Episodes

  • The Space Between Who You Were and Who You're Becoming

    The Space Between Who You Were and Who You're Becoming
    Apr 8 2026

    Feeling lost can be one of the most unsettling experiences—but what if it's actually a sign that something is shifting for the better?

    In this episode, we break down the three most common reasons we feel lost—leaving toxic relationships, navigating major life transitions, and stepping into a new identity. Jill shares personal stories, practical tools, and powerful reframes to help you understand the "fog" phase, regulate your nervous system, and take aligned steps forward—even when you can't see the full path.

    If you've been questioning everything, this episode will remind you: you're not lost — you're becoming.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    • Don't rush clarity.
    • Focus on the next step—not the whole path
    • Regulate your nervous system
    • Get curious instead of judgmental

    BEST MOMENTS

    The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams. –Oprah

    If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. –Maya Angelou

    You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both. –Brené Brown

    And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. –Anaïs Nin

    You're story doesn't end where your comfort zone begins – it truly starts at the edge of what you think is possible. –Michelle Obama

    VALUABLE RESOURCES

    If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

    EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

    Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

    https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

    ABOUT THE HOST

    Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

    Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

    Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

    CONNECT & CONTACT

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

    IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

    Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    51 mins
  • Why You Don't Feel Like Yourself Anymore

    Why You Don't Feel Like Yourself Anymore
    Mar 25 2026
    In this episode, we're talking about something that so many women experience—but don't always have the words for: what it feels like to slowly (or sometimes quickly) lose your sense of self in a narcissistic or toxic relationship. From gaslighting and love bombing to isolation, control, and the silent treatment, these patterns aren't random—they're strategic. And over time, they can disconnect you from your intuition, your voice, and your identity. We'll break down how these dynamics impact not just your emotions, but your brain and nervous system—keeping you stuck in survival mode, where clarity, confidence, and self-trust become harder and harder to access. If you've ever found yourself second-guessing everything, walking on eggshells, or wondering, "Who even am I right now?"—this episode will help you understand why. Here's the shift: you didn't lose yourself because something is wrong with you—you adapted to survive. And now, you get to choose something different. We'll talk about what healthy relationships actually look like, how to recognize green flags, and how to begin reconnecting with who you are—so you can choose relationships that don't require you to disappear. KEY TAKEAWAYS Green Flags: Mutual respect Trust Honesty Compromise Individuality Good communication Anger control Fighting fair Problem solving Understanding Self-confidence Being a role model Healthy sexual relationship Support Fairness and equality Safety Conflict resolution BEST MOMENTS There is nothing stronger than a broken woman who has rebuilt herself. — Hannah Gadsby Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we'll ever do. — Brené Brown You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. — Sharon Salzberg The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any. — Alice Walker Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. — Carol Dweck VALUABLE RESOURCES If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence. EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving: https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site ABOUT THE HOST Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving! Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all. CONNECT & CONTACT TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    31 mins
  • The Stories Your Brain Tells—and How to Change Them

    The Stories Your Brain Tells—and How to Change Them
    Mar 11 2026
    In this episode, we explore the powerful idea that what you tell your brain, it believes. The thoughts we repeat—often without even noticing—can shape how we see ourselves, our abilities, and our lives. We'll talk about the "little gremlin" voice that many of us carry in our heads and how those messages often originate from past experiences, other people, or old beliefs that no longer serve us. More importantly, we'll walk through practical ways to interrupt those thoughts, blunt their impact, and begin replacing them with something more helpful and empowering. We'll also explore an important truth: sometimes what we tell our brain is out of sync with what our body already knows. Your nervous system often recognizes patterns of safety or danger long before your logical mind is ready to acknowledge them. Learning to notice those signals, quiet the gremlins, and reconnect what your brain and body are telling you can open the door to clarity, better choices, and a life that feels more aligned with who you really are. KEY TAKEAWAYS Acknowledge the thought Blunt the thought Distract yourself, or energetically block, the thought Let the thought go – or change the thought See your life change!! BEST MOMENTS You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. – Louise Hay Turn your wounds into wisdom. – Oprah Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love. – Brené Brown Your biography becomes your biology. – Caroline Myss Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. – Marianne Williamson VALUABLE RESOURCES If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence. EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving: https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site ABOUT THE HOST Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving! Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all. CONNECT & CONTACT TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    36 mins
  • When Your Nervous System Takes Over (And How to Take It Back)

