The Enneagram in Marriage

Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing

By: Christa Hardin

Narrated by: Rosemary Benson

Length: 10 hrs and 3 mins

Publisher's summary

Most books exploring the Enneagram are focused on understanding oneself. But how does the Enneagram lend insight to our relationships? Specifically, your relationship with your spouse and the unique pairing you share?

In this incredibly practical and easy-to-understand book, counselor and psychologist Christa Hardin combines her expertise in psychological assessment and marriage and family counseling to explore all forty-five possible Enneagram pairings in relationships. She calls it the Enneagram Glow—the unique, mutual influence of two types in intimate relationship across the seasons and shifts that every couple experiences. She helps you learn to

- understand your partner's emotions and reactions

- extend more grace to your partner and yourself

- have productive conversations that foster connection

- build a legacy together with intention

You've never explored a relationship book or an Enneagram book like this before! Discover how you and your partner can build on your shared gifts, overcome the shadows, and shine a bright and beautiful light on each other and everyone you encounter.

©2023 Christa Hardin (P)2023 eChristian

Loved sharing about this topic!

I love using the tools in my marriage to truly make beautiful strides! It’s a gift to have the Enneagram in marriage.

Insightful for marriage & other relationships

Great insight into how different Enneagram types relate to each other. Read together and discuss.

Book is good not great, audiobook is meh not good

The book:

This is a solid book about the enneagram, and does a great job, giving explanations about how all the types function, but more importantly, what is shown when the types interact with one another. I don’t feel that it offered anything especially unique compared to any other Enneagram books, but is a great starting point for a couple that is new to the Enneagram and wants to understand it, and themselves, better as a family unit. If you’re curious, do give it a listen.

The audiobook:

This book does not translate well to audiobook format. This particular reading of the book was done by a narrator with a somewhat flat voice and robotic speech pattern, like listening to an AI narrator with a human voice. It is also difficult to specifically find the sections pertaining to you and your spouse, because each type is explained at different stages in a few chapters and then a large portion of the book is dedicated to specific pairings, and what those interactions look like in particular. Because of this, a lot of time is spent scrubbing through the audio of the chapters listening to a dozen or so seconds (and sometimes a few minutes) before finding out that you’re still in the wrong section, and need to keep scrubbing to find the right one. Unless you are genuinely interested in learning about how all 45 pairings of the Enneagram interact with one another, I would recommend finding a literal book, and flipping to the pages you would like to read instead of listening to it as an audiobook.