Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week (with an amazing re-air) with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, find her here! talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce.

First off, do you have the DCC???

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Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer:

-What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce?

-What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce?

-Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce?

-Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce?

-Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce?

-Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings?

-Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce?

-What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce?

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Let's talk about co parenting, shall we??

Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your co parenting journey and we are HUGE fans of what they do.

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How do you know if it's time to leave your marriage??​​

Is your marraige worth saving??

How the hell do you do that and who the hell is going to help you figure that out???

Ever wondered if you would benefit from Discernment Counseling? The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast to find out . Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. (hahahhaa)

Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage.

Dr. Doherty answers the questions:

1 What is discernment counseling?

2 Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage?

3 What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling?

4 How long is discernment counseling?

5 What are the three paths of discernment counseling?

6 How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling?

Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer).

You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at

http://www.discernmentcounseling.com

*Do you have our DCC?? If you're considering divorce, you should!!

https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

And don't forget about Our Family Wizard. It's our #1 app for coparents who are looking to not suck at this process! Check them out here:

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Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process.

Remember, you got this and we got you.

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How do you know when your marriage is over?

How do you know if it's just a phase or if something that was once there will never really come back?

Did you "try hard enough" to "save your marraige" and what does that even mean???

At what point can you confident that divorce is the right decision for you???

What we have learned in our professional careers as a family law attorney and hosting this podcast is that sometimes hearing other people's stories help you relate more to your own. So today, we are re airing an episode from the second season of our show which features someone's personal story about when they knew their marriage was offically over.

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And if you're ready to begin the divorce process, you NEED the DCC! It's our one of a kind, Divorce Crash Course. This course literally holds your hand through all of your major decisions. You'll avoid MAJOR mistakes and save up to THOUSANDS of dollars because you're getting advice from one the most sought after divorce attorneys in the country!! For $97, this course will change your life. And we mean that. Check it out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

We welcome guest and retired husband, Mike Draper, to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, (I'm sorry), I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike

As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you.

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If you need support with coparenting- or maybe you just want some extra insight into what coparenting will look for you- look no further than Our Family Wizard. You can get specialized information that WE created with OFW just for our listeners here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

And don't worry, we are back with fresh episodes in just a few weeks!!

If you haven't been living under a rock, you saw the movie: The Wolf of Wall Street.

Now you're going to hear about the real life experience of being married to infamous character in which the movie was written about.

You’re also going to hear find out the hell can you do so that you're not carrying around this weight and this storm cloud for the rest of your life.

To learn more about how YOU can work directly with Dr Nae (and we know you want to), check her out here: https://drnae.com/about-dr-nadine-macaluso/#

AND, grab her book, Run Like Hell here: https://drnae.com/run-like-hell-book/

So tune in as we chat with Dr. Nadine Macaluso, a clinical expert and ex-wife of the real-life Wolf of Wall Street, Jordan Belfort.

If you're in need of coparenting support- look no further than Our Family Wizard. We LOVE them. Head here for more information: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

And finally, if Dr Nae's story sound at all like yours...you NEED the Divorce Crash Course, get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Okay, let’s face it- if you’re listening to this podcast you know that (& if you’re a new listener you will soon find out) community, and support during divorce, is SO IMPORTANT.

When you can't decide whether you need to scream in your car/bathroom/ or random aisle at Target, you need to know who you can turn to who will comfort you, make you laugh, and remind you that this horrible phase that you're in will not be your forever.

Today on the show we’re talking to our good friend, and dad of three: Rob Roseman. Rob is also the founder of WTF Divorce. We adore Rob and on this episode he shares his journey of realizing the significance of finding support through online communities after going through a divorce of his own.

In this episode, we talk:

-Challenges of isolation

-Benefits of relatable humor

-Critical advice for engaging with credentialed professionals

-Rob's book "WTF Divorce" and all of the joy it can bring to your life!! Check out the book here: amazon link!

