That We Might Have Joy

Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love

By: Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Narrated by: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Sexual intimacy can be experienced as a pleasant pastime, a physical need, a reward, a threat, a bargaining chip, a source of frustration, a well of shame—even a necessary evil. Far less understood is its potential to be something much more: a source of deep joy, spiritual transcendence, and communion with another soul.

In a society drawn to quick fixes and surface-level advice, That We Might Have Joy offers something deeper—an honest look at how sexual intimacy acts as both diagnosis and cure for what ails modern marriage.

With clarity and compassion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife reframes sexuality not as a threat to faith, but as an expression of it. She shows us how sexual intimacy can reveal the truth of a relationship—and, for those willing to confront that truth, it can become the starting point of something far more soul-sustaining.

That We Might Have Joy is a call to greater integrity—within our marriages, our faith, and ourselves. It invites us to live more honestly, love more deeply, and discover what becomes possible when we heal the division between our spiritual and sexual selves.

©2025 Jennifer Finlayson-Fife (P)2025 Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Very helpful

Dr. Jennifer is able to remove emotional masks from couples problems and drill down to the root of the issue so well. She speaks a language that actually gets through to my husband! Her practical advice and depth of knowledge has been instrumental in me looking at the part, I play in the dynamic of our marriage and helps me realizewhat I can do to feel better about myself and our situation.

Go here first

Jennifer is the leading expert on LD sex and relationships. Her work is a gift to our community.

Well done

A sensitive topic treated very maturely with actionable advice on how to personally mature in ways that enhance relationships, quality of life, and perspective. Grateful for the efforts and articulation of the author's work. I recommend this book.

Must read!

A must read for anyone wanting to grow up, heal a marriage, and teach their children how to have a healthy view of themselves and their sexuality. Thank you Jennifer for your thoughtful work. So amazing to have your work in a book.

Helpful for adults, helpful for youth

I wish I had this perspective on sexuality 40 years ago. Better late than never. Now to drop some JFF knowledge on my kids.