Welcome to Day 1 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 days of becoming her again.

If you’re listening today, there’s a good chance part of you feels like:
“I can’t do this.”
Not the holidays.
Not the decisions.
Not the weight of doing this alone.

This episode isn’t here to convince you otherwise.

It’s here to help you understand that when you feel like you can’t, it’s not weakness or victimhood — it’s a capacity issue, not a character flaw.

In today’s episode, we talk about:

• Why feeling like “I can’t do this” often means your system is depleted, not broken
• How divorce grief and the holidays quietly drain nervous system capacity
• Why being “too strong for too long” eventually leads to collapse
• What actually increases capacity (and what doesn’t)
• A short, gentle vagal breathing practice to help your body downshift in real time

This is not a big breakthrough episode.
It’s a grounding episode.

Water.
Food.
Breath.
Connection.

The basics that matter when everything feels like too much.

You don’t need to fix your life today.
You just need enough capacity to stay present.

And today, that’s enough.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series designed to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
The remaining days — and the full experience — live inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium for $5/mo, you’ll get:

• Access to all 12 days of the series
• Monthly premium workshops
• Deeper, steadier support when talk therapy alone isn’t enough

If this episode helped your body soften even a little, the rest of the series is there to continue that support — one regulated day at a time.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and come back tomorrow.

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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After divorce, many women aren’t just grieving...they’re carrying too much in their nervous system.

Too much responsibility.
Too much self-doubt.
Too much pressure to hold it together.

That load doesn’t live in your thoughts. It lives in your body.

In this episode, Dawn guides a somatic practice that blends EFT tapping with IFS-style parts work to help the nervous system release what it’s been holding. This is not about insight, fixing, or doing it right. It’s about staying in the body long enough for real relief to happen.

The focus is simple: meet the overwhelmed part with compassion, let go of what was never meant to be carried alone, and restore capacity one layer at a time.

If this created even a small shift, there are three ways to continue:

• Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz to understand how your system is organized after divorce and where it’s getting stuck.
• Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium for deeper nervous system support, guided practices, and behind-the-scenes conversations.
• Join the Cocoon Community for ongoing (free), structured support that integrates somatic work, regulation, and real-life healing.

This isn’t about becoming stronger.
It’s about carrying less.

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The holidays can make everything feel heavier — especially when you’re freshly divorced or still deep in the weeds of it all.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we talk about three hidden patterns that often stall divorce healing and leave women feeling unsafe, unmoored, and scattered, even when the marriage is over and you’re trying to move forward.

This conversation is a teaser for Season 5 - can you believe it?!- where we’ll spend six weeks breaking these patterns down and showing you how to work with your nervous system instead of fighting it. We talk about why anxiety can increase after divorce, why many women feel foggy or shut down, and why “just pushing through” rarely helps during already overwhelming seasons like Hanukkah and the lead-up to Christmas.

If you’re listening while navigating the holidays and wondering why things still feel so hard, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening.

And if this season already feels like too much, stay close. Our 12 Days of Divorce Christmas series starts next and is designed to support you through the moments that tend to hit the hardest.

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Today’s episode is personal, unpolished, and happening in real time.

This is the first in our new premium series, Behind the Mic—where we take you into the conversations that usually happen off-air. And this week, I’m sharing something I’m still moving through: a recent miscarriage.

Inside this conversation, we talk about how this loss collided with my lifelong pattern of staying in masculine energy—overfunctioning, overproducing, and avoiding vulnerability by handling everything myself. We explore why receiving support still feels harder than giving it, how early attachment trauma shaped that, and what happens to a woman’s nervous system and hormones when softness feels unsafe.

You’ll also hear a candid discussion between me, Joy, and Tiff about suppression, self-sacrifice, and the way so many high-achieving women are conditioned to stay “strong” at the expense of their own bodies.

This isn’t a polished teaching moment. It’s us, in the middle of it, naming patterns as they surface and practicing the very tools we teach—IFS, EMDR principles, nervous system awareness—to move through something raw and immediate.

