Becoming Allies...with Your Partner, Yourself, and Others

Addressing the Abuse and Control in Your Relationships

By: Chris Huffine

Narrated by: Michael Bower

Many books have been written for those who have been abused, but what about those who have been abusive? Abusive and controlling behaviors are sadly common in the US and all over the world. There is plenty of support for people who need to get free of abuse, but very few books have been written for people who struggle with being abusive and controlling themselves. Becoming Allies fills that gap.

This comprehensive book, the first of its kind, draws on the author’s three decades of experience in the field of intimate partner violence working with thousands of people who have been abusive. It presents for the first time the best practices of specialized abuse-prevention programs from around the country.

Becoming Allies identifies and examines abusive and controlling behaviors, explains the underlying beliefs that drive them, and teaches specific, concrete techniques for changing them. It is nothing short of a lifeline for people who want to stop their abusive and controlling behaviors and improve their relationships with themselves, their partners, and their loved ones.

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The Power of Knowledge, Courage, and Love

What makes this book so powerful and empowering are the true and precise descriptions of abusive and controlling behaviors, the compassion for both the victim of these behaviors and the perpetrator, and finally the honest and impactful ways in which the behaviors can be changed, if courage, support, resolve and self love are present.