If you’re in divorce recovery and keep reaching for food, screens, or emotional numbness, it’s easy to assume the problem is discipline.

It’s not.

In today’s episode, we talk about what’s actually running underneath those patterns: everyday dissociation — the high-functioning, easy-to-miss kind that hides inside coping, productivity, and “getting through the day.” Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship; it changes how present you are able to stay with your own life.

This matters because dissociation doesn’t feel dramatic...it feels normal. And when it’s running, healing stays intellectual instead of embodied. You can understand your patterns, do the work, and still feel stuck because the part of you that needs to feel and integrate isn’t fully online.

We unpack how dissociation shows up as overeating, doom scrolling, brain fog, emotional flatness, and burnout — and why learning to spot what happens before those behaviors is often the difference between staying in cycles and actually moving forward.

We also share practical ways to recognize dissociation in real time, plus listener Small Wins, Big Shifts that show what changes when you stop managing your healing and start experiencing it.

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If you’ve been holding yourself together because it feels like the only way to stay functional, this guided reset is for you.

Divorce anxiety and overwhelm don’t come from weakness or lack of coping skills....they come from carrying too much responsibility for too long (often without enough support).

This Thursday, Premium Healing Tool offers a gentle, body-based reset designed to help you release internal pressure without forcing calm, bypassing fear, or risking emotional collapse.

You won’t be asked to relax.
You won’t be asked to stop worrying.
And nothing needs to be “fixed.”

Instead, you’ll be guided through a slow, contained experience that helps your body learn something new:
What it feels like to let go a little without falling apart.

In this episode, you’ll be supported to:

• Stay with anxiety without fighting it or trying to push it away
• Work with overwhelm in a paced, grounded way that respects your nervous system
• Use a simple butterfly tap to reduce bracing and internal tension
• Explore—without pressure—what your system believes would happen if you stopped holding everything together
• Experience relief while staying intact, present, and in control of your own pace

This is not about calming down or making anxiety disappear.
It’s about helping your body recognize that you are SAFE TO HEAL.

Even a few minutes of this kind of contact can soften the grip of overwhelm and change how much your system believes it has to carry.

You can return to this reset anytime anxiety spikes, responsibility feels heavy, or rest feels unsafe.

Nothing needs to resolve.
Nothing needs to be perfect.
Staying with yourself is the work.

We’re with you.

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Hypervigilance doesn’t come from wanting control.
It comes from realizing—often too early—that no one else was going to handle it.

After divorce, many women find themselves overanalyzing everything: conversations, tone shifts, finances, social dynamics, parenting decisions, other people’s moods. Not because they’re anxious by nature—but because their bodies learned that vigilance was the price of stability.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we name the real cost of being the only adult in the room.

You’ll hear why:

• Hypervigilance is a role your body took on when things became unstable
• Overanalyzing doesn’t calm anxiety—it quietly feeds it until it erupts later
• Control is often a substitute for safety, not a sign of strength
• Letting go isn’t about trust-falling into uncertainty—it requires somewhere safe to land
• Exhaustion, resentment, and panic are downstream effects of never being able to stand down

We also talk honestly about why healing can’t happen in isolation—and why many women have to outgrow environments, relationships, and identities that once felt necessary but now feel depleting.

To close the episode, we share Small Wins, Big Shifts—real listener moments where control loosened just enough for relief, clarity, and trust to return. Not because everything worked out—but because they stopped carrying it alone.

If you’ve been living in constant readiness…and rest feels unavailable…if your mind never fully turns off…

This episode will help you understand why—and what it actually takes to change it.

If you’re craving a room where you don’t have to explain yourself, you’re invited to join Cocoon, our free community on the Heartbeat app. The link is in the show notes.

You don’t need more control.
You need support.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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If someone has ever told you to calm down after divorce—and it made everything inside you feel louder, sharper, or more volatile—you’re not broken.

You’re responding to a loss of connection.

In this Thursday Panel Rant, Dawn and the crew get cheeky, honest, and deeply real about why “calm down” is one of the fastest ways to shut a woman down—and why it so often backfires in relationships after divorce.

This episode explores:

• Why being told to calm down often feels like being told your feelings are inconvenient
• How emotional suppression turns into explosive anger later
• The link between anxiety, anger, and broken trust after divorce
• How gaslighting and dismissal train women to doubt their own reality
• The difference between nervous system discomfort from growth vs. true emotional unsafety
• Why anger isn’t the problem—it’s information

The panel also weaves in the concept of Martin Buber’s I–Thou relationship dynamic—reminding us that real connection requires honoring both people’s lived experience, not just managing the loudest discomfort in the room.

Because here’s the truth:
Women don’t need to calm down.
They need to feel seen, understood, and safe enough to tell the truth.

Instead of asking yourself to be quieter, smaller, or easier to handle, this episode invites a different question:

What feels unsafe right now—for me, or for them?

That question—asked with honesty instead of judgment—is often where regulation actually begins.

