How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind

Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real

By: Todd Baratz LMHC

Narrated by: Vikas Adam

A sanity-saving guide that cuts through the sky-high expectations of modern love and helps you build healthier and more fulfilling relationships, from the creator of viral Instagram account YourDiagnonsense

“Witty, practical, fun, and deeply honest.”—Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of Us

You’re not crazy. You’re human.

Modern love is a mess and life is (spoiler alert!) very hard. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or on the apps, buckle up, there’s a lot to unlearn.

How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind is your guide to sanity in a culture gone mad. Psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz blends sharp humor with raw insight as he challenges us to break every rule about love. It’s time to move beyond the relentless pursuit of the perfect partner, to challenge the stigma against neediness, and to rethink our obsession with diagnosing common challenges as disorders.

Instead, he offers an empowering new perspective: Embrace challenges, feel deeply, make mistakes, learn, and grow. Drawing from his extensive experience as both a therapist and a patient, Baratz shares stories of navigating his personal traumas and guiding others through theirs.

This book is an invitation to understand your life as part of a larger cultural narrative. It encourages you to delve into your history, cultivate self-awareness, and take responsibility in your relationships. By doing so, you can move beyond the fairy tale and transform your approach to love.


* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF of resources and a key visual aid from the book.

Honest, real, exactly what I needed to read

Not your average self help book. Honest and real. I’m all about option 3!!!!! Please read this book to help heal your heart and grow ✨💗🪴

The Car Story (Fanning Self)

I really loved this book. It gave me a lot to think about and how it’s okay to have feelings about everything. That it’s okay to talk about your fears and challenges. How to not have huge expectations but to be curious and I guess open to possibilities whatever they may be. Not be bogged down by a certain dogma that prevails with dating and relationship content. I really feel for and relate to Todd’s childhood and first long term relationship and the aftermath. I am looking forward to implementing some these lessons in my own life. Thank you

Loved this

Great content and a wonderful presentation. The audio quality was great and the reader mad the stories great

is Todd telling my own story?

the parallels between my husband's and my personal story to Alex and Todd's story are at points scary.
Yet, I heard the truth from Michael and forgot about the fairy tale.

now to work on myself and writing my own story

Reliability is the best part !!

This book is a must read. I loved the entire book , it gave everything it needed to and then some.