In this podcast episode, Beth interviews Shania, a 25-year-old who made the proactive decision to freeze her eggs. Shania sets a remarkable example for young women to think ahead about family planning to ensure the ability to focus on building a life and career you love while not being pressured by timelines and a biological clock.Shania describes the process and her choice to share her journey on social media, challenging societal expectations and promoting informed personal choices. The conversation explores the broader themes of life planning, questioning cultural narratives, and empowering women to shape their futures.

Quotes

Shania Bhopa, 00:02:08, "I think life gives you whispers, so I think this was like a whisper for me to think about it."

Shania Bhopa, 00:03:38, "This is the youngest and healthiest my eggs will ever be."

Shania Bhopa, 00:07:17, "I saw it as just a data point in my story... I think motherhood is so beautiful, but I think you can be strategic about it."

Shania Bhopa, '00:22:51', "This process is expensive, so medication coverage was one. Number two, I know, like when I close my eyes and envision my future life, I have kids. I don't know when, but I know I will have children, and I've always wanted to be a mom."

Shania Bhopa, '00:28:31', "You have this weight on your shoulder, and you also feel pressured to make decisions fast. It's like, okay, need to find the partner, need to figure out my career, need to figure out when I'm going to have kids in all of the mix."

Shania Bhopa, '00:31:56', "You are allowed to plan and be strategic about your life, and no one should tell you otherwise. You are allowed to feel in control, and I hope that this podcast empowers you just a little bit more to feel in control of future you."

Key Points

• Shania's decision to freeze her eggs at a young age

• Shania's process of considering and undergoing egg freezing

• The impact of sharing her story on social media

• The importance of being proactive about fertility and family planning

• Shania's reasons for freezing her eggs at a young age

• The emotional and logistical aspects of the egg freezing process

• The societal pressures and lack of education around fertility

• Encouraging young people to think about their future and what they want

• The importance of planning and understanding one's fertility

• The broader conversation about permission to think outside the box and plan for the future

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In this episode of "Quiet the Clock", Beth Gulotta and her mentee and friend Lauren Larkin delve into the complex decision of egg freezing. Lauren, contemplating this significant step, discusses the emotional and relational dynamics with her partner Mike, emphasizing the need for support and open dialogue. They explore societal pressures, personal fears, and the importance of making choices aligned with individual desires rather than external expectations. The episode also touches on the practicalities of the process, from clinic visits to scheduling and prenatal preparations. Beth shares her insights, encouraging involvement and communication between partners. Both emphasize the importance of sharing similar stories to normalize different timelines and paths.

Lauren Larkin, 00:02:01, "It's like a shared decision that you're making, but then it's also like, if you're not married or engaged, it's like, well, is this my decision to make? Am I solo on this boat?"

Lauren Larkin, 00:05:30, "You should only be saying, 'Yeah, I'm obsessed with my partner, and I want to get married to them, and I'm so excited.'"

Lauren Larkin, 00:06:23, "Part of me doing this is to protect myself from turning into a person that I don't want to be in my relationship."

Lauren Larkin, 00:18:30, "I'm just not an idealist; I am like, where are the holes? What could go wrong? How can I prevent it as much as possible?"

Lauren Larkin, 00:18:55, "I like the idea of enjoying every stage and phase of life, and I think that gives me a little bit more... it's the scarcity of 'we have to do this right now, oh my god this isn't going to happen.'"

Lauren Larkin, 00:25:07, "I think it's just a little bit of a security blanket on our overall relationship for me that I feel like, okay, he said obviously, or like he said, 'Can you do it tomorrow?'"

Beth Gulotta, 00:35:25, "I appreciate you saying that so much because it is so important for me to safeguard other women from some of the experiences that I have had."

Beth Gulotta, 00:35:56, "Even if it's helping one person, I'm down to do it."

• Decision to freeze eggs and its impact on relationships

• Emotional and logistical aspects of the egg freezing process

• Societal pressures and expectations around marriage and motherhood

• Importance of open communication in relationships

• Managing personal and professional roles as therapists

• Emotional and practical considerations in choosing the timing for the procedure

• Support and guidance for those considering egg freezing

• Sharing personal experiences to help others going through similar situations

• Importance of feeling supported and not alone in the decision

• Providing support and guidance to others in similar situations

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Sabrina Zohar shares her personal journey and her thoughts on dating, in this episode of Quiet the Clock. Sabrina is a renowned dating coach and the voice behind the "Do the Work" podcast. Dive into Sabrina's extraordinary life story, from chasing her acting dreams in the bustling streets of New York to launching a successful clothing brand amidst life's unexpected twists and turns. She opens up about the significance of being true to who you are and how authenticity shapes her approach to dating coaching. The discussion delves into the pressures of societal norms, like the rush to wed by a certain milestone, and highlights the importance of self-love and honoring your individual journey. Sabrina's narrative is a testament to resilience and the beauty of navigating the unpredictable journey of life and the benefit of doing the work.

Sabrina Zohar, '00:01:00', "Sometimes we have to accept that our path is not the one we thought it was going to be on, but it's so much better."

Sabrina Zohar, '00:02:21', "I dropped out of college because I failed my PE class and I was like, 'I'm done, I don't want to keep doing this.'"

Sabrina Zohar, '00:10:07', "Now I have a business that's 30 times more successful than my clothing line, and I'm looking to sell my clothing line and move on with my life."

Sabrina Zohar, '00:17:38', "Maybe let's try something different and start to investigate what I want the texting for. Oh, because I don't want to feel like I'm being abandoned. I don't want to feel like I'm being left. Okay, but then I don't actually need the texting, you know what I mean?"

Sabrina Zohar, '00:20:11', "I found that sexy, and I was like, 'You're right, I don't need this.' But he wants to spend time with me, and I was like, 'Oh, okay, great.'"

Sabrina Zohar, '00:29:02', "I said, 'I'm not an idiot, and I'm not an incel. You can speak to me with respect. If you need space, just talk to me. It's okay, go take some space. But you don't need to be passive-aggressive with me or short with me just because you don't know how to communicate that with me.'"

Beth Gulotta, '00:32:07', "I love conflict, I love resolution, I love the repair piece. It's so integral and important to a relationship, and I'm really proud of how we do that."

Beth Gulotta, '00:33:00', "The timeline made me anxious, the timeline made me stressed. It's hard not to fall into that if you're a 30-something woman and you're not there yet."

Sabrina Zohar, '00:35:53', "I'm here to say I accept this, I'm okay with this, and I allow myself to be on my journey that makes sense for me."

• Untraditional career paths and celebrating them

• Sabrina's journey from pursuing acting to becoming a dating coach

• Challenges and setbacks in career and personal life

• Starting a clothing line and transitioning to coaching

• Overcoming setbacks and finding success

• Authenticity and staying true to oneself in content creation

• Debunking bad dating advice and promoting honesty in relationships

• Challenging expectations and anxieties in dating

• Navigating conflicts in relationships and healthy conflict resolution

• Addressing pressures and anxieties related to motherhood and dating timelines

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