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Key takeaways:

• Personal growth starts with telling the truth and being willing to sit in discomfort.
• Conflict can be an opportunity for growth and learning, but it's important to find a balance between love and challenge.
• Coaches need to be willing to call out the truth and challenge their clients, even if it may lead to discomfort or potential loss.
• Over-delivering can stem from a fear of abandonment or rejection, and it's important to set boundaries and not take on too much responsibility for clients' results.
• Being seen can be both a deep desire and a challenge, and it's important to navigate the shadows and find a balance between self-criticism and self-acceptance.
• The quote 'I'd rather be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war' represents the desire to embody strength and love in everyday life. Skill development in martial arts involves using less energy and strength as one becomes more skilled.
• Balance between action and stillness is important in achieving success and fulfillment.
• Relaxation and clarity are essential for effective decision-making and problem-solving.
• Fear and motivation can drive behavior, but it is important to shift to inspiration and creation as fuel sources.
• Money is easier to make than to keep, and self-worth is closely linked to one's ability to attract and hold onto money.
• Healing oneself is necessary in order to effectively help and heal others.

Sound bites:

"It really forced me to look at every piece of myself that was contributing to the separation."

"Fitting in is absence of true belonging."

"The trigger is the wound. The response is the level of healing that you hold."

"Yeah, it's profound."

"You use less energy and less strength."

"We try to warrior our way through life."

Time stamps:

00:00 Introduction and Life-Changing Experiences

03:25 The Power of Truth-Telling and Personal Growth

08:03 Navigating Conflict and Setting Boundaries

14:51 The Balance Between Over-Delivering and Boundaries

22:03 Embodying Strength and Vulnerability

26:12 The Challenges of Perfectionism and the Desire to be Seen

30:53 The Wisdom of Martial Arts: Balance and Energy Conversion

31:41 The Art of Skill Development and Energy Management

34:49 The Interplay Between Strength and Relaxation

37:33 The Depth of Relaxation and Focus

41:12 Exploring the Source of Actions and Desires

51:12 Money and Self-Worth

56:46 Healing Oneself to Heal Others