    When Your Nervous System Takes Over (And How to Take It Back)
    Feb 25 2026
    In this episode, we're breaking down what's really happening in your body during stress and trauma — and why your reactions make sense. From fight and flight to freeze, fawn, and even flop, you'll learn how your nervous system automatically responds to perceived danger — and why those responses are not weaknesses, but survival mechanisms designed to protect you. We'll talk about what happens when you've been stuck in survival mode for too long — especially in toxic or high-stress relationships — and how that impacts your ability to think clearly, plan, and feel grounded. You'll also walk away with practical, research-backed tools to regulate your nervous system in the moment, including breathing techniques, grounding exercises, vagus nerve stimulation, and longer-term rewiring strategies. If you've ever wondered why you reacted the way you did… or carried shame for not "handling it differently"… this episode will help you understand your body, calm your system, and move one step closer to thriving. You survived for a reason — and now you get to learn how to thrive. KEY TAKEAWAYS Quick ways to settle your nervous system: Breathing: regulate your breathing through control breaths. Boxed breathing or 4-7-8 can work. Consciously lowers your heart rate. Grounding techniques: try the 5-4-3-2-1 method – 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste. This moves you out of a panic or freeze state. Vagus nerve: for an immediate shift – splash cold water on your face, gargle water, or hum – they all trigger your calming response. Butterfly hug: cross your arms over your chest and alternately tap your shoulders. This will help you to feel more secure and grounded. BEST MOMENTS Your body will never forget how someone made your nervous system feel. –Unknown The nervous system holds the key to the body's incredible potential to heal itself. –Jay Holder A healthy nervous system is not always calm. It is flexible and resilient. –Jessica Maguire If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer. –Stephen Porges VALUABLE RESOURCES If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence. EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving: https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site ABOUT THE HOST Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving! Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all. CONNECT & CONTACT TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    47 mins
  • Hope Isn't Optimism — It's a Practice

    Hope Isn't Optimism — It's a Practice
    Feb 12 2026

    In this episode, we're talking about hope — what it really is, why it matters, and how to strengthen it in your everyday life.

    Drawing from Hope Rising by Chan Hellman and Casey Gwinn, this episode breaks down the three elements of hope — goals, pathways (waypower), and agency (willpower) — and explores how hope is not just optimism, but a practice. A choice. A protective factor that can transform your mental health, relationships, work, and overall well-being.

    You'll hear a personal story and receive practical encouragement for how to build your own hope levels — even when circumstances haven't changed yet. Because hope isn't about pretending life is easy. It's about saying, "This is hard… and I'm still here."

    If you've been feeling tired, discouraged, or in transition, this episode will remind you that hope doesn't have to be loud to be powerful — and sometimes, letting hope be enough for today is more than enough. 💜❤️

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    • Goals
    • Waypower and Pathways
    • Willpower and Agency

    BEST MOMENTS

    You can get there from here. –Rick Snyder

    Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all the darkness. –Bishop Desmond Tutu

    Hope is something we create. –Naomi Drew

    It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. –Frederick Douglass

    VALUABLE RESOURCES

    If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

    EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

    Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

    https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

    ABOUT THE HOST

    Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

    Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

    Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

    CONNECT & CONTACT

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

    IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

    Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    37 mins
  • What No One Tells You About Leaving a Toxic Relationship

    What No One Tells You About Leaving a Toxic Relationship
    Jan 28 2026

    Leaving a toxic or narcissistic relationship is often seen as the finish line — but for many, it's only the beginning.

    This episode explores why just leaving isn't the end of abuse, and how power and control can continue after separation through legal systems, finances, communication, and parenting. It also looks at how instinctive survival strategies like disengagement and gray rocking often appear long before there's language to describe them.

