Divorce creates the perfect breeding ground for resentment - that heavy, persistent feeling that can linger for years after your marriage ends. But what if you could finally set down that emotional burden?

This episode dives deep into understanding what really fuels your post-divorce resentment. Through practical exercises and thoughtful guidance, you'll learn to identify the specific ways the resentment was created in the first place.

The transformation begins with awareness. By recognizing exactly what you're holding onto and why, you create space to process these emotions completely. I walk you through a step-by-step writing exercise to help you name your resentments without judgment, identify the expectations and then I offer concrete techniques to process through the resentment and release it with intention.

As a bonus, are you ready to free yourself from unnecessary emotional baggage? Download my free guide to managing the emotional rollercoaster of divorce through the link in the description to accelerate your healing journey.

For more information and full show notes go to:
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Divorce guilt is one of the heaviest burdens mothers carry, particularly when it comes to our children. We're bombarded with messages about "staying together for the kids," research on divorce's negative impacts, and cultural narratives that paint divorced families as inherently damaged. But what if we've been looking at this all wrong?

In this episode, I challenge the notion that divorce harms children by offering four powerful ways divorce can actually benefit your kids. One of the profound gifts that I’ll cover is your children get access to the best version of you - a woman who honors her needs, maintains healthy boundaries, and models self-respect rather than self-abandonment. When you reconnect to your authentic self after divorce, you demonstrate for your children what healthy adulthood actually looks like.

Ready to release the burden of divorce guilt and embrace the positive impact your choices can have on your children? Listen now, and discover how reframing your divorce story can free both you and your children to create healthier, more authentic lives.

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Struggling to feel grounded after your divorce? The path forward begins with something surprisingly simple: being present.

When we're caught in the cycle of regret about the past or anxiety about the future, genuine healing remains out of reach. In this episode I’ll share a powerful yet straightforward technique that can transform how you navigate post-divorce emotions. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise engages all five senses to anchor you firmly in the present moment—the only place where true healing occurs.

What makes this approach so valuable is its simplicity and accessibility. You can practice it anywhere: during a stressful meeting, while managing chaotic family moments, or when those painful divorce memories resurface unexpectedly. By doing this practice you're actively realigning your nervous system and creating space for healing.

This episode goes beyond just teaching a technique—it reframes how we understand emotional regulation after divorce. The goal isn't to achieve perfect calm at all times but to develop greater capacity to navigate life's challenges without being controlled by habitual fight-flight-freeze responses. When we can ground ourselves in the present, we gain the ability to make conscious choices about who we want to be and how we want to show up in our post-divorce lives.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
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What happens when the future you've always planned for suddenly disappears? After divorce, many women find themselves trapped in a pit of despair, believing their chance at happiness vanished along with their marriage. But what if this challenging transition actually offers an unexpected gift – the freedom to design a future that truly resonates with who you are?

In this episode I’ll explore how society's prescribed notions of family, happiness, and success have shaped our expectations. Those perfect retirement scenes in medication commercials? The idyllic nuclear family portrayed in media? These aren't universal truths – they're social constructs that have evolved (and continue to evolve) throughout human history. You'll discover how challenging these inherited beliefs creates space for authentic growth and self-discovery.

The episode offers practical guidance for creating a new vision that aligns with your values and current reality. Through targeted questions – about your guiding principles, bold dreams, and how you'll view this chapter in hindsight – you'll learn to craft a future outlook that serves and inspires you. Because if we're going to "make up" our futures anyway (as we all do), why not create visions that genuinely support who we are and who we're becoming?

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For more information and full show notes go to:
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When the emotional waves of divorce hit unexpectedly, leaving you wondering if you've somehow failed at healing, know this: you're experiencing grief in its most natural form. Grief during divorce isn't a linear journey with neat stages and timelines—it's an unpredictable rollercoaster that can send you soaring one day and plummeting the next.

The profound disconnect between what you thought your life would be and what it has become creates the perfect conditions for grief to emerge. Yet unlike the grief that follows death, divorce grief often hides in plain sight, unacknowledged by both ourselves and society. You might hear that you have no right to feel sad if you initiated the divorce, or that you should feel only relief if your marriage was difficult. These judgments only compound the pain.

