• 271: The Importance of Play w/ Boontarika Sripom
    Apr 29 2024

    Join us in a profound exploration of fun, creativity, and self-care in our latest Embracing Intensity Podcast episode with special guest Boontarika Sripom. Dive deep into the significance of play in nurturing personal growth and bringing joy into our lives, especially for the intensely creative and gifted. Boontarika, a life coach with a passion for play and a background in clinical psychology and human development, shares her insights on how engaging in playful activities can foster innovation, relieve stress, and support our overall well-being. Discover the psychological foundations of play, its role in human development, and how to incorporate more playful moments into your daily routine. Whether you're seeking ways to rejuvenate your creative spirit or find balance in your intense life, this conversation is a reminder of play's transformative power.

    For the creative, differently wired, and divergent thinker, play can be as natural as breathing. For some of us, there are layers of shame or uncertainty that inhibit playing across the lifespan. We may be separated from an essential part of maintaining authenticity. This conversation will explore the power of play, sprinkle archetypal journeys within play and fandoms, and encourage listeners to honor their inner children by playing. To those who continue playing: My inner child honors yours. I just waved at you across the playground. :)

    About Boontarika:

    Boontarika Sripom, MA is a therapy-informed life coach. Her work focuses on coaching using archetypes and understanding the cognition of the differently wired, specifically highly sensitive, creative, and gamer folks. She believes knowledge, guidance, and compassion leads to insights, individual acceptance, and empowerment to change. Boonie is a former preschool teacher, paraprofessional in special education, Outreach Counselor Intern, and College Counselor for creative students. She earned her Master’s in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Her favorite games are Age of Empires, World of Warcraft, and Minecraft. She is currently playing Fortnite, Roblox, and The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild.

    In this episode:

    • Rejuvenating rest and exploring creativity as self-care with Sharon Burton's upcoming book release.

    • The significance of play, especially for intense, gifted, creative individuals.

    • Boontarika introduces her talk on play's importance, touching on her background in clinical psychology and love for video games.

    • Discussion on the psychological aspects of play, highlighting its components like being purposeless, voluntary, and having inherent attraction.

    • Mentions of Stuart Brown and the National Institute of Play, and their work on defining the components of play.

    • Boontarika shares personal anecdotes and illustrations to explain concepts of play.

    • Exploration of play's therapeutic and developmental benefits, including combating depression and fostering a sense of community.

    • Reference to Jane McGonigal's works on how games can improve our lives and the role of gamification.

    • Emphasis on the therapeutic aspects for neurodivergent individuals and how play serves as a safe space.

    • Reflection on societal pressures, adulthood's responsibilities, and the overall decline in play.

    • Discussion turns to practical ways to reintegrate play into life and its broader benefits.

    • Concluding thoughts on the cultural and personal importance of play, inviting the audience to explore their own playful nature.

    • Integrating play into educational settings and acknowledging the varying definitions of play.

    Resources:

    Boontarika's Website

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    48 mins
  • 270: Intensity & Harmony w/ Princess Fortier
    Apr 8 2024

    In this engaging conversation, Aurora sits down with the multi-talented Princess Fortier, a beacon of inspiration in the journey of embracing one’s intensity. Princess shares her remarkable story, from neuroscientist to singer and model, highlighting how music became her tool for healing and transforming her life. Together, they delve into the themes of harnessing personal intensity, pursuing passions beyond conventional boundaries, and the power of gratitude journaling. Princess's insight provides a riveting exploration of living life unbounded and the beauty of connecting deeply with one's passions. Join us as we uncover the synergy between harmony and intensity, and discover how embracing your full self can lead to a fulfilling and impactful life.

    Discover how Princess overcame intense migraines through her passion for singing, marking a pivotal shift in her life that not only cured her physically but also steered her towards a fulfilling career in music. Throughout the episode, Princess shares her multifaceted experiences, from her challenges with perfectionism and navigating cultural expressions to engaging deeply with neurodiversity and entrepreneurship. Aurora and Princess delve into the significance of embracing one's intensity, using personal fire for positive impact, and the liberation found in gratitude and self-expression. This episode is a testament to the strength found in vulnerability, the beauty of pursuing one's passions, and the value of community support. Tune in to be inspired, find connection, and discover how to channel your own intensity into a force for good.

    This episode not only celebrates Princess's remarkable contributions to the field of music and arts but also sheds light on how embracing one's intensity can lead to groundbreaking discoveries and personal healing. Listen in as Princess shares her thoughts on perseverance, the significance of music in her life, her battle against perfectionism, and her spirited advocacy for journaling and gratitude as tools for navigating life's challenges.

    In this episode
    • Princess is an inspiring figure who transitioned from a neuroscientist to a singer/model and has been featured in shows like Abbott Elementary and All American.

