S2, Ep10 - Changing Your Internal Landscape

In this episode, Alyssa Decker interviews Dr. Marcia Martin from the Heart Healing Foundation about creating your internal landscape. They discuss how trauma and abuse are often connected, the impact of the pandemic on trauma, and the importance of healing and changing the internal narrative. Dr. Martin explains that the internal landscape is the most important real estate you will ever own and that it is constructed by you. She emphasizes the power of self-talk and replacing negative beliefs with positive ones. Dr. Martin also provides practical tips for changing the internal landscape and offers resources through the Heart Healing Foundation.

BIO

Dr. Marcia Martin, M Ed, Ph D – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual empowerment counselor, metaphysical minister, bestselling author, public speaker, and clairaudient angel communicator specializing in helping people heal their relationship with themselves. By healing the heart of all past pain and trauma you’ll be able to establish and maintain healthy relationships with yourself and all others so you can live a successful life.

Her unique, heart-centered, energetic, healing approach, the Angel Heart Healing Technique, enables you to build the perfect relationship with yourself and helps you answer the questions, “Who am I? Why am I here? and Where am I going?”

Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dreams as you heal your heart and transform your life.

website - www.thehearthealingfoundation.org

free gift - https://www.thehearthealingfoundation.org/11ways

S2, Ep9 - In this episode, Alyssa Decker interviews Gina Fox about trauma recovery and living a healthy life after trauma. Gina shares her personal experience as a childhood trauma survivor and how she helps her clients through her coaching practice. They discuss the four categories of childhood abuse (emotional, physical, verbal, and sexual) and the different healing modalities Gina uses in her practice, including mindset change, mindfulness exercises, somatic movements, relaxation techniques, and neuro art. They also explore the concept of the body-keeping score of trauma and the importance of feeling safe in one's body. The conversation highlights the process of identifying triggers and working through them to heal and make progress in recovery. In this conversation, Gina and Alyssa discuss the process of healing from trauma. They explore the challenges of breaking old patterns and behaviors that are designed to keep us safe but hinder our growth. They emphasize the importance of taking small steps and being kind to ourselves along the way. Gina shares her experience of working on identifying and addressing intergenerational trauma in her family. They also discuss various modalities for trauma healing, including trauma-informed movement and progressive muscle relaxation. Gina highlights the significance of mindfulness in the healing journey and introduces the concept of neuro art. They conclude by discussing the upcoming Rise Up From Trauma summit, which aims to provide resources and support for trauma survivors and their caregivers.

BIO

Gina is Certified as a Trauma-Informed Neuro Specialist. Which is a fancy way of saying, Gina loves working to create new neural pathways and neuroplasticity for clients.

The aftereffects Gina endured, disrupted her brain development and function. Because of this, she became fascinated with how trauma negatively impacts the brain. Learning the neuroscience and healing principles that were important to restore brain function and enhance development.

Gina is the founder of Transformative Healing where she helps clients understand how the aftereffects of a traumatic event/circumstance affect us psychologically and physiologically on the cellular level from a neuroscience lens. She helps clients by using a variety of modalities including; journaling, critical thinking, expressive art, third-person self-talk, somatics, and more.

She is the founder of We Are The Voice, an organization dedicated to the advocacy of childhood trauma survivors, and the author of In The Mind: Trauma to Transformation.

My website: transsformativeheal.com

Summit: Wearethevoice.org

S2, Ep8 - Vicki Goodman shares her inspiring perspective on grief and loss after the passing of her husband. She discusses the messages and insights she received from a higher power, which helped her move forward and find new passions in life. Vicki emphasizes the importance of not feeling guilty for moving on and embracing new experiences. She encourages individuals to balance engaging in enjoyable activities and allowing time for quiet reflection. Vicki also challenges the cultural expectation of grieving and offers tips for processing grief and finding joy in the next chapter of life.

Author Bio:

Vicki Paris Goodman is the author of To Sam, With Love: A Surviving Spouse’s Story of Inspired Grief. After the death in 2019 of her husband Sam, the love of her life, she was unexpectedly flooded with optimism and presented with a host of possibilities for an exciting and meaningful future. She received valuable insights from an outside source, enabling her to conceive a more realistic and uplifting understanding of death and loss. She knows these concepts will free others to face the passing of a loved one with a far more optimistic outlook.

Having lived most of her life in the Los Angeles area, Ms. Goodman now resides in Prescott, Arizona. She is a retired mechanical engineer. She sings and plays violin semi-professionally. She served a Long Beach (CA) area newspaper for over twenty years as a theater critic. She is currently writing her second book, Speed Bumps: And Other Impediments to Life in the Fast Lane, a slightly self-deprecating treatise on the trials of life, especially from the point of view of a type A personality.

