This is a recording from the Facebook Live on Friday when we had a little story time! I thought y'all would benefit from it too. I share a memory from a dark period of time for me (Mother's Day 2017), and then tie it together with this week's theme.

I hope you love it. ♥️

In episode 84 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the challenges and emotions surrounding family-oriented holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day, especially for target parents of alienation. Shelby shares personal anecdotes about the significance of these holidays and the memories associated with them, reflecting on how such times can be particularly difficult. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and validating these difficult emotions but encourages listeners to also focus on self-healing and empowerment. Shelby advises on auditing one's life for negative influences, whether it be people or social media, and suggests making intentional choices about whom and what we allow to influence our mindset and actions. She highlights the distinction between fighting against something versus fighting for something, advocating for a proactive and positive approach in life, including the path toward reconnection with our children. Shelby's message underlines the significance of self-care, adjusting one's mindset, and the power of influence in overcoming the challenges of parental alienation and enhancing one's overall well-being.

01:00 Welcome to Beyond the High Road: Navigating Emotional Seasons

01:22 Reflecting on Mother's Day and Seasonal Memories

03:52 Embracing the Emotional Journey of Motherhood

04:45 Navigating Parental Alienation: Insights and Support

05:58 The Power of Influence: Shaping Your Beliefs and Actions

06:32 Redefining Challenges: Fighting For vs. Fighting Against

08:44 The Impact of Social Media and External Influences

19:52 Auditing Your Life: Identifying and Managing Influences

26:52 The Impact of Social Media on Perception and Action

27:49 Embracing the Role Beyond Alienation

28:26 The Power of Self-Advocacy and Community Support

30:23 Choosing to Fight for Reconnection

31:56 The Long Game: Patience, Persistence, and Unconditional Love

33:22 Self-Care and Inner Work: The Foundation of Empowerment

34:53 Redefining Success: From Immediate Wins to Long-Term Goals

39:31 Influence and Environment: Curating Your Circle for Growth

42:01 Mother's Day Reflections: Beyond Traditional Expectations

44:08 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

The dreaded deed of forgiveness: the original ”F” word, to an alienated parent.

In this episode, Shelby shares insights on the pivotal role of forgiveness in healing from the pain parental alienation. She discusses the efficacy of family systems therapy over reunification therapy, drawing from advice received from a former attorney. The episode delves into the complexities of forgiveness, including Shelby's personal journey and struggles with forgiving those involved in alienating her from her child. She emphasizes that forgiveness is not about condoning others' actions but about freeing oneself from anger and resentment. Shelby talks about the importance of recognizing the humanity in those who have hurt us and understanding their actions to move towards forgiveness. She also touches upon the concept of resentment being closely linked to envy, rather than anger. The episode guides listeners on a path to healing, advocating for acknowledging and releasing resentment to reclaim one's life and break the cycle of intergenerational trauma.

The two articles referenced:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/202305/resistrefuse-dynamics-in-divorce-how-can-they

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-of-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/202308/treating-child-anxiety-in-cases-of-parental

Mending Fences Book

https://www.amazon.com/Mending-Fences-Collaborative-Cognitive-Behavioral-Reunification/dp/1950057186

00:00 Welcome to Beyond the High Road Podcast

00:14 A Message from a Trusted Attorney

01:47 Insights on Family Systems Therapy

03:25 The Power of Forgiveness in Healing

10:11 Understanding Resentment and Its Roots

13:20 The Journey Towards Forgiveness

23:50 Embracing Forgiveness for Freedom

35:59 Final Thoughts on Forgiveness and Moving Forward