If Only I'd Known!

How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth

By: Chelsey Brooke Cole

Narrated by: Chelsey Brooke Cole

This therapist-written and recommended 3-part audiobook will help you understand the inner workings of a narcissist, heal from narcissistic abuse, and experience sustainable post-traumatic growth.

In relationships, have you ever found yourself:

• Feeling like something is "off," but not being able to explain why?

• Leaving conversations feeling more confused than when you started them?

• Constantly ruminating on how to "make sense" of what you feel and what's happening?

• Feeling "not enough" no matter how hard you try?

Narcissistic abuse creates a tidal wave of confusion, hypervigilance, and overthinking. You have trouble thinking clearly, remembering things, or taking in new information.

And because these changes are happening to you, you begin to wonder:

What's wrong with me?

Why can't I make this relationship work?

Am I fundamentally broken?

And that's exactly how narcissistic abuse works—it happens so subtly that you believe the insecurities you're experiencing are "you" instead of "what's happening" to you.

You think there's something wrong with you.

You think you need to change or get better.

You think no one else understands.

Narcissistic abuse is a multilayered attack on your sense of self—a dismantling of who you are and what you believe you're worth.

This audiobook covers unique information related to narcissistic abuse, including:

• How different narcissistic types love bomb

• Cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and physiological warning signs that you're being abused

• How and why narcissistic trauma bonds form and the process to untangle yourself from these binding relationships

• How to set boundaries even if you're highly empathic

• The most common reasons you stay stuck and how to get "unstuck"

If you've ever wondered:

• How did I get into this relationship?

• I'm such a people pleaser—how can I set better boundaries?

• What if healing isn't possible for me?

• I feel so lost and broken—where do I even start?

This audiobook is for you!

©2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT (P)2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT

This book is amazing.

It was an amazing experience to listen to this audio book. The narrative is so close to the audience, that made me have a perfect understanding all the way from the beginning to the end. I found a profound connection with the author that I am seriously considering on sharing my story. Before I listened this audio book, it was hard to find a good resource of support for people like me. A man who was a victim of narcissistic abuse is not a common thing. All the programs out there are made for female victims. I recommend this book 1000%.

Dealing with a Narc? Then this is for you

This book gave me the information, insight and courage I needed to realize I’m married to a narcissist. never feeling good enough and always believe they will change for the better, this book sums it up in soluch a great way. I am so grateful for the information from Chelsey. I feel anyone who thinks they are dealing with a narcissist should have this book,

Fantastic Book!

What a fantastic book. It felt so good to be affirmed and put an explanation to the years of emotional and psychological abuse that I endured. I highly recommend!

The Survival Manual for Victims of NPD Abuse

I first found and followed Chelsey on FB- her insight and breakdown of NPD behaviors is so accurate that it makes you want to keep reading. Her empathy and understanding towards survivors of these toxic behaviors helps us know that we are not alone. This book is a deep dive from what she shares online, and it really helped me understand more about the subtleties of the trauma bond, as well as the intricacies of the different types of narcissists (among other things- there is so much more). It is a great book- it is on my shelf, right next to "Stop Walking on Eggshells..." possibly the foremost text on surviving BPD people. I consider this book to be of the same caliber. Thank you Chelsey, for this, and for the generosity you show in your online content. This world is a better place because of you.

Timely advice

Easy to understand and full of practical advice in a subject that is not talked much about

Wow

I really like the way this book was written and constructed. It’s incredibly relatable and inspiring.

So very helpful!

Because it was so positive and helpful. Author not only explained very thoroughly about how to spot a narcissist, she gave clear, down to earth examples. But she didn’t leave us hanging with hopelessness: She explained how sensitive personalities tend to respond and how narcissists control them. Provided a manual of steps to take toward growth. I’m going to listen again!

Honest help in an understanding way

Very point on in my life. I appreciate the facts and feelings given in this book dealing with this terrible subject.

One of Those Life Toolkit Books

Loved the content and the author’s tone when approaching the topics. It’s a book everyone needs to read. It’s not a book to binge, though! I had to pause and process a lot of what I was reading / hearing. I’m recommending it to my clients, too.

Excellent Analysis

Thank you so much for this thorough review of narcissism, trauma bonds, and tips on boundary setting. Thank you most of all for assuring us that it’s not our fault.