If you’ve ever carried grief alone, struggled to step out of your masculine, or felt terrified to let yourself be supported, this conversation will land in a very specific place.

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If the holidays feel heavier this year—even the tiny decisions that shouldn’t take this much out of you—there’s a reason. After divorce, women carry an invisible load no one prepares us for. The planning, the negotiating, the managing, the remembering, the holding-it-all-together… it piles up until your body feels like it’s running on fumes.

And that overwhelm you keep blaming on weakness or poor coping?
It’s not that.
It’s decision fatigue—and the version divorced women face during the holidays is unlike anything you dealt with before.

In this episode, we break down the hidden loop that keeps you exhausted:
– why making every decision alone pushes your system into overdrive
– how living in “fix it / manage it / hold it all” mode disconnects you from ease
– the subtle ways grief shows up through your holiday choices
– and why this season feels so much harder than it looks from the outside

Most importantly, you’ll learn the first real step toward breaking that cycle—so you can stop white-knuckling your way through December and start making choices that are kind to your body, not destructive to it.

You’re not failing.
You’re not too emotional.
You’re not “bad at the holidays.”
You’re overwhelmed because you’ve been carrying more than anyone can see.

Come sit with us. Let’s walk you out of the spiral together.

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Letting go after divorce isn’t about willpower.
It’s about physiology.

Your body won’t release someone until it feels anchored somewhere safer than the place it’s been clinging.
And that’s why cord-cutting rituals, no-contact declarations, and “I’m done for real this time” moments almost never stick.

In this guided premium episode, we’re not letting go into emptiness...we’re letting go into self-belonging, the only place your nervous system actually trusts.

Inside this practice, you’ll experience:

• a guided drop-in to help your body feel held enough to release
• why your system keeps reaching for someone who once felt like safety
• the subtle shift that makes letting go feel possible, not terrifying
• a “My Body Said No” moment that clarifies what part of you is resisting
• one sentence to use when you feel the urge to reach back out

This is the deeper work:
not forcing yourself to let go...
but giving your nervous system a safer place to land.

Press play when you're ready to feel a real shift, not just think about one.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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If you’ve ever felt that tug toward your ex...not the man, but the idea of him...we've got you. That pull is your nervous system trying to finish a story it never got closure on. And after divorce, that pull gets loud.

In this episode, we break down why trauma bonds feel like soul ties and why your body keeps reaching for someone who couldn’t give you safety. You’ll learn what’s actually happening in your brain, why familiar pain feels magnetic, and how to interrupt the urge to text him back.

We also give you a simple sentence you can use the second your spiral starts, and we help you begin separating trauma from truth—because those two feel identical when you’re hurting.

And inside Cocoon this week, we’re celebrating wins, joy, and nervous-system rehab with this month’s Magic Drop giveaway. (If you’re not in the community yet… get in there.)

If peace feels unfamiliar, if chaos feels like home, if your body keeps wanting what your mind already left—this one’s for you.

Don’t miss Thursday’s premium episode. Dawn is guiding you through a nervous-system visualization designed to soften the cord where it actually lives—in your body. It’s how you break the loop for real.

The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships Paperback
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Sometimes panic doesn’t wait for privacy.
It hits in the grocery store aisle, the Target parking lot, or right between the pasta sauce and the paper towels — the places where your body finally says, “No. I can’t hold this alone anymore.”

This premium episode is your real-time grounding track for those moments.
A full nervous-system reset you can use while you’re actively panicking — not later, not in hindsight, but right there, in public, while your heart is racing and your manager parts are trying to keep it all together.

Inside, Dawn guides you through:

• A My Body Said No moment — how to recognize it and respond without shame
• A sensory grounding ritual you can use anywhere (yes, even aisle 7)
• Gentle IFS language for your Manager, Firefighter, and Exile parts
• A somatic breath pattern (“baking bread + blowing on soup”) that brings your body back online
• A quiet reconnection to the truth: you belong to yourself, even while you’re not okay

This is your pocket guide for public panic — steadying, human, and deeply regulating.
Come back to it anytime your nervous system needs someone to sit with you and help you breathe again.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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