written by experts with lots of degrees. But I find that well researched books written by people who aren’t PhDs can be more pleasant and relatable.

connection

Absolutely love this book. Life is connection to people. The author uses a friendly, welcoming style to help readers with ideas to have a richer connection with others.

Love this book

I have no idea how this book ended up in my queue, but I am so grateful it did and it couldn’t have been better timed. Thank you for the wonderful material within. Very validating and practical suggestions!

A beautiful and brilliant wake up call to the richness we’re missing out on in life.

I had high hopes for this book based on hearing the author Kat talk at an event. And let me tell you, this book did not disappoint.

It was very thorough in dismantling the excuses for why we as adults don’t invest in cultivating true and life giving friendships.

It’s insightful and hopeful. It has the type of honesty that stings a bit yet in the end makes you better for it.

Not only does Kat go over the issues plaguing us from making friendships, she is generous and abundant with providing practical and flexible ways to start, rekindle and invest in friendships that thrive.

I loved it.

The only chapter I was missing was one on kindling online connections. Which from my experience give so much value especially when your local community you’re in may not be able to provide.

But really, I’m knit-picking here.

We Should Get Together is a practical handbook for those of us craving connection in a world that belittles platonic, deep and real friendships.

It’s a refreshing read for the friendship thirsty.

Great for another audience

Majority of books applies to young people not in a committed relationship or with children. Good ideas but little attention paid to difficulties experiences by parents, etc

Short on solutions, big on explaining the problem

Both the introduction and conclusion of the book talk about how many people struggle to create and maintain friendships.

The takeaway advice is so simple— make the effort, be honest, be consistent, and make it happen. It’s not that insightful.

Example: people are busy. Can’t meet? Oh well, find someone who is more available.

I wish this book had more practical applications. It’s painfully emphasizing all the ways friendships fail to form or end too soon.

Lost me at her woke story

It was ok until she brought the story of her “white male friend “ saying “that’s gay”. And how wrong he was. NOOOO. That term is older than she is. Gay means many things. Smh. STOP with the woke sensitivity bs. Done with the audio right there.