Advanced planning isn’t always possible because if the decision to divorce wasn’t yours then you have had no time or opportunity to prepare. And this is true for so many of life’s challenges as these tend to land into our lives with us not being ready.

But that’s life right? As John Lennon said - Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.

Today I want to talk about some of the specifics around planning around and preparing for your divorce, your healing and your new life.

You are here, so this is happening and whether you wanted it or not. Dwelling on that you didn’t want this is counterproductive. Understandable but not helpful. If you just want me to tell you that you don’t have to do anything then you have chosen the wrong episode.

Did you notice that I mentioned planning your divorce, your healing and your new life?

Yes - this is not just a financial and legal road map. It is important to focus on all areas of this journey. And while the financial and legal can feel the most daunting and also the most important - it is likely the easiest as there are so many who can help you and there are specific steps that need to be taken.

The scary factor is the unknown results, the potential emotional chaos and hostility and our own fear of working our way through these legal and financial avenues that most of us had no understanding of leading up to this time.

Let’s start with the financial and legal. If you are listening to this then you likely are going through or have gone through divorce. If you are done then you might want to skip ahead to the part about planning your healing and your new life starting at 16:50.

Legal and Financial Planning

• Gather your team
• Learn as much as you can
• Become clear about what your best and worst outcome is and plan to land somewhere in the middle.
• Be fair
• Keep a level head (more on that in the healing planning)
• ** And join the Rising Free membership

Plan to heal

• Gather your team and your people
• Be honest with yourself
• Lots of self-reflection, self-compassion, self-love and patience
• Learn who you are and what you want out of your life
• Spend time around people who lift you and don’t drag you down. Plan for this
• Expect healing

Plan for your new life

The focus tends to be so heavy on the scary stuff and the negative things that happen and may happen. So few talk about the good. It’s like we are afraid to feel good or feel guilty feeling anything positive at all. Enough of that!

• It’s time to map out a beautiful life for yourself and start making some plans to get you closer to that - Retreats, Vacations, time with people you love
• Work you find satisfying, and a home life that is balanced and easy

This is all within your control so make it happen.

LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE

💃🏼 RE-LAUNCH OF RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - Join the waitlist now to be the first to know about all the launch specials and events. www.theseparationclub.com/risingfree

💃🏼 Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat

💃🏼 BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal

💃🏼 I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching

💃🏼 Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist

💃🏼 Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub

💃🏼 You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.

💃🏼 And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444

There are many parts to a healing journey during and after separation and divorce. That's why I started this healing series and here is part 4. So manke sure to check out the previous 3 and the introduction to the series in episode 83. Having high or unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others can really get in the way of the healing journey because you are essentially giving your power (and peace of mind) away to the person you expect something from. And for self-expectations - they are often tied to how we want others to react based on our actions etc. All in all it's a messy business that can cause us a lot of pain. So let's dive into this together and as always I will have some great insights and tools for you.

LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE

• RE-LAUNCH OF RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - Join the waitlist now to be the first to know about all the launch specials and events.
• Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat
• BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
• I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching

• Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
• Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
• You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
• And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444

Grief after a divorce can be particularly intense and persistent, and many people find themselves stuck in their grief and ruminating on the past for several reasons.

1. Loss of Identity
2. Emotional Attachment
3. Unresolved Issues
4. Fear of the Future
5. Habitual Thinking Patterns
6. Societal and Cultural Influences

LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE

• The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart
• Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat
• BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
• I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
• Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
• Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
• You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
• And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444