Follow Rob on IG- 139K already do!! http://www.instagram.com/wtfdivorce

Listen to this episode to learn how community helps make a difficult process more bearable and even bring some much-needed laughter into your life!

If you're starting your divorce process, you NEED the DCC, check that out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey! Visit our special landing page for them to learn more about why are one of the MUST HAVES for your divorce. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

We know - it sounds pretty daunting and impossible. This episode is full of actionable steps for you to take.

In this episode, we chat again with forensic psychotherapist guest, Micaela Van Dine https://mvdpsychotherapy.com/, about how to prepare to leave your abusive marriage.

You're going to hear about:

-Setting a timeline for leaving (we know- sounds impossible)

-Understanding your/your spouse's financial situation

-Securing sentimental belongings

-Safely exiting the marriage

-Making sure you're doing things "by the law" in your state

-Be SUPER mindful of the kids

Our Divorce Crash Course was help you out here- BIG TIME- please, go check it out. It's $97 and will give you an actionable plan that will help save THOUSANDS and avoid major mistakes. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Friends, you can reach out to Micaela directly on her website if you want her consulting advice.

As always it’s recommended to consult with legal professionals and therapists specific to the listener's jurisdiction to ensure appropriate and personalized advice.

If you need support in finding someone in your area, shoot us over an email at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.com

Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

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This episode is your high conflict divorce survival guide.

We are going to cover the steps you should take to help maintain your sanity and stamina needed to survive high conflict divorce process.

On this episode, we talk with forensic psychotherapist, Micaela Van Dine, https://mvdpsychotherapy.com , who shares her professional insights and personal experiences related to high-conflict divorces in the courtroom.

Do you have our Divorce Crash Course?? If you are navigating a high conflict divorce, this crash course will potentially help you save THOUSANDS of dollars. Find it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

As ALWAYS, this episode offers several action steps and practical advice, like:

-Maintaining silence amid provocation

-Building a support system

-Choosing the right legal and mental health professionals to guide you through the difficult process

One of the most helpful tools available to you is Our Family Wizard. Used in many high conflict cases, Our Family Wizard is our top recommendation for organizing communication between coparents. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck

And don't forget about Soberlink! Soberlink to our go-to tool for those who suspect an alcohol issue during parenting times. Visit: http://www.soberlink.com/not to receive $50 off your device.

Hit play & feel a little less alone!

Please reach out to us should you want more support!

Listen to this episode BEFORE you go into mediation.

It IS possible to have a positive outcome from mediation, even if you feel like your soon to be ex spouse agree on NOTHING.

And before we get into the nitty gritty: Do you have our Divorce Crash Course?

It literally holds your hand through ALL major divorce decisions!

Get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

Here are 3 EXPERT tips, (from a mediator herself- Joy Rosenthal-https://www.joyrosenthal.com/), to help you reframe your mind before entering mediation:

1) You don't have to RESPECT your soon to be ex, but you still need to have some DIGNITY for them. In other words, treat them like a human who also has wants and needs (even if their wants and needs are questionable and they're acting like a total tool)

2)Start to think of the problem as something that's outside of you and your soon to be ex. Meaning, the issue is "who gets the kids this Christmas?" or "who gets the lake house?" or "who's going to get the collection of ketchup bottles?" (yes, that was an actual issue for one of Morgan's cases). The issue is not about YOU, and it's not about you soon to be ex, it's simply a "problem" that needs to be "solved".

3)Think about why you want what you say you want. This one is kinda about checking ego, and also just gaining some perspective on the situation.

It's important to keep in mind that everyone loses something in a divorce. You're not gonna come of this thing with EVERYTHING you want, it just doesn't work like that.

In fact, the old divorce joke goes, "if both parties are unhappy and feel they got cheated, then the attorneys did their job" I (Andrea) HATE that joke and it makes me want to scream, but that's the way it goes!

And remember, mediation, divorce- all of this mess-is just going to be ONE event that happened in your life. It's not your life, you have a lot more life to live when this is all behind you.

Our Family Wizard is here to help you though your coparenting journey. Learn more about them here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck