How Are You Really, Mum?

By: Shaun Tucker
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  • In a world where balancing business success and parenting feels like a mission impossible, How Are You Really, Mum? is your go-to sanctuary. Hosted by Shaun Tucker, an expert in health and wellbeing, this podcast dives deep into the challenges and triumphs of mums in business. Expect candid interviews, heartwarming stories, practical advice, and a refreshing male perspective—all aimed at turning taboo topics into everyday conversations.
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Episodes
  • 13. Empowered Parenting: Trust, Values, and Letting Go with Ruqya Khan

    13. Empowered Parenting: Trust, Values, and Letting Go with Ruqya Khan
    Sep 8 2024
    In this episode, Ruqya Khan, a S.M.I.L.E Strategist and expert in coaching, shares powerful insights on creating a nurturing environment for children to thrive. Drawing from her personal experiences, Ruqya emphasizes the importance of being a safe space for children, fostering transparent communication, and understanding their perspectives. She believes that instead of rushing to "fix" every problem, parents should focus on listening, building trust, and nurturing core values through daily interactions. Shaun and Ruqya also dive into how parents can be more mindful of what they offer their children, not just in terms of food but also in media and overall consumption. They discuss the influence of parental behaviour, highlighting how children often mirror their parents' confidence and decision-making skills. Ruqya talks about practical strategies for enhancing awareness, including the power of silence, managing attention, clarifying intentions, letting go, and embracing possibilities. She underscores the significance of curiosity, self-trust, and releasing the need for perfectionism. The conversation encourages parents to be present, conscious, and confident in their roles.

    Key Topics Covered:
    • Safe Space and Transparent Conversations: How to create a nurturing environment that promotes open dialogue.
    • Mindfulness in Parenting: Why parents need to be aware of their own behaviours and their impact on their children.
    • Values and Upbringing: Nurturing values in children through a supportive environment, not through direct teaching.
    • Technology and Parenting: Avoid using digital tools as a quick fix for challenging situations; focus on real-life engagement.
    • Power of Silence and Attention: Tools like managing attention, identifying intentions, and letting go can boost parental awareness.
    • Letting Go of Perfectionism: The need to move beyond societal expectations and trust oneself in the parenting journey.
    Top Takeaways:
    1. Create a Safe Space: Encourage open and honest conversations with your children.
    2. Mindful Parenting: Be conscious of your own actions and the example you set for your kids.
    3. Nurture Through Example: Children learn best by observing and mimicking their parents' behaviours.
    4. Avoid Tech as a Bandaid: Use communication to address challenges rather than relying on technology.
    5. Cultivate Self-Trust: Let go of perfectionism and societal expectations; focus on presence and connection.
    Notable Quotes:
    • "The mum is the very first coach a child has."
    • "Children mirror the confidence and decision-making of their parents."
    • "It's like the bandaid over a bullet hole wound."
    Episode Chapters:
    • 00:00 - Introduction to Ruqya Khan
    • 02:01 - Ruqya's Experience as a Mother
    • 03:03 - The Role of a Mother as a Coach
    • 05:37 - Observation and Application in Parenting
    • 11:46 - The Influence of Parents on Children's Confidence
    • 19:26 - Nurturing Values in Upbringing
    • 30:09 - Tools for Increasing Awareness
    Join the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst

    Connect with Ruqya
    Website www.ruqyakhan.com
    LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/ruqya-khan/
    Instagram www.instagram.com/ruqyakhan_smilestrategist
    Facebook www.fb.com/RKwrites
    YouTube www.youtube.com/RuqyaKhan
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    51 mins
  • 12. Finding Balance as an Immigrant Mother and Professional with Tu Dinh

    12. Finding Balance as an Immigrant Mother and Professional with Tu Dinh
    Aug 31 2024
    In this episode, we sit down with Tu Dinh, a dedicated mother of two and an accomplished lending manager, to explore her remarkable journey of self-discovery and achieving balance between career and motherhood. As a young immigrant in Australia, Tu faced significant challenges, from struggling with communication barriers to finding her true passion in finance. Her story is one of resilience, growth, and learning to prioritize what truly matters.

