More Than Two (Second Edition)

Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity (More Than Two Essentials)

By: Kim TallBear - foreword, Eve Rickert, Andrea Zanin

Narrated by: Andrea Zanin, Eve Rickert, Kim TallBear

A modern topology of nonmonogamy’s many possibilities―and consequences.

“Can you love more than one person?” A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss “opening” relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question.

The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both “love” in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes.

More Than Two can’t promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths―from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy―possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin’s insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise―or at least they can, if we work at it.

©2024 Eve Rickert, Andrea Zanin, Kim TallBear (P)2024 Thornapple Press

Critic reviews

"In place of dominant and oppressive-for-so-many relationship norms, Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin offer abundant possibilities that not only disrupt those norms, but that better meet the desires, needs, skills, and life conditions of the individual humans who are trying to love and relate as best we can in this challenging world."—from the foreword by Dr. Kim TallBear, Professor and Canada Research Chair in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience and Society at the University of Alberta and the author of The Critical Polyamorist.

"More Than Two, Second Edition is a true game changer in the field of nonmonogamy theory and education. Rickert and Zanin have crafted a smart, thorough, compassionate book that tackles many issues, including those others shy away from including misconduct and abuse. This book is useful for beginners and veterans alike and offers practical tools to nourish any kind of relationship."—Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up

Really useful whether you do or don’t

Lots of useful information for any kind of relationship, and an interesting peek into many cultures. Well worth the time!

Detail clarity

Great information. Easy to understand and reflect
Thanks! Great works . Easy to use what applies and differentiates from what doesn’t

A wonderful primer for ENM

This is an updated version of More Than Two and addresses a lot of issues and concerns about what it means to live an ENM lifestyle. I came to this book because I’m recently out as polyamorous and my spouse is monogamous. There are definitely many things to think about, but at the end of the day it’s about treating people with kindness and compassion; to remember everyone is human and usually doing their best. If you are curious about other relationship dynamics and structures this can be a very useful resource to learn more, but if you are more seasoned and have done a lot of self reflection and work then it may not be as useful. In a general sense this book valuable as it helps better define certain concepts, and provides some reflective questions that can aid in navigating some of the ideas presented throughout. I am thankful for the updates and purpose of this work.

Advanced Polyamory Advice, Highly Recommend to All

I've read so many books on managing polyamorous relationships, and this resource feels essential (and at times, radical - see section distinguishing boundaries, agreements, and rules! Loved it!). Too many polyamory books focus on polyamory within the framework of monogamy, and I get that, cuz it's a common configuration. However, this book actually gave me advice i can use in my more niche polyamorous configuration. Highly recommend, even if you think you know what works for you in poly. The advice is interesting and useful.