What you're feeling is valid. Every time you feel like you've finally found solid ground, only to be blindsided by sadness while shopping at Target or driving to work, you're not moving backward in your healing—you're moving through it exactly as you need to. There's no "right way" to grieve the end of a marriage.

Understanding the predictable triggers that launch you back onto this emotional rollercoaster gives you power. Knowing what situations commonly spark these feelings—and having practical tools ready to support yourself through them—transforms your experience from overwhelming to manageable.

To help you navigate this challenging terrain with more confidence, I've created a free guide; What To Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce. This guide explains the science behind your experiences, identifies the five most common scenarios that set off emotional responses, and provides concrete tools to help you find your footing faster. Available as both a PDF and audio recording, it's my free gift to you. Download it today through the link in the below, and remember: your healing journey is uniquely yours, and you're doing it exactly right.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
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Have you ever noticed how society teaches women to shrink, stay small, and remain quiet? From childhood, we're conditioned to take up less space physically and emotionally, to soften our opinions, and to prioritize everyone else's comfort above our own. After divorce, this pattern often intensifies as uncertainty looms large.

But what if divorce actually offers something revolutionary? What if, instead of further contraction, divorce presents the perfect opportunity for expansion?

This episode dives deep into why I proudly declare myself "pro-divorce" – not because I think everyone should end their marriage, but because I've witnessed how divorce can catalyze profound personal growth for women who've spent years diminishing themselves. We explore our tendency to stay small, examining how the amygdala (our brain's fear center) works overtime to "protect" us from the perceived dangers of speaking up, taking space, and trusting ourselves.

Through personal stories and practical insights, I share my own journey of expansion after divorce, including a recent situation where I refused to shrink myself to make my current partner more comfortable. You'll discover the power that comes from recognizing when fear is protecting you from genuine danger versus when it's simply limiting your growth. Most importantly, you'll learn how to trust that you're already handling uncertainty every single day – you're just not giving yourself credit for it.

Ready to step outside the small box society has placed you in? Ready to expand into your fullest self? This episode offers both the permission and practical guidance to bloom unapologetically after divorce. Because you deserve to live without constantly apologizing for being who you are.

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Communication patterns can make or break relationships, and understanding the destructive "Four Horsemen" identified by relationship expert John Gottman can help you build healthier connections after divorce. Being able to recognize these patterns in yourself gives you the power to change your communication style for all future relationships.

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—these patterns create a cascade of disconnection that, once established, become increasingly difficult to break. In this episode I walk you through each destructive pattern and how to recognize when you're falling into these traps. Rather than approaching this knowledge with self-judgment, I invite you to view your communication habits through the lens of curiosity, opening the door to genuine transformation.

Whether you're co-parenting with your ex, building new friendships, navigating workplace dynamics, or considering future romantic relationships, these communication insights will serve you well. By supporting yourself first and creating space for intentional communication, you can break free from destructive patterns and build the authentic connections you deserve.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep216

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We've all been there—those moments during divorce when our minds spiral with thoughts that feel absolutely true: "I wasn't good enough," "I've ruined my children's lives," or "I'll never recover from this." But what if these certainties are simply stories your brain has constructed, not objective facts?

In this episode, I reveal how the thoughts dominating your divorce experience have been shaped by forces largely outside your control—biology, family conditioning, and societal expectations. Your brain, constantly seeking patterns and explanations, often manufactures meaning that aligns with these influences rather than reflecting reality.

When I faced my own divorce, society told me it would devastate my children and destroy my future. Instead of accepting this narrative, I consciously chose to define divorce differently—as growth, new beginnings, and ultimately a path to greater happiness. Years later, that decision has proven transformative not just for me, but for my entire family.

The power lies in recognizing that when we're stressed and emotionally overwhelmed, our primitive brain hijacks our reasoning abilities. Through a simple 3-5 minute writing practice I teach my clients, you can learn to distinguish between objective facts and subjective interpretations. This distinction creates space for choice—the choice to interpret your divorce and future differently.

This isn't about toxic positivity or ignoring genuine feelings. It's about recognizing that most thoughts causing your suffering aren't unassailable truths but interpretations you can question and replace. When you separate fact from story, you reclaim your power to chart your own course through divorce and beyond.

Ready to stop believing everything your brain tells you about your divorce? Try the practice outlined in this episode, or schedule a free 30-minute call with me to experience how liberating it feels to distinguish between what's happening and what it means.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep215

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