    Episode Highlights:
    • Discovering Passion and Purpose: As a young immigrant, Tu initially struggled to find her direction. After discovering her passion for finance, she focused intently on her career as a lending manager. It took time for her to realize the importance of balancing work with spending quality time with her children.
    • Challenges and Joys of Motherhood: Tu shares her personal experiences with the complexities of motherhood, including an initial lack of connection with her daughter and the emotional journey of becoming a supportive and nurturing parent.
    • Navigating Pregnancy Loss and Grief: Tu opens up about the emotional toll of experiencing a devastating miscarriage and the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and seek support.
    • Premature Birth and Bonding: Tu discusses the intense journey of her son Jaden’s premature birth and how this challenging experience forged a profound bond between them. She emphasizes the critical role of being fully present and prioritizing children, even when it requires career sacrifices
    Key Takeaways:
      • Finding direction and purpose as a young immigrant can be challenging, but discovering your passion is key to personal fulfillment.
      • Balancing career and motherhood is a journey that requires time, effort, and the ability to prioritize spending quality time with children.
      • Forming a connection with your child may not always come naturally—patience and presence are crucial.
      • Miscarriages are emotionally challenging, and grieving is essential to the healing process.
      • Parents should create moments of joy and shared experiences with their children, making fun and presence a priority.
    Key Sound Bites:
    • "I struggled with communication and finding my passion."
    • "I didn't have that exhilarating feeling of love bursting out."
    • "Being a supportive and nurturing parent involves listening, understanding, and being present."
    Chapters:
    • 00:00: Introduction and Background
    • 03:00: Finding Direction and Purpose
    • 08:14: The Journey of Bonding with a Child
    • 13:02: Balancing Work and Motherhood
    • 17:59: Being a Supportive and Nurturing Parent
    • 25:25: Navigating Pregnancy Loss and Grief
    • 28:18: The Intense Journey of Premature Birth
    • 36:28: Balancing Career and Motherhood
    • 43:29: Being Present in Your Children's Lives
    • 49:17: Having Fun and Creating Shared Experiences
    Join the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst

    Connect with Tu: Website: https://www.anz.com.au/personal/home-loans/get-started/mobile-lending/tu_dinh/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tu-dinh-75954736/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tu.c.dinh.9
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    54 mins
  • 11. Riding Through Life: Conscious Choices, Change, and the Power of Resilience with Sue Geelan

    11. Riding Through Life: Conscious Choices, Change, and the Power of Resilience with Sue Geelan
    Aug 25 2024
    In this episode, host Shaun Tucker interviews Sue Geelan, an expert in change, resilience, and connecting with people. Sue shares her personal journey of overcoming a tough childhood and finding her own path. She also discusses her love for sports motorcycle riding and how she took control of her own life by getting her own license. Sue emphasizes the importance of making conscious choices and accepting the consequences of those choices. She also talks about her work with couples and the need for new tools and strategies to improve relationships. Sue Geelan shares her wisdom and insights on parenting and relationships. She emphasizes the importance of giving children the freedom to make choices and take responsibility for their own lives. Sue believes that relationships should be based on mutual respect and support, and that both partners should have the opportunity to grow and develop. She encourages parents to have fun and enjoy their children, and to not lose their own identity in the process. Sue also discusses the impact she hopes to make through her counselling practice and the importance of seeking help and support when needed. Takeaways
    • Making conscious choices and accepting the consequences is key to personal growth and transformation.
    • To create change in our lives, we need to try new tools, strategies, and ways of thinking.
    • In relationships, it's important to have open discussions and continuously work on improving communication and understanding.
    • Separating emotions from logic can help us make better decisions and avoid being driven solely by our emotions. Give children the freedom to make choices and take responsibility for their own lives.
    • Relationships should be based on mutual respect and support.
    • Have fun and enjoy your children, while also maintaining your own identity.
    • Seek help and support when needed to improve and strengthen your relationships.
    Sound Bites
    • "I had to create my own beliefs and values so my kids could do the same."
    • "I like to be in control because of my early years when I wasn't in control."
    • "We always ask the question, what would you do in that situation? Here's what I think I would do in that situation."
    • "Here's mum with the words of wisdom."
    • "The pain is what pushes, the vision is what pulls."
    • "You're not what you think you are."
    Chapters
    00:00 Introduction and Sue's Background
    04:06 Taking Control: Sue's Journey into Motorcycle Riding
    07:54 The Impact of Sue's Childhood on Her Parenting
    11:08 Sue's Early Years and Overcoming Adversity
    13:29 Building a Strong Relationship with David
    16:22 The Importance of Conscious Choices and Accepting Consequences
    19:09 Separating Emotions from Logic in Decision-Making
    21:26 Creating Change Through New Tools and Strategies
    23:55 Improving Relationships Through Education and Awareness
    26:28 Applying Lessons Learned to Parenting and Grandparenting
    29:51 The Push of Pain and the Pull of Vision
    32:50 Discovering Your True Identity 36:06 Continuing Wisdom and Impact
    40:41 The Importance of Nurturing and Support
    46:27 Believing in Yourself and Others

    Join the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst

    Connect with Sue:
    Website https://metanao.com.au
    LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/suegeelan/
    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/metanao/
    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/suegeelan
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@metanao
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    56 mins
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