In this solo episode, I talk about a topic that is often shut down in parenting communities. The topic of experiencing grief for various aspects of our parenting journey. In our Instagram society, where we just see the highlights, the happy moments the joyful moments of parenting we can feel 'wrong', 'broken' and isolated because we aren't feeling or experiencing these things. There can be many times when we wish things were different. I have often felt like this but have not had the language to talk about my experience until I came across the Five Gates of Grief by Francis Weller. In this episode: I talk you through these five gates of grief and how they could relate to you. I share with you the three-step process I use when I am processing difficult emotions. If you experience grief over aspects of your parenting journey then I hope that you feel seen by what I share in this episode.

Frances Weller’s deep and profound work can be accessed here: https://www.francisweller.net

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Today on the show I chat with Kate Kleinau, who you may know from her Facebook and Instagram accounts as Raising PDA Kids.

In this episode, Kate and I chat about:

• How her son's autistic burnout in his early childhood years led her to discover that he was PDA.
• The things she and her husband did to support her son's recovery from burnout.
• How embracing radical acceptance and adapting the way she parents her children has led to calmer, connected moments with her son.
• Her work supporting other PDA mums.

Does this resonate for you?

Do you think your child might be PDA? The PDA Society has some great resources: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/ You can find out more about Kate's work here: https://raisingpda.com/ Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram at Raising PDA Kids- Kate Kleinau, OT

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Today on the show we chat with Pip Brun, a neurodivergent human, a mum of 6 and a passionate advocate for the rights of disabled people.

Pip is a passionate member of the Enabling Good Lives mid-central leadership group in New Zealand.

In this episode, we chat about:

• Pip's lived experience as a mum of 6 neurodivergent children (including her daughter Lucy who has a rare chromosome disorder).
• The Enabling Good Lives approach and its guiding principles and what these mean for us in our lives.
• How we can live these principles in our own lives and use this approach to empower us to advocate for ourselves and our loved ones.

Additional information and resources for the Enabling Good Lives Approach:

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz

Good Start To Life Practice Guidance:

//www.hqsc.govt.nz/assets/Consumer-hub/Partners-in-Care/Publications-resources/Good-start-in-life-practice-guidance-Mar-2020.pdf

https://www.msd.govt.nz/about-msd-and-our-work/publications-resources/monitoring/uncroc

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz/system-transformation/mid-central-updates/midcentral-leadership-team/pip-brunn/

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