Welcome back to Selfdom beautiful humans. A safe place to learn and get inspired to live your healthiest and most fulfilling life!

We have a very special guest this week on Selfdom. It’s my incredible partner in life Tom!

This man has many credentials, above all is he the most caring and genuine human on earth. Apart from that he specialises in breathwork, he’s a dedicated meditator, teaches purpose courses as well as created his own community called the elephants.

We thought it would be fun to answer your questions on today’s pod. We got some about us, about breathwork, relationship advice and more.

Today’s episode is one that I am really excited for, because it aligns to a big change in my life. I have been on birth control for a decade, and for fear of breaking out and other side effects, I haven’t gotten off it.

A little bit about my own experience, I was put on the pill when I was 15 and didn’t really have a choice or know much about it. My mum had been on it for majority of her life, and she made me go on it for contraception.

At the time the only risks we knew of were potential blood clots. I am 28 now, and I have made the decision to get off the pill for a number of reasons. The main one is that I have chosen to be as natural as possible when it comes to what I feed myself, so it feels right to become better intune with my 28 day natural cycle.

I genuinely feel like I owe it to myself as an act of self love. In all honesty I am scared to get off it becasue I don’t really know myself without it. This is why today’s guest couldn’t have come at a better time.

A lot of you may know Sarah Cooper for her instagram @scoopitup. A little bit about this power house, Sarah is a clinical nutritionist aswell as a pilates instructor who is well studied in how to move and nourish at different stages of our cycle. I personally feel like no one ever taught me anything about this and I am excited to be bringing this knowledge to the forefront. People like Sarah are my favourite to follow because I always learn and get inspired by her content.

Today’s episode is all about finding your flow state! I discovered this term when I was reading The Art of Impossible by Steven Kotler, and have since dived deep into ways to live in flow.

I am sure a lot of you are wondering, “Dom what is this flow state?” The term Flow state was created by Mihaly Csikszentmihályi in the 1970s - referring to flow state as being so immersed in the joy of their work or activity “that nothing else seems to matter.” To me it is when you’re living with so much purpose, that the world seems to be working for you and with you. You feel light, a lot of effort can seem effortless, and you are really in the groove.

The best example of being in flow is when we look at Athletes. They are so in their zone on the court that they are not thinking about anything else, they are hyper focused and fixated on what they need to do.

So today’s episode is all about helping you find your flow state! This has been a real game changer for me, it has in all honesty changed my life and i’m excited to dive deep into the episode.