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It's Not About the Alcohol

By: Colleen Kachmann
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  • Would you like to permanently reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you don’t have to quit? Most high achieving professional women assume overdrinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control. Whether you’re a daily drinker who can’t break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don’t drink anymore, the real problem is that you don’t trust yourself anymore. Which means it’s not about the alcohol. It’s about your relationship with yourself. I’m a mindful drinking coach helping women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible. Figuring out what you really need and want in life will restore your focus. Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don’t drink themselves into a stupor. Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, deal with post acute withdrawal syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body.
    2022
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  • EP132 The difference between behavior-based and identity-based changed
    Jul 23 2024

    How often do you pour a drink that you wish you had the willpower to resist?

    There’s a big difference between knowing what you should do and having the motivation to follow through.

    The mistake most people make when they want to cut back on their drinking is to use an all or nothing approach. Because it seems easier to avoid alcohol than to worry about that slippery slope of temptation.

    But if you’re in the habit of overdrinking, you’ve come to see yourself as someone who likes to drink more than you should. Which means that no matter how good it feels to wake up without a hangover, you’ll eventually feel deprived or get tired of making the effort.

    In contrast, people in the habit of stopping when they’ve had enough see themselves as moderate drinkers. Turning down another drink doesn’t feel hard for them. Because they really don’t want it.

    Everything you think, feel and do is a reflection of your self-image. Trying to change how you drink before changing how you see yourself forces you to swim against a riptide of subconscious programming.

    In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why setting behavior-based goals such as limiting yourself to two drinks is a fast-pass to failure

    • How to improve your self-image without denying you want to change

    • The four phases of neuroplasticity that explain why it’s not possible to change all at once

    • Practical strategies for how to use willpower to design processes that make it easier to drink in moderation

    Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer

    Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

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    52 mins
  • EP131 How to use the law of attraction to manifest a healthy relationship with alcohol
    Jul 16 2024

    Are you a positive person feeling defeated by your drinking habit?

    It’s hard to feel optimistic when you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts and anxiety due to overdrinking. Worrying feels like the responsible thing to do.

    But if beating yourself up was an effective strategy against alcohol use disorder, your cravings for alcohol would disappear.

    It’s counterintuitive to let go of the shame and guilt before you have proof that you’re cured. But you can’t solve the problem using the mindset that is creating the problem. Your negative thoughts and feelings are just making it worse.

    You already know that feeling better allows you to do better. When you manage to get it right…whatever that means to you , you feel inspired and optimistic. Which means you’re going to have to learn how to cultivate those emotions even when you’re hungover.

    Michael Hunter is an acupuncturist with a master’s degree in Taoism, and the founder of UpSpiral Life, a program for people who want to learn how to use the Law of Attraction and manifestation practices to change their lives. In this episode, you’ll hear:

    • How the Law of Attraction works to expand your capacity for positive emotions (and naturally reduce your desire to use alcohol as a crutch)

    • Daily practices to decondition your brain from negative thinking habits

    • How prioritizing a sense of optimism and peace will uplevel your life in ways you can’t even imagine

    • Whether or not it’s actually possible to manifest a million bucks while you sit on the couch

    Find Michael’s website at www.UpSpiral.Life, and join him on social media @sleepfix on TikTok and @UpSpiral.Life on Instagram

    Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer

    Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

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    58 mins
  • EP130 Three skills to manage your mind so it works for you (instead of against you)
    Jul 9 2024

    EP130 Three skills to manage your mind so it works for you (instead of against you)

    Are you tired of worrying about alcohol because no matter how hard you try to change, you always end up back in the same place?

    The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But most people who are serious about cutting back on their alcohol consumption have actually tried a lot of different strategies.

    You may have taken a break to reset your tolerance, tried medications that reduce cravings, used apps like Sunnyside and Reframe for accountability or switched to beverages with lower alcohol content.

    It’s impossible to have hope when you feel like a failure. The shame, guilt and frustration consume your energy and motivation, and undermine your relationships, career and mental health.

    In this episode, Colleen explains why the more you worry about alcohol, the worse it gets. Because alcohol use disorder is a thinking problem, not a drinking problem. Changing how you think will naturally and easily change how you drink. You’ll learn:

    • The difference between negative and positive goals and why setting the goal to “drink less” causes you to drink more

    • How to move from an all-or-nothing perfectionistic mindset to a growth mindset with a less-is-more attitude towards alcohol

    • The difference between identity-based and behavior-based change and how to become someone who values her relationship with herself (so you can stop worrying about your relationship with alcohol)

    Come find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer

    Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH COLLEEN Are you looking for a mindful drinking coach instead of a sobriety program? I can help you reduce your drinking by 80 percent so you don't have to quit. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of why you're struggling and what tools you need to achieve your goals.

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    45 mins

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practice guide to see the way you think about decluttwring the confusion!

Colleen has been so instrumental in opening my eyes on many levels to become aware how my stinkin drinking is from how I am thinking and just a habit I created.

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Great information, honest conversation, and realistic guide to your journey. Do yourself a favor and listen or send to someone that might need this.

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IF YOU HAVEN'T LET IT GO.....THIS IS A MUST LISTEN

really enjoyed listening to this subject!! divorced 12 years and I still needed to hear this!!!
thank you for your teachings Colleen!!

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