For show notes:

Contact Vicki and read her blog at her author website: VickiParisGoodman.com

URL for discounted book purchase: InspiredGrief.com/book

URL for Vicki’s FREE belief-shifting 3-episode audio series: InspiredGrief.com

Social Media Links:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vickiparisgoodman

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samnvic28/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vicki-paris-goodman-1021a6270/

S2, Ep7 - In this conversation, Alyssa Decker interviews Megan Farison about her journey of healing and overcoming trauma. Megan shares her experience of discovering that her high school band director, with whom she had a secret relationship, was arrested for child sexual abuse and pornography. She discusses the challenges of coming to terms with the abuse, navigating the legal process, and dealing with the emotional aftermath. Megan emphasizes the importance of therapy, self-reflection, and the support of loved ones in the healing process. Megan Farison shares her journey of healing from trauma and addiction. She discusses the importance of facing past traumas and making changes in her life. Megan also opened up about her substance abuse issue with alcohol and the realization that she needed to seek sobriety. She emphasizes the connection between trauma bonds and addiction, highlighting the need for support and understanding. Megan talks about the process of seeking closure and creating her closure when it wasn't provided by her abuser. She shares the importance of gratitude and holding contradictory truths in healing and growth.

Bio

Megan is an educator, writer, memoir coach, and sexual assault victims advocate. She’s interviewed internationally renowned music educators, composers, and performers on her podcast Sing, Coach, Conduct, which has listenership in multiple countries. Recently, she served as Secretary of the Michigan chapter of the American Choral Directors Association and President of the Central Michigan University Choir Alumni Association. In 2021, Megan founded the Lux Women’s Choir in Mid-Michigan to create safe artistic spaces for women. In September, Megan will launch Give Her the Pen, a memoir coaching business that empowers women to share their stories, one page at a time. Megan’s debut memoir, Dissonance, will be released in paperback, ebook, and audiobook on November 25, 2024.

Links

Meganfarison.com

Linktr.ee/giveherthepen

S2, E6 - In this episode, Alyssa Decker and guest Chanel Ellie discuss relationship anxiety. They explore the origins of relationship anxiety, which often stems from childhood experiences and family dynamics. Chanel shares her personal journey of becoming a therapist and specializing in helping clients with relationship anxiety. They also discuss the impact of societal and cultural expectations on relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and finding a balance between meeting others' needs and taking care of oneself. In this conversation, Alyssa and Chenelle Ellie discuss the impact of father and mother relationships on women as adults. They explore the differences between the two relationships and how they shape our understanding of love and relationships. They also provide practical tips for healing and retraining ourselves, including identifying our needs, seeking support, and setting boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and self-discovery in navigating relationship anxiety.

Chenelle Ellie is a mental health therapist who currently serves the states of MD, VA, DC, and FL. She specializes in working with women who struggle with relationship anxiety and is also passionate about helping everyone get the most out of therapy sessions. Chenelle also co-hosts a podcast called Reality Check Therapy Hour where she discusses relationships in Reality TV from a therapeutic lens with her cohost Maggie who is also a therapist. If you are someone who struggles with a difficult relationship with your mom, Chenelle facilitates Mother Hunger Groups where she supports adult daughters to learn to set boundaries and create a plan on how to move forward with your relationship with your mother. Whether you are looking to facilitate a conversation to aid in understanding each other or gain the courage to walk away from the toxic relationship, Chenelle will help you navigate your personal journey.

Website: www.selfcared4.com

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reality-check-therapy-hour/id1753319098

Reality Check Therapy Hour Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realitychecktherapyhour/

Chenelle's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chenelleisselfcared4/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cheerstorealitytears

S2, Ep5 - Markella Kaplani, a clinical and counseling psychologist, discusses the transitions and challenges that come with parenthood. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and normalizing the changes that occur during this stage of life. Markella explains that parenthood is a profound transformation that affects various aspects of a person's identity, relationships, and emotions. She highlights the need for self-compassion and self-connection, as well as compassion and understanding within the couple's relationship. Markella also addresses the common feeling of being a 'bad mom' and encourages individuals to reparent themselves and challenge their inner critic.

Connect with Markella:

Markella Kaplani has dedicated her career to assisting adults, parents, and children to navigate their mental health challenges.

She holds a Master’s degree in Clinical & Counseling Psychology and has over 15 years of experience in both psychotherapeutic and educational settings.

