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Do you want to help your adopted or foster child work through the big issues they may face in life? Join our discussion of the seven core issues with Allison Davis Maxon, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the co-author of Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency, The Seven Core Issues Workbook for Parents of Traumatized Children and Teens, and The Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency Workbook for Children and Teens.

In this episode, we cover:

• The 7 core issues in adoption and foster care: Loss, Rejection, Guilt/Shame, Grief, Identity, Intimacy, Mastery/Control
• These 7 core issues impact all adoptees and foster kids to some degree and are crucial for adoptive and foster parents to understand.
• They also impact all members of the adoption or foster care triad: adoptee or foster child or adult, birth parent, and adoptive/foster parent. Today, we will focus primarily on how these 7 core issues impact adoptees and those who spent time in foster care and what role parents can play in helping their children process these issues.
• These core issues can manifest themself differently in children at different ages and stages.
• Parents can provide guidance and support, allowing the child to feel every emotion deeply. They can also use education, understanding, awareness, and acceptance tools to encourage the child to move forward.
• Loss.
  • What have adopted and foster kids lost?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Rejection.
  • How have adopted and foster kids been rejected?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Guilt/Shame.
  • What causes adopted and foster children or adults to feel guilt or shame?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Grief.
  • What can adopted and foster children or adults grieve?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Identity.
  • What are the universal identity issues faced by adopted and foster children or adults?
  • Additional issues for transracial adoptees.
  • Having the label “foster” to your identity is shaming.
  • Does openness in adoption “cure” this issue?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Intimacy.
  • What issues with intimacy are common with adopted and foster children or adults?
  • What can parents do to help?
• Mastery and Control.
  • What mastery and control issues are common with adopted and foster children or adults?
  • What can parents do to help?

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Are you in infertility treatment but possibly considering adoption? Dawn outlines what couples may be considering, which indicates they are ready to consider adoption.

Resources:

• Parenting After Infertility
• Types of Adoption
• Affording Adoption

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
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Join us to talk with Dr. Kimberly McKee about her book, Adoption Fantasies: The Fetishization of Asian Adoptees from Girlhood to Womanhood.

In this episode, we cover:
This book explores how Asian women and girls, specifically Asian adoptees in the US, negotiate the sensationalism and fictional portrayal of adoption in US popular culture.

• “Modern Family” and “Sex and the City” (and “And Just Like That…”)
• “Sideways”
• Soon-Yi Previn and Woody Allen
• The limits of multiculturalism
• How does adoption play into the fetishization of female Asian adoptees?

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Support the Show.

Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

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• Weekly podcasts
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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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As a mom of four children through birth and adoption, I’ve been there and done that in terms of parenting. I’ve made more than my share of mistakes and have had my share of successes as well. I’ve also had the privilege of interviewing the top parenting experts over the last almost 17 years we’ve been doing the Creating a Family podcast. It can be hard in the heat of the moment (and there are plenty of hot moments in parenting) to remember too many “rules”. Listen for my top two tips for parenting.

Resources:

• Parenting Kids with Challenging Behavior (Resource page)
• Raising Kids with Neurodiversity - ADHD, Autism, & Learning Differences (Resource page)
• Managing Technology & Screens (Resource page)

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Children adopted from foster care or from abroad have often experienced abuse, neglect, or trauma. These children require a different form of parenting. In 2015, we interviewed Dr. Karyn Purvis, author of The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family, and the founder and Director of the TCU Institute of Child Development.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why is parenting kids who have been abused or neglected different from traditional parenting?
• What are the 3 most important things I should do during the first 6 months home with a newly adopted child?
• How can we discipline our children while still remaining connected and creating attachment?
• How can we help a child who has tantrums whenever he hears the word “no” or is told he can’t do something?
• How long should parents stay home (if possible) when you adopt?
• An adult adoptee asks: I’ve seen before where you say that “Adoptive parents become the biological parents through connection. We change their Biology.” I’ve seen adoptive parents now call themselves biological parents because of this statement. I wonder if it isn’t important for adoptive parents to accept they aren’t their child’s biological parents? Does their lack of acceptance affect how the child adjusts and reacts?
• You talk a lot about being proactive with children who have experienced abuse and neglect in order to help them and to improve their behavior. Can you explain what you mean?
• Parenting kids adopted from foster care and internationally can be hard on the marriage, especially when one of the parents is the one getting educated on the type of parenting these kids need and the other one has not “bought into” it yet. How to help that parent get with the program.
• Suggestions for maintaining a strong marriage when adopting older kids?
• How to handle criticism (implied or direct) about your parenting style when you are trying to follow the empower-to-connect style?
• Practical tools for encouraging attachment.

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: My foster child only likes junk food and will not eat anything that doesn’t come out of a box. We aren’t fanatics, but we try to eat pretty healthily. I don’t want to feed the rest of my family the boxed junk, and I don’t want to feed him separate stuff. Help!

Resources:

• Food Issues (Resource page)
• Raising Foster Children (Resource page)
• Creating a Family Online Support Group

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Support the Show.

Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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We talk a lot about the child's experience in foster care, but what is this experience like for the child's birth parents? You may be surprised! Join our conversation with Dr. Darcey Merritt, a professor at the University of Chicago School of Social Work who researches this topic.

In this episode, we cover:

• What is a typical scenario, if there is such a thing, of how a parent finds themselves connecting with the child welfare system?
• What rights do parents/birth parents have within the system?
• What are some of the challenges birth parents face before the child is taken into custody?
• What are some of the challenges that they face once the child is in foster care?
• How can you become an ally to the child’s parents?
• How does poverty factor in?
• Who most commonly reports a family to child welfare?
• How does race factor in?
• Research in the area of working memory on parental decision-making.

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
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• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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What are the red flags that may alert that a potential agency may not have the child’s or your best interest in mind? Your adoption agency will guide your international adoption, so choose wisely. Dawn highlights some of the red flags to be aware of and Creating a Family has a 3-step process for finding an adoption agency, and we include a list of questions you must ask agencies before you select. Note that all international adoption agencies must have Hague accreditation to place children in the US.

Resources:

• US Dept of State Complaint Registry
• International Adoption (Resource Guide)
• Questions to ask an international adoption agency

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Please leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Support the Show.

Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building