This is not a polished episode.
It’s a lived one.
A little ranty.
A little funny.
And deeply validating for any woman who was taught to silence herself to survive.

Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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What if this life after divorce never gets better?
What if this is just how it is now?
What he ruined everything? What if I can't be healed?

If those thoughts have been looping in your mind after divorce, this episode is for you.

In the Season 5 premiere of Dear Divorce Diary, we’re opening a powerful six-week series devoted to naming the thing under the thing—the deeper, often invisible forces that keep women stuck in anxiety, overthinking, and emotional exhaustion after divorce.

And today, we begin with one of the scariest experiences of all:
the fear that the way you feel right now is permanent.

Here’s what most of us have never realized:
Those thoughts aren’t coming from weakness or fear.
They’re coming from a nervous system trying its best to keep you afloat while you're completely collapsed.

In this episode, we’re not fixing anxiety—we’re explaining it.
Because understanding what your body is doing is often the first moment it finally exhales.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why divorce anxiety often intensifies after the divorce is final
• The difference between panic… and the deeper fear of permanence
• How anxiety gets mistaken for identity—and why that matters
• What happens when trust has been wounded by loss, betrayal, or overwhelm
• Why solutions often arrive from places you never could have predicted
• How protective, pessimistic parts can reject help—and how to soften that pattern

You’ll also hear personal stories from Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini about moments when they couldn’t see a way forward—until something unexpected showed up and changed everything.

And at the end of the episode, we debut a new community segment:
✨ Small Wins, Big Shifts ✨
where we share listener-submitted moments that prove healing after divorce doesn’t have to be dramatic to be real.

If you’ve been afraid that this feeling will never end…
If you’ve wondered whether you’ll ever trust yourself—or life—again…
Let this episode remind you:

Nothing you’re feeling means you’re broken.
It means your system learned how to survive.

And survival is not the end of the story.

🎧 Stay tuned for Thursday’s companion episode, where we guide you through a nervous-system practice to help your body feel safe again—no fixing, no forcing, just settling.

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This is not a lesson about divorce healing.
It’s not advice.
It’s a pause.

Day 12 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is simply a blessing—offered to you exactly as you are.

If these last 12 days stirred grief, relief, exhaustion, hope, or something you can’t quite name, this episode is here to hold that with you.

No fixing.
No reframing.
No pushing forward.

Just a few quiet moments of being witnessed.

You’ve been strong longer than you should have had to be.
You’ve carried more than most people ever saw.
And nothing about what you needed was wrong.

As we step into a new year, this is our prayer for you:

That you feel chosen.
That you feel wanted.
That your nervous system learns what safety feels like again.
And that you remember—you were never meant to do this alone.

Let yourself rest here. Sending all our love,

Dawn, Joy & Tiffini

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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If New Year’s resolutions have never worked for you...especially after divorce, it’s not because you lack discipline, motivation, or follow-through.

It’s because the version of you who survived divorce is not wired to safely become the woman you’re trying to create.

After divorce, most women try to change their lives by changing their behavior.

But behavior never sticks when the nervous system doesn’t feel safe expanding.

In this New Year’s Day episode, we break down why resolutions fail specifically after divorce—and what actually creates change instead.

We talk about:

• Why “New Year, New You” language backfires on a nervous system shaped by loss
• How inherited roles, survival strategies, and emotional suppression block capacity
• The real reason desire alone isn’t enough to create change
• Why your brain will offer a thousand excuses—and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing
• What permission has to do with confidence, worthiness, and follow-through

You’ll be guided through a powerful journaling exercise we call the New Year Permission Slip—not focused on what you want, but on who you’re willing to become to receive it.

Because the woman who calls in a fuller life after divorce:

• has more capacity
• feels safer being seen
• trusts herself more deeply
• and no longer abandons herself to stay comfortable

And she doesn’t arrive by accident.

🎯 Your Invitation

Ask yourself:

• What am I calling in this year?
• And what am I willing to put on the line to become the woman who can hold it?

We believe in you.

The real question is—will you give yourself permission to believe in you too?

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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New Year’s Eve has a way of turning self-criticism up to full volume after divorce.

The comparisons.
The sense that you should be further along.
The quiet question of what’s wrong with me that this still hurts?

If you find yourself being unusually hard on yourself today, this episode isn’t here to tell you to “think positive” or try harder.

It’s here to explain why this happens—and what your nervous system is actually doing when self-doubt takes over.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why divorce retrains your nervous system to scan for failure instead of progress
• Why pride and self-validation feel uncomfortable or even unsafe for so many women
• How New Year’s Eve amplifies comparison, loneliness, and internal pressure
• A simple practice to help your system start noticing what is working

This is not about forcing confidence or pretending you’re okay.

It’s about understanding why self-criticism shows up when safety feels fragile—and how to interrupt the spiral without shaming yourself for being in it.

🎄 This is Day 10 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas—short, steady episodes designed to support your nervous system during one of the hardest weeks of the year.

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Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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