In working with such a range of people, she’s had the opportunity to develop a comprehensive understanding of the diverse systems that constitute the human experience. As such, she possesses a holistic point of view, understanding the intricacies of interpersonal relationships and their pivotal role in mental health.

After becoming a mom herself, Markella shifted her focus to mothers and couples, recognizing the challenges that parenthood presents, ironically paired with the inordinate lack of assistance provided by our institutions and systems.

Markella is passionate about elevating and empowering parents to reconnect with themselves, their partners, their children, and their dreams. She stands with compassion beside them and offers a path toward a new normal that contains even more love, even more growth, and even more connection.

You can find Markella on

> Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markella.kaplani

> her website: https://www.markellakaplani.com

> The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast: https://www.markellakaplani.com/podcast

(Find it on Apple, Spotify, and all your favorite podcast players!)

And here is the resource Markella shared with us:

A FREE mini-course that serves as a great introduction to matrescence - the metamorphosis from woman to mother - and all how we develop. Learn how you can make all the changes you feel turn from uncomfortable to a SUPEROWER!

https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries

S3, Ep4 - Risa Ganel, a couples therapist, joins host Alyssa Decker to discuss artificial intimacy and healthy connections in relationships. They explore the definition of intimacy as the intersection of truth and love, and the importance of maintaining individuality while staying connected. They highlight the need for healthy conflict and repair in relationships, emphasizing that conflict is necessary for deep intimacy. They also discuss the difference between artificial intimacy, which involves surface-level apologies and distractions, and true intimacy, which involves addressing conflicts and understanding each other's perspectives. The process of repair is described as a one-way conversation where one person's hurt is addressed, followed by giving space and time before addressing the other person's hurt. In this conversation, Alyssa and Risa Ganel discuss the importance of trust and healthy communication in relationships. They emphasize the need for couples to address concerns and hurts, rather than avoiding them. They also highlight the significance of creating a safe space for uncomfortable conversations and the importance of trust in bringing up issues later. Risa provides practical steps for moving towards healthy intimacy, including learning to pause before reacting, choosing healthier actions, and creating opportunities to be heard. They also discuss the feedback wheel method for having productive conversations and the shift from 'I' thinking to 'we' thinking in relationships.

About Risa:

Risa Ganel is a licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Relational Life Therapist and Trainer for the Relational Life Institute. In practice for over 30 years, she facilitates relationship growth through 2 Day Couples Intensives, Relationship Bootcamps, weekly Couples Therapy, and public speaking engagements.

Her gifts blend wisdom with quiet strength and relationship science with empathic connection. She is skilled at being kind and fierce in the same breath, helping clients connect to the truth, transform conflict into connection, and establish the intimate relationships they long for.

Take the Quiz:

https://togethercouplescounseling.com/quiz/

Connect with Risa:

www.togethercouplescounseling.com

https://www.instagram.com/together_couples_counseling/

S2, Ep3 - In this episode, Alyssa Decker interviews David Richardson from David K Richardson Coaching. They discuss moving from childhood trauma to learning how to trust yourself again. David shares his personal journey of leaving a corporate banking job to become a teacher and later starting his own school. He also talks about his health breakdown and how mindfulness and meditation transformed his life. The key theme of the conversation is the importance of trusting your intuition and reconnecting with your inner self. In this conversation, David K Richards and Alyssa discuss the importance of taking responsibility for one's life and not falling into a victim mindset. They explore the concept of inner child healing and the need to soothe and connect with one's inner child on a daily basis. They also emphasize the power of emotional intelligence and the importance of feeling and acknowledging one's emotions. The conversation highlights the journey of healing and personal growth, and the rewards that come from facing and overcoming challenges.

Bio

David Richards is an executive turned mindfulness teacher and coach, who guides people back to their own truth. He uses his deep and extensive expertise as a teacher to guide people to trust their intuitive guidance and take back their sovereignty. David is a learning visionary and has worked as a public school teacher, principal, and education executive. He is the Founder & CEO of Growth Public Schools and Pathfinder, which helps others open micro-schools across the world. David has committed his life to helping people of all ages trust their intuitive warrior within. He holds a BA from UC Berkeley and an MA from Stanford University. David lives in Sacramento, CA with his wife and 2 kids.

Social links:

https://www.instagram.com/davidk.richards/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-k-richards-a1b43753/

Websites:

https://www.davidkrichards.com/

https://pathfinder-ed.com/

Free offer on my website:

https://www.davidkrichards.com/eguide