    • Princess shares her unique story of how singing cured her chronic migraines, leading her to pursue a full-time music career.

    • The power of journaling, especially gratitude journaling, as a tool for self-reflection and goal setting.

    • Princess discusses the challenges and benefits of embracing one's intensity, including her resistance to being limited by societal expectations and finding freedom in diversity.

    • The dialogue touches on topics like neurodivergence, perfectionism, the importance of setting boundaries, and the impact of cultural and familial pressures.

    • Aurora and Princess share experiences of dealing with rejection sensitivity and the internal struggle of wanting to be liked and approved.

    • They explore the concept of using one's 'fire' for good, including sharing knowledge, setting examples for others, and creating transformative art.

    • Princess discusses how engaging in multiple passions, such as music and entrepreneurship, has allowed her to express her intensity in various domains.

    • Aurora emphasizes the importance of self-care and taking breaks to prevent burnout, acknowledging her own past of working on urgency.

    • The conversation also covers strategies for harnessing one's intensity and sensitivity, with Princess highlighting the power of gratitude practices.

    • Princess encourages the audience to let go of perfectionism and embrace their passions.

    • Both speakers reflect on personal growth, the importance of authentic self-expression, and supporting others in their journey to embrace their intensity.

    • Princess shares ways to connect with her and learn more about her journey and work, including her website and upcoming appearances.

    Resources:

    Princess on Instagram

    Princess' Website

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    46 mins
  • 269: Dismantling Patriarchy Through Play w/ Jeff Harry
    Mar 18 2024

    In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Jeff and Aurora delve deep into the topic of dismantling patriarchy through play. They explore the impact of societal norms on individuals, the role of neurodivergence in challenging the status quo, and the importance of celebrating uniqueness. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they highlight the power of embracing one's intensity and fostering connections through play. Stay tuned to gain valuable insights on creating a more inclusive and empathetic world through intentional actions and meaningful engagement.

    The podcast discussion delves into the intersection of play, patriarchy, neurodiversity, and societal norms. Jeff and Aurora explore the impact of patriarchy on both men and women, emphasizing the importance of men becoming allies to women and the need to challenge traditional gender roles. They highlight the power of play in fostering connection, breaking free from societal expectations, and celebrating neurodiversity. The conversation encourages embracing uniqueness, challenging the status quo, and fostering a sense of community and connection through play.

    About Jeff

    Jeff Harry, the founder of Rediscover Your Play, runs an organization dedicated to making work more enjoyable through play and positive psychology. With a strong belief that play can heal workplaces and communities, Jeff emphasizes the importance of embracing intensity and connecting with others authentically. He advocates for celebrating neurodivergence and challenging societal norms to create a more inclusive and empathetic world. Jeff's work focuses on dismantling patriarchy by encouraging allies to women and fostering deeper connections through play.

    In this episode:

    • Jeff emphasizes the importance of play in healing workplaces and communities.

    • Play is discussed as a tool for challenging the status quo and encouraging connection.

    • Aurora and Jeff share stories about the power of play to bring people together.

    • Celebrating neurodivergency and uniqueness is highlighted as a way to dismantle patriarchy.

    • Remote companionship is discussed as both beneficial and limited in replacing in-person connections.

    • The impact of societal norms on neurodivergent individuals and the need for acceptance and celebration.

    • Historical examples like the 54th during the Civil War are used to showcase the ripple effects of small actions.

    • The concept of the "cathedral effect" is introduced, encouraging individuals to make a difference even if they may not see the immediate results.

    • The Embracing Intensity community is promoted as a supportive space for intense and gifted individuals to connect and grow.

    Resources:

    Rediscover Your Play

    Embracing Intensity Community

    Embracing Intensity Memberships

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    34 mins
  • 268: Embracing the Power of Emotional Intensity with Christine Fonseca
    Mar 4 2024

    This week on Embracing Intensity, we share an enlightening conversation with award-winning author and licensed educational psychologist, Christine Fonseca. In this episode of our podcast, our host, Aurora, delves into an enriching conversation with Fonseca, exploring her insights on emotional intensity, mental health, giftedness, and our inherent human complexities.

    Fonseca, a gifted adult herself, opens up about her experiences, passions, and various interests that set her apart. The discussion probes the depths of dealing with intense emotions, overcoming personal challenges, and handling burnout. The highlight of the conversation is Fonseca's perspective on the full spectrum of human emotions and the importance of dissecting, understanding, and accepting them as part of our unique individual journeys. She also talks about the necessity of open cross-disciplinary communication within the fields of mental health and related sciences to facilitate a more comprehensive understanding of the human condition.

    Join us for these compelling insights and much more in our podcast of a treasured conversation with Christine Fonseca!

    In this Episode:

    • Unpacking Christine Fonseca's journey from being an educational psychologist to an international speaker, author, and gifted adult
    • Discussion on the influence and inspiration behind the podcast
    • Unveiling Christine's multi-faceted interests including owning a lifestyle shop and being a fiber artist
    • Emphasizing the importance of not fitting in a box and cherishing one's unique identity
    • Navigating the nuances of social interactions and their impact on mental health
    • Exploring the connection between emotional intensity and the nervous system dysregulation
    • Introduction to the ROAR protocol, a technique to understand and mitigate anxiety
    • Christine's personal journey through overcoming burnout and the strategies she employed
    • Deep dive into the conversation of societal pressures, the pursuit of constant happiness and its paradoxical impact on mental health
    • The untapped power of holistic communication across different disciplinary silos in the healthcare and mental health sector
    • Embracing the beauty and complexity of being intensely human and the power of acceptance.

    Resources:

    Embracing Intensity Community

    Embracing Intensity Memberships

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    48 mins
  • 267: Building Confidence & Resilience w/ CoCo Leary
    Feb 19 2024

    In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, we bring you an inspiring conversation with Cosette "Coco" Leary. Coco’s gripping story takes us on a journey from her days as a welfare recipient to eventually becoming a celebrated motivational speaker and entrepreneur. Her story is laced with determination, resilience, and overcoming adversity to redefine herself on her own terms. Join us as we delve into Coco's remarkable life journey.

    Coco candidly shares her life from being a welfare recipient to ascending to the realms of high-profile activism and motivational speaking. We learn about her early struggles with poverty, systemic barriers, and personal hurdles that conditioned her resilience and determination to achieve her dreams. Coco speaks passionately about her staunch belief in the power of perseverance, community, education, and self-belief. She beautifully illustrates how she transformed a life limited by societal expectations into a path teeming with promise and endless potential.

    Coco’s inspiring story delivers a powerful message about fighting for one’s dreams despite being in the face of adversity. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience, the quest for education, and the determination to change the narrative regardless of one's background. Tune in for a dose of intense inspiration!

    In this episode:

    • Coco shares the pivotal role desperation played in building her resilience.

    • Her brave initiative to pen a letter to a CEO that opened new avenues in her life.

    • The importance of having a support system and the role sisterhood played in Coco's life.

    • How her children’s unmet needs in public schools led her to homeschooling, and the benefits thereof.

    • The impactful experience of her stint in Capitol Hill in D.C which led her to establish her empire.

    • Coco’s vision for transforming societal norms through increased social connection and community support.

    Resources:

    CoCo's Website

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    56 mins
  • 266: Navigating Intensity Through a Cultural Lens w/ Kaitlin Smith
    Feb 6 2024

    In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora interviews Kaitlin Smith, a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds. Kaitlin shares her journey as a gifted BIPOC individual, her work in supporting gifted adults, and her research on the history of mind sciences. Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they explore the intersections between intensity, cultural dynamics, and personal growth.

    In this interview, Aurora and Kaitlin delve into Kaitlin's experiences as a gifted BIPOC individual, the challenges she faced growing up, and the cultural factors that affected her self-expression. They discuss how Kaitlin uses her intensity to make a positive impact and navigate the complex dynamics of the workplace. Kaitlin also shares her insights on harnessing the power of intensity and helping others do the same through her community platform, Our Wild Minds.

    Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they delve into the complexities of intensity and its transformative potential in this thought-provoking episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast.

    In This Episode:
    • Kaitlin's journey as a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds.

    • The intersections between the history of mind sciences and African American studies in Kaitlin's research.

    • The challenges Kaitlin faced growing up in a predominantly white suburb and the conflicting expectations placed upon her as a gifted Black individual.

    • The impact of cultural dynamics on expression and the pressure to conform to societal expectations.

    • How Kaitlin uses her fire for good through various roles, including her work as a PhD student, teaching fellow, and community builder.

    • The importance of clarity, deprogramming, and prioritizing values in harnessing the power of intensity.

    • Kaitlin's insights on creating space for connection, introspection, learning, manifestation, and giving back through Our Wild Minds.

    • The empowering message that it's never too late to embrace authenticity and live a life aligned with your true self.

    Resources:

    Kaitlin's Website

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    42 mins
  • 265: Play as a Tool for Decolonizing Neurodivergence w/ Dr. Kimberly Douglass
    Jan 22 2024

    In this age of rapid and overwhelming information, how does one choose what is important to learn? Opportunities to play are opportunities to learn. Play allows us to imagine ourselves in different realities, in different worlds where the rules are different, where we can be different. In these alternate worlds, we can demand more for ourselves. In these worlds, we can identify our needs and build rules and systems to meet our deepest needs. Just as someone imagined the world you see around you right now; the one in which neurodivergent needs go largely unmet - through play, we can imagine a world in which neurodivergent needs are met.