    You'll learn why confusion and self-doubt after leaving are normal, how to recognize common forms of post-separation abuse, and what practical steps can help protect your peace and rebuild confidence.

    Whether you're still in the relationship, preparing to leave, or healing after separation, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and grounded tools for moving forward — one step at a time.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    • Disengage
    • Document
    • Be Kind to Yourself

    BEST MOMENTS

    You learn more about someone at the end of a relationship than you do at the beginning. –Unknown

    In a nutshell, a breakup is nothing short of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to have a complete spiritual awakening. One that catapults you to a whole new level of authenticity, compassion, wisdom, depth, and – dare I say it? – even joy. –Katherine Woodward Thomas

    Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair

    A woman with a voice is, by definition, a strong woman. –Melinda Gates

    VALUABLE RESOURCES

    If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

    EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

    Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

    https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

    ABOUT THE HOST

    Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

    Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

    Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

    CONNECT & CONTACT

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

    IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

    Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    36 mins
  • From Transition to Intention: Designing Your Life with Clarity

    From Transition to Intention: Designing Your Life with Clarity
    Jan 14 2026
    Welcome to Season Four of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving. As 2026 begins, Jill explores what it really means to create your "best year ever," especially when you're moving through a transition you didn't choose. After leaving her job unwillingly in late 2025, she shares honestly about slowing down, processing change, and learning to lean in rather than resist — and reminds listeners that if you're in transition too, you're not alone. This episode focuses on intention, identity, and choice. Jill introduces her word for the year — ease — and challenges the belief that everything worth having must come through struggle. She offers reflective questions to help you clarify what you want, who you're becoming, and how small shifts in habits and identity can create meaningful change. You'll also hear practical guidance for anyone healing from toxic or narcissistic relationships, where reconnecting with your wants can take time. Jill shares gentle, actionable ways to rebuild clarity and self-trust without perfectionism or pressure. KEY TAKEAWAYS Ask yourself these questions: What do I want? Who will I be this year? Who am I becoming? Who do I want to become? BEST MOMENTS Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right. –Oprah Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman. –Maya Angelou You can get excited about the future. The past won't mind. –Hillary Depiano We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives, not looking for flaws, but for potential. –Ellen Goodman VALUABLE RESOURCES If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence. EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving: https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site ABOUT THE HOST Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving! Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all. CONNECT & CONTACT TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    32 mins
  • Gratitude: the Small Practice that Changes Everything

    Gratitude: the Small Practice that Changes Everything
    Dec 25 2025
    Gratitude can sound simple — even cliché — but when it's practiced genuinely (not as forced positivity), it can be one of the most powerful tools for healing, regulation, and long-term mindset change. In this episode, you'll hear why gratitude isn't about minimizing pain, pretending things are fine, or bypassing hard emotions — it's about restoring agency, calming your nervous system, and creating space for real change. I share my own journey from lifelong pessimist to daily gratitude practice, practical ways to build the habit without pressure, and the research-backed mental, emotional, physical, and relational benefits of gratitude — especially after difficult relationships. If you're looking for a simple, doable practice that creates a powerful ripple effect in your life, this episode is for you. KEY TAKEAWAYS Reduces stress and anxiety Interrupts rumination Builds emotional resilience Improves mood and lowers rates of depression over time Creates perspective without minimizing pain Improves sleep quality Lowers cortisol – reducing chronic stress load Supports immune function and overall physical well-being Restores agency Rebuilds trust in yourself Separates the present from the past Strengthens healthy relationships Sharpens discernment Reduces tolerance for toxicity because your baseline for "good" rises BEST MOMENTS Good days aren't found. They're created through gratitude. –unknown Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. –Melody Beattie As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. –John F. Kennedy The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get. –Oprah VALUABLE RESOURCES If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence. EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving: https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site ABOUT THE HOST Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward. Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving! Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all. CONNECT & CONTACT TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg Email: info@locatecoaching.com
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    15 mins