Discovering a work-life balance can be challenging, especially if throughout childhood you were never taught to prioritize yourself or how to set boundaries. In this week’s episode, we talk about how behaviors and trauma responses we picked up throughout childhood can manifest themselves in the workplace.

0:00 Intro

1:16 Path Design

5:18 Ralph Waldo Emerson

5:55 College Drop-Out

8:40 The Studio

16:18 Self-Neglect

23:58 Boundaries

25:52 Burnout

32: 21 My Question to You

I’m answering your questions! In this week’s episode, we address the importance of learning to acknowledge your emotions, guilt, and generational trauma. We also take steps in understanding how to reclaim our identity and sense of self.

0:39 Q1 - Learning to Acknowledge Your Emotions

3:52 Q2 - Sending A Letter

9:40 Q3 - Guilt

14:15 Q4 - Identity

19:30 Q5 - Anger and Resentment

29:20 Q6 - Generational Trauma

Change can be scary. Learning to welcome change can be a challenge, especially for those of us who lacked stability throughout childhood, and subsequently gravitate towards stability and predicatbility in adulthood. In this week’s episode, we start to understand why we sometimes resist change and how we can learn to let go.

0:00 Why is Change Scary?

5:11 Permanance of Opinions

6:49 Life Changes

15:07 Turning Your Power Inward

20:06 Radical Self-Acceptance

23:47 Welcoming Change

26:09 What if it Turns Out Better?

Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and abuse is no small task, and can be made even more difficult with the loss of your support system, intentional efforts to isolate you, smear campaigns and love-bombing. We get into all of it in this week’s episode of It’s Not Normal.

0:00 The Journey of Getting There

3:29 Perspective Outside of the Closed Family System

12:14 Stepping Into the Unknown

14:55 Losing Your Support System

17:56 Smear Campaign and Love-Bombing

27:38 Family Functions

33:34 Learning to Sit with Discomfort

In this week’s episode, we talk about how, as you get older and start to tap into your individuality, your parents’ unhealthy behavior might intensify as you become harder to manipulate. These behaviors can be dehumanizing and challenging to navigate as we start to recognize them.

0:00 Intro

1:11 Intensifying Behavior As You Get Older

17:28 Dehumanizing

18:27 Learning From Our Mistakes

21:18 Craving Closure

25:01 Uncomfortable Conversations

27:48 My Feelings Matter

33:25 Weaponizing Vulnerabilities

If you’re like me, you might find it challenging to refrain from explaining yourself, especially in light of controversy or disagreement. In this week’s episode we address the question, “why do we overshare?” in an attempt to better understand the behavior, what it is and where it comes from, so we can learn to let go of the discomfort that comes with disagreement and the fear of being misunderstood.

0:00 Episode 30!!

0:29 Disagreement and Disconnection

8:13 Emotional Neglect

9:59 Intentional Misunderstanding

13:28 Navigating a Minefield

15:41 Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn

18:54 Fawning and Oversharing

I learned about separation anxiety for the first time in my early twenties. The more I researched, the more I started to realize that this behavior was just a glimpse into what I had experienced throughout my childhood. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about anxious attachment and fear of abandonment, what they are, how they’re connected and my experience with them.

0:00 About Attachment

4:58 Connection Through Self-Sacrifice

9:27 Tracing It Back

14:36 Triangulation

19:00 Fear of Abandonment

35:02 Things That Can Help