    In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora and Dr. Kimberly Douglas discuss the power of play in decolonizing neurodivergence. Dr. Douglas shares her insights on the relationship between play, imagination, and decolonization, and how they intersect in the context of gaming and world building.

    They discuss the power of immersion, imagination, and safety in fostering a state of play, and how play can be a catalyst for expanding thinking and problem-solving. They explore the connection between play and power dynamics in society, particularly within the context of colonization. Dr. Douglas also shares her perspective on the need to decolonize neurodivergence and challenge oppressive systems that limit the expression of neurodivergent identities. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation.

    Stay tuned for this insightful conversation on play, decolonization, and embracing neurodivergent identities. Make sure to check out Dr. Kimberly Douglas' work and follow her on social media for more valuable insights.

    About Kimberly:

    Dr Kimberly Douglass is coach/consultant to Neurodivergent Adults.

    Dr Douglass is currently constructing the first design studio of its kind, run by AuDHDers, for AuDHDers.

    Dr Douglass became a full-time coach after working as staff, peer-reviewed researcher, faculty and administrator in higher education for over 17 years. She began the neurodivergence advocacy work over 13 years ago when she became the chief advocate for her Son who is neurodivergent. She has since gotten more in touch with her own neurodivergence. Dr Douglass is married to Dean Tate and lives in Tennessee.

    In this episode:

    • Dr. Douglas shares her background and expertise in working with neurodivergent individuals.

    • The importance of safety and immersion in fostering a state of play.

    • Play encourages imagination, ideation, and thinking outside the box

    • The relationship between play and imagination, and the role of play in expanding thinking and problem-solving.

    • How neurodivergence challenges societal expectations and the worker role

    • The connection between play and power dynamics in society, and the need to decolonize neurodivergence.

    • Why decolonizing neurodivergence requires understanding larger systems of oppression

    • The possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation.

    • Permission to play and decolonize can bring up grief but also opens up possibilities

    Resources:

    Dr. Kimberly Douglass on TikTok

    Learn more about Dr. Kimberly Douglass

    I Must be Bug'n Podcast w/ Sheldon Gay

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    36 mins
  • 264: Overcoming Perfectionism: Building Self-Compassion for Gifted and Neurodivergent Adults
    Jan 9 2024

    Are you a gifted or neurodivergent perfectionist struggling to overcome the damaging effects of perfectionism?

    In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman invites special guest Aileen Kelleher, a therapist and life coach, to delve into the topic of overcoming perfectionism. Together, they explore the intersection between perfectionism and giftedness and discuss the various ways in which perfectionism can impact our lives. From high expectations and low self-esteem to time limits and parental expectations, Aurora and Aileen shed light on the challenges faced by perfectionists and provide practical strategies for managing perfectionistic tendencies and fostering self-compassion.

    Join the Embracing Intensity community at embracingintensity.com to dive deeper into understanding and overcoming your own perfectionism. Gain access to courses, tools, and support from like-minded individuals who appreciate and celebrate the power of high personal standards. You can also, explore the free self-regulation workbook for gifted and neurodivergent adults, titled "Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity," which offers a practical guide for overcoming perfectionism and embracing your unique abilities. Visit the show notes or embracingintensity.com for more information and resources.

    In this episode:

    - The definition and negative impact of perfectionism, including its association with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
    - Overlaps between perfectionism and giftedness, such as high expectations, sensitivity, and self-criticism.
    - The unhealthy coping mechanisms often employed by perfectionists, such as procrastination and avoidance.
    - Strategies for managing perfectionism, including incremental steps, setting realistic goals, and practicing self-compassion.
    - The importance of recognizing and embracing the messy nature of overcoming perfectionism and learning new skills.
    - The role of self-compassion and cultivating present-moment awareness in overcoming perfectionism and achieving high performance.
    - The damaging effects of perfectionism on daily life, relationships, and emotional well-being.
    - Practical tips for parents and educators to support gifted children and help them navigate the pressures of perfectionism.
    - The unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in managing perfectionistic behaviors and finding balance in their lives.

    By addressing the problem of perfectionism and providing practical strategies for overcoming it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for high achievers, gifted individuals, and neurodivergent adults who struggle with the damaging effects of perfectionism in their own lives. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of perfectionism and learn how to cultivate self-compassion and embrace your unique abilities.

    Resources:

    Embracing Intensity Membership & Guest Call Library

    Embracing Intensity Community

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    32 mins