So Gay for You

Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All

By: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

Narrated by: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

*AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER*

An intimate, hilarious memoir of art, friendship, queerness, and found family, written and read by Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, stars of The L Word—including never-before-shared stories from behind the scenes of the show and their personal lives. This program includes an exclusive bonus Q&A with fans' questions.

"Are you comfortable with nudity?" my manager asked.

In the early 2000s, Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey—both young artists trying to figure it all out—met at auditions for an unknown little TV show. Given that it was a show about lesbians living in Los Angeles, with the first ever ensemble cast of openly queer female characters, Kate and Leisha knew the project was going to be unlike anything else out there—that is, if it even got picked up.

Then, one million people watched the premiere. The show, which came to be called The L Word, turned into a trailblazing phenomenon. Its influence on pop culture, in the political arena, and in the lives of viewers has been lasting, impactful, even life-saving. And in addition to changing the course of television history, The L Word changed Kate and Leisha's lives forever.

From their first day on set, Kate and Leisha have always had each other’s backs, inseparable to the degree that the cast joked they were like a pair of pants—you couldn't have one leg without the other. Hence the name for their branded partnership, PANTS, launched in 2020, and accompanying podcast, which has been downloaded over twenty million times.

This friendship has seen Kate and Leisha through their greatest triumphs and most painful moments, stumbling from closeted queer kids in a hostile culture, to LGBTQ+ activists, actors, podcasters, and business owners. Full of never-before-shared glimpses into the making of The L Word, Kate and Leisha's real-life loves and losses, and their experience as queer icons, So Gay for You is a heartfelt, inspiring love letter to a ride or die friendship over the decades, and a testament to the liberating power of chosen family.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press.

Fantastic!!!!

I absolutely loved So Gay for You. It’s a heartfelt, honest, and beautifully written memoir that truly moved me. What struck me the most was how open and vulnerable Kate and Leisha were throughout the book—especially knowing how private they are in real life. Their willingness to share so much of themselves made the reading experience feel intimate, like hearing from two close friends.

Their friendship, humor, and deep connection shine through every page. Whether they were reflecting on their early days in the industry or offering behind-the-scenes stories from The L Word, everything felt genuine and raw in the best way. It’s not just a book for fans—it’s a celebration of queer friendship, chosen family, and living your truth.

Highly recommend this one. It stays with you long after the last page.

I purchased a physical book but loved that they had this audiobook.

Felt like a sit down

Felt like old friends sitting down to have a chat. Very enjoyable. Felt like I knew them

Loved it so much!

Love the both of them so much. So much of my teenage/ young adult life was influenced by their early work!

Their honesty and humbleness throughout everything they do!

Nothing! I could listen to them forever Thank you always. Much Love!! ❤️ - Tam

Fantastic!!!

Loved every minute of it! It is a beautiful testimony to